Guest guest Posted March 18, 2004 Report Share Posted March 18, 2004 wrote: >...i remind myself constantly that this is my life, not a dress rehearsal. as far as i know, this is the only one i have, so i'd better make the best of it. << Hello , Welcome to the group - I hope you find it as helpful as I have. I love what you said about life not being a dress rehersal...that's something I really have to work on myself. Since I wrecked my back last year (Feb.8th/03, I stood up in the bath and put my back out, and have never recovered), I have been doing nothing but waiting - waiting to see specialists, waiting for tests, waiting most of all to get better. Well more than a year has passed and, if anything, I'm worse rather than better. So somehow I have to learn how to accept the " new me " - the partially disabled me. I'm having a lot of difficulty with this! Anyway glad to have you here! This is a great place to vent, ask for advice, and seek comfort. Di in Vancouver, B.C., Canada Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2004 Report Share Posted March 18, 2004 wrote: >...i remind myself constantly that this is my life, not a dress rehearsal. as far as i know, this is the only one i have, so i'd better make the best of it. << Hello , Welcome to the group - I hope you find it as helpful as I have. I love what you said about life not being a dress rehersal...that's something I really have to work on myself. Since I wrecked my back last year (Feb.8th/03, I stood up in the bath and put my back out, and have never recovered), I have been doing nothing but waiting - waiting to see specialists, waiting for tests, waiting most of all to get better. Well more than a year has passed and, if anything, I'm worse rather than better. So somehow I have to learn how to accept the " new me " - the partially disabled me. I'm having a lot of difficulty with this! Anyway glad to have you here! This is a great place to vent, ask for advice, and seek comfort. Di in Vancouver, B.C., Canada Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2004 Report Share Posted March 18, 2004 hi and welcome. i also have osto and have been disabled too i can complety understand again welcome wrote: > can't use upper case letters, so i hope that no one has trouble > reading this. my name is brandy, and i am 59 years old and live in charlotte, > north carolina. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2004 Report Share Posted March 18, 2004 hi and welcome. i also have osto and have been disabled too i can complety understand again welcome wrote: > can't use upper case letters, so i hope that no one has trouble > reading this. my name is brandy, and i am 59 years old and live in charlotte, > north carolina. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2005 Report Share Posted April 18, 2005 Trying to figure out if my ex is a Narcissist or a Borderline. He's in the midst of a nasty custody battle with his wife; a woman he says he never loved eventhough they have 3 beautiful children together. He has his friends, family and the church on his side. He's hired lawyers to nuke the wife and make her look like a looney, psychotic bitch, but deep down inside, I think he drove her madly insane with his cheating. Eventhough she tried to kidnap the kids and flee out of state, I believe she still loves him deeply. I met this guy thru an on-line dating site and he became the guitarist in my band, then we slowly started a love affair. But I'm unhappy in the relationship because there's not enough room for me, with a vindictive, angry wife and 3 children (4,6,7) with emotional issues. This man seemed too good to be true, so nice, so sweet, so honest, so much integrity -- meanwhile I don't know what or who to believe. PS " Will someone clue me in to what the acronym NADA means? " Thanks in advance! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2005 Report Share Posted April 18, 2005 Hi Ray, No Narcissists Allowed is a good list for relationship issues. But, a new guitarist might be an immediate solution. Good luck, Carol In a message dated 4/18/2005 11:33:29 PM Pacific Standard Time, raynaremondini@... writes: Trying to figure out if my ex is a Narcissist or a Borderline. He's in the midst of a nasty custody battle with his wife; a woman he says he never loved eventhough they have 3 beautiful children together. He has his friends, family and the church on his side. He's hired lawyers to nuke the wife and make her look like a looney, psychotic bitch, but deep down inside, I think he drove her madly insane with his cheating. Eventhough she tried to kidnap the kids and flee out of state, I believe she still loves him deeply. I met this guy thru an on-line dating site and he became the guitarist in my band, then we slowly started a love affair. But I'm unhappy in the relationship because there's not enough room for me, with a vindictive, angry wife and 3 children (4,6,7) with emotional issues. This man seemed too good to be true, so nice, so sweet, so honest, so much integrity -- meanwhile I don't know what or who to believe. PS " Will someone clue