Guest guest Posted May 22, 2004 Report Share Posted May 22, 2004 Now that I think about it -- Nada would have made a terrible nurse! She was filled with fears, and was always a nervous wreck! NOT nurse material. I think she was afraid that the doctor would punish her or abandon her if she didn't follow his orders! It was this fear of being punished that led her to be able to care for her kids -- without the fear it wouldn't have been done. Also, like I said, for her, when her kids were docile, it was like having a doll -- or a manican -- her favorite thing! No real communication -- just treating an object and following rules -- with lots of quiet time for her to do her own thing while her sick child slept all day to recover. The perfect life for Nada! Now I can see why some of these Nada's make their kids sick on purpose -- so they can get that " baby doll " that doesn't really communicate with them. Yuck! Barb T. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2004 Report Share Posted May 31, 2004 I noticed the 'doll' response w/my nada back in March and my first son/baby. She didn't seem to know how to communicate w/him on his level, which is not all too abnormal b/c most adults don't seem to understand the mind of babies and children, but she didn't seem to grasp the concept that he was a human being and not some little alien that was going to grow into an adult human being some day. It is almost like she and some other people who are abusive, not that I know they are bps too, think that children have no memories and therefore anything done to them when they are little will be forgotten some day. I can't say I understand this concept at all...perhaps b/c I've got an elephant's memory, but I did notice that much more so than normal this past time- that she seems to treat him like a babydoll rather than a human being. It was and is vastly different than even my not-so-kid-friendly friends seem to relate to my son (they tend to treat him older than the 8mos he is- like a kid of 5 or 6 when communicating, which is fine w/me but just obvious about the lack of exposure to little ones). My nada would not have made a good nurse though she was pretty good w/my brother when he was in the hospital. However, the whole trauma set her off on the PTSD theme and she wasn't at all good over the long haul of recouperation. She is good in the immediate emergency as she acts semi-normal, but long term nursing/nurturing is not something that comes natural as that would require giving of a self that is frail at best. K > Now that I think about it -- Nada would have made a terrible nurse! > > She was filled with fears, and was always a nervous wreck! > > NOT nurse material. > > I think she was afraid that the doctor would punish her or abandon her if she > didn't follow his orders! It was this fear of being punished that led her to > be able to care for her kids -- without the fear it wouldn't have been done. > > Also, like I said, for her, when her kids were docile, it was like having a > doll -- or a manican -- her favorite thing! No real communication - - just > treating an object and following rules -- with lots of quiet time for her to > do her own thing while her sick child slept all day to recover. > > The perfect life for Nada! > > Now I can see why some of these Nada's make their kids sick on purpose -- so > they can get that " baby doll " that doesn't really communicate with them. > > Yuck! > > Barb T. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2004 Report Share Posted May 31, 2004 I noticed the 'doll' response w/my nada back in March and my first son/baby. She didn't seem to know how to communicate w/him on his level, which is not all too abnormal b/c most adults don't seem to understand the mind of babies and children, but she didn't seem to grasp the concept that he was a human being and not some little alien that was going to grow into an adult human being some day. It is almost like she and some other people who are abusive, not that I know they are bps too, think that children have no memories and therefore anything done to them when they are little will be forgotten some day. I can't say I understand this concept at all...perhaps b/c I've got an elephant's memory, but I did notice that much more so than normal this past time- that she seems to treat him like a babydoll rather than a human being. It was and is vastly different than even my not-so-kid-friendly friends seem to relate to my son (they tend to treat him older than the 8mos he is- like a kid of 5 or 6 when communicating, which is fine w/me but just obvious about the lack of exposure to little ones). My nada would not have made a good nurse though she was pretty good w/my brother when he was in the hospital. However, the whole trauma set her off on the PTSD theme and she wasn't at all good over the long haul of recouperation. She is good in the immediate emergency as she acts semi-normal, but long term nursing/nurturing is not something that comes natural as that would require giving of a self that is frail at best. K > Now that I think about it -- Nada would have made a terrible nurse! > > She was filled with fears, and was always a nervous wreck! > > NOT nurse material. > > I think she was afraid that the doctor would punish her or abandon her if she > didn't follow his orders! It was this fear of being punished that led her to > be able to care for her kids -- without the fear it wouldn't have been done. > > Also, like I said, for her, when her kids were docile, it was like having a > doll -- or a manican -- her favorite thing! No real communication - - just > treating an object and following rules -- with lots of quiet time for her to > do her own thing while her sick child slept all day to recover. > > The perfect life for Nada! > > Now I can see why some of these Nada's make their kids sick on purpose -- so > they can get that " baby doll " that doesn't really communicate with them. > > Yuck! > > Barb T. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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