Re: Nada clichés-things my mother told me variation

[Guest guest]

And one more favorite Nada quote-not really a cliche- stolen from the

movie/play " A Lion in Winter " ... " if I were on fire no one'd piss on

me to put me out! " Then my brother would always roll his eyes and

whisper, " She stole that from 'A Lion in Winter.' What an idiot. "

This is good. I am sitting here smiling for a change

;

> I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep coming

> back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank you. "

> Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> various coldhearted verbal responses, she always says, " Actions

speak

> louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is usually

> coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your talk? "

> Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another top

10

> all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out of her

> mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one of her

> rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she says, " Always

the

> actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my drama on

> the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start to

> screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

pleasure

> out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some choice I

> had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that just

> doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So, I

> said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

should

> have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just needed

to

> find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite ridiculous

Nada

> clichés out there?

>

> Blessings,

>

[Guest guest]

And one more favorite Nada quote-not really a cliche- stolen from the

movie/play " A Lion in Winter " ... " if I were on fire no one'd piss on

me to put me out! " Then my brother would always roll his eyes and

whisper, " She stole that from 'A Lion in Winter.' What an idiot. "

This is good. I am sitting here smiling for a change

;

> I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep coming

> back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank you. "

> Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> various coldhearted verbal responses, she always says, " Actions

speak

> louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is usually

> coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your talk? "

> Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another top

10

> all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out of her

> mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one of her

> rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she says, " Always

the

> actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my drama on

> the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start to

> screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

pleasure

> out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some choice I

> had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that just

> doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So, I

> said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

should

> have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just needed

to

> find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite ridiculous

Nada

> clichés out there?

>

> Blessings,

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

And thanks to everyone for the happy birthdays! They meant a lot to

me. Here is my nada's cliche:

That's the pot calling the kettle black!

She would say this over and over again throughout my childhood. As I

write this to all of you, I understand, that was projection in action!

Love

Charlotte

> I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep coming

> back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank you. "

> Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> various coldhearted verbal responses, she always says, " Actions

speak

> louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is usually

> coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your talk? "

> Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another top

10

> all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out of her

> mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one of her

> rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she says, " Always

the

> actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my drama on

> the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start to

> screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

pleasure

> out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some choice I

> had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that just

> doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So, I

> said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

should

> have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just needed

to

> find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite ridiculous

Nada

> clichés out there?

>

> Blessings,

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Charlotte,

My Nada loved that one too, and also, whenever she would be utterly

annoying and awful and complain about service(in a store, resturant,

school, anyplace)---after we left she would always say, " the squeaky

wheel get gets the oil! " Her voice is like a quacking duck! Quack,

quack, quack, the squeaky wheel quack, quack, quack... " UGH!

> > I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> > reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep coming

> > back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> > When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank

you. "

> > Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> > various coldhearted verbal responses, she always says, " Actions

> speak

> > louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is

usually

> > coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your

talk? "

> > Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another top

> 10

> > all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out of

her

> > mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one of

her

> > rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she says, " Always

> the

> > actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my drama

on

> > the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start to

> > screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

> pleasure

> > out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some choice

I

> > had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that just

> > doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So, I

> > said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

> should

> > have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just

needed

> to

> > find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite ridiculous

> Nada

> > clichés out there?

> >

> > Blessings,

> >

[Guest guest]

Hey Charlotte,

My Nada loved that one too, and also, whenever she would be utterly

annoying and awful and complain about service(in a store, resturant,

school, anyplace)---after we left she would always say, " the squeaky

wheel get gets the oil! " Her voice is like a quacking duck! Quack,

quack, quack, the squeaky wheel quack, quack, quack... " UGH!

> > I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> > reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep coming

> > back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> > When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank

you. "

> > Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> > various coldhearted verbal responses, she always says, " Actions

> speak

> > louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is

usually

> > coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your

talk? "

> > Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another top

> 10

> > all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out of

her

> > mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one of

her

> > rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she says, " Always

> the

> > actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my drama

on

> > the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start to

> > screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

> pleasure

> > out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some choice

I

> > had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that just

> > doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So, I

> > said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

> should

> > have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just

needed

> to

> > find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite ridiculous

> Nada

> > clichés out there?

> >

> > Blessings,

> >

[Guest guest]

My mom never spat cliches at us. I am glad about that! I do recognize

the humor too when i can though. It is the only way to survive it

sometimes. We offspring sometimes try to gauge her responses in

advance and laugh about them. Of course, we don't share things with

her unless absolutely unavoidable. It is still fun for us to wonder

what she would say or do. Sometimes.

Once my husband and I took her to a restaurant. She was upset with the

way they packed up the remains of our lunch to go (they did do it

wrong -- they put all from my plate and hers in one meal box). Her

reaction was way out of bounds embarrassing. She screamed. It was

horrifying at the time, but now I can't help laughing. I think my

laughter could easily turn to tears right now.

Bartnazor

> Hey Charlotte,

>

> My Nada loved that one too, and also, whenever she would be utterly

> annoying and awful and complain about service(in a store, resturant,

> school, anyplace)---after we left she would always say, " the squeaky

> wheel get gets the oil! " Her voice is like a quacking duck! Quack,

> quack, quack, the squeaky wheel quack, quack, quack... " UGH!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

A favorite of my nada was always 'you can dish it out, but you can't

take it.' What an absurd statement from one's parent, huh?

Oh yes, " life's not fair " when I'd say 'but mom, that's not fair.' I

think it really hit home w/understanding when I watched " Mommy

Dearest " and Joan said the same thing to . I didn't feel so

bad anymore- like I could continue down my journey of trying to make

life fair rather than giving in to these Kooks!

K

> > > I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> > > reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep

coming

> > > back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> > > When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank

> you. "

> > > Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> > > various coldhearted verbal responses, she always

says, " Actions

> > speak

> > > louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is

> usually

> > > coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your

> talk? "

> > > Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another

top

> > 10

> > > all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out

of

> her

> > > mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one

of

> her

> > > rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she

says, " Always

> > the

> > > actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my

drama

> on

> > > the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start

to

> > > screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

> > pleasure

> > > out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some

choice

> I

> > > had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that

just

> > > doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So,

I

> > > said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

> > should

> > > have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just

> needed

> > to

> > > find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite

ridiculous

> > Nada

> > > clichés out there?

> > >

> > > Blessings,

> > >

[Guest guest]

A favorite of my nada was always 'you can dish it out, but you can't

take it.' What an absurd statement from one's parent, huh?

Oh yes, " life's not fair " when I'd say 'but mom, that's not fair.' I

think it really hit home w/understanding when I watched " Mommy

Dearest " and Joan said the same thing to . I didn't feel so

bad anymore- like I could continue down my journey of trying to make

life fair rather than giving in to these Kooks!

K

> > > I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> > > reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep

coming

> > > back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> > > When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank

> you. "

> > > Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> > > various coldhearted verbal responses, she always

says, " Actions

> > speak

> > > louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is

> usually

> > > coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your

> talk? "

> > > Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another

top

> > 10

> > > all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out

of

> her

> > > mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one

of

> her

> > > rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she

says, " Always

> > the

> > > actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my

drama

> on

> > > the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start

to

> > > screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

> > pleasure

> > > out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some

choice

> I

> > > had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that

just

> > > doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So,

I

> > > said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

> > should

> > > have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just

> needed

> > to

> > > find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite

ridiculous

> > Nada

> > > clichés out there?

> > >

> > > Blessings,

> > >

[Guest guest]

I have watched this conversation with lots of interest. While my BP mom

never used cliché's my step-adopted dad did. His usual one was " one day you

are going to let your mouth overload your ass, then you will have no one to

blame because you make your bed & you have to lay in it. I understood what

he said so well, that I made sure that my bed was well made every morning

before I left the house.

Debbie

Re: Nada clichés-things my mother told me variation

A favorite of my nada was always 'you can dish it out, but you can't

take it.' What an absurd statement from one's parent, huh?

Oh yes, " life's not fair " when I'd say 'but mom, that's not fair.' I

think it really hit home w/understanding when I watched " Mommy

Dearest " and Joan said the same thing to . I didn't feel so

bad anymore- like I could continue down my journey of trying to make

life fair rather than giving in to these Kooks!

K

> > > I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> > > reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep

coming

> > > back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> > > When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank

> you. "

> > > Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> > > various coldhearted verbal responses, she always

says, " Actions

> > speak

> > > louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is

> usually

> > > coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your

> talk? "

> > > Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another

top

> > 10

> > > all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out

of

> her

> > > mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one

of

> her

> > > rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she

says, " Always

> > the

> > > actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my

drama

> on

> > > the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start

to

> > > screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

> > pleasure

> > > out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some

choice

> I

> > > had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that

just

> > > doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So,

I

> > > said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

> > should

> > > have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just

> needed

> > to

> > > find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite

ridiculous

> > Nada

> > > clichés out there?

> > >

> > > Blessings,

> > >

Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner

" Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via

1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to:

http://www.BPDCentral.com

[Guest guest]

I have watched this conversation with lots of interest. While my BP mom

never used cliché's my step-adopted dad did. His usual one was " one day you

are going to let your mouth overload your ass, then you will have no one to

blame because you make your bed & you have to lay in it. I understood what

he said so well, that I made sure that my bed was well made every morning

before I left the house.

Debbie

Re: Nada clichés-things my mother told me variation

A favorite of my nada was always 'you can dish it out, but you can't

take it.' What an absurd statement from one's parent, huh?

Oh yes, " life's not fair " when I'd say 'but mom, that's not fair.' I

think it really hit home w/understanding when I watched " Mommy

Dearest " and Joan said the same thing to . I didn't feel so

bad anymore- like I could continue down my journey of trying to make

life fair rather than giving in to these Kooks!

K

> > > I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> > > reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep

coming

> > > back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

> > > When I told Nada that I love her she always replied, " Thank

> you. "

> > > Whenever I have mentioned this lack of affection or any of her

> > > various coldhearted verbal responses, she always

says, " Actions

> > speak

> > > louder than words. Words don't mean anything. " This one is

> usually

> > > coupled with, " You can talk the talk, but can you walk your

> talk? "

> > > Gross. I always think, " EXACTLY, my point EXACTLY. " Another

top

> > 10

> > > all time favorite that just slays me every time it comes out

of

> her

> > > mouth (usually when I finally react with some emotion to one

of

> her

> > > rage attacks, I mean if I even raise my voice), she

says, " Always

> > the

> > > actress. Well, thank you very much, but I like to keep my

drama

> on

> > > the stage! " Sometimes when she really gets going she'll start

to

> > > screw up her clichés, and I have to confess that I get some

> > pleasure

> > > out of correcting her. One time she ranting on about some

choice

> I

> > > had made that was not HERS and she kept saying, " Sorry, that

just

> > > doesn't ROW my boat, no that doesn't ROW my boat at all! " So,

I

> > > said, " It's float---not row, it doesn't float your boat. " You

> > should

> > > have seen her face, she was boiling. Sorry, I guess I just

> needed

> > to

> > > find a little humor in all this. Any other favorite

ridiculous

> > Nada

> > > clichés out there?

> > >

> > > Blessings,

> > >

Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner

" Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via

1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to:

http://www.BPDCentral.com

[Guest guest]

> > > I was wondering if any of you guys were raised on clichés. In

> > > reflecting on things my Nada said to me growing up, I keep

coming

> > > back to a bunch of stupid clichés.

Nada wrote me a letter that was only cliches, 3 pages of them.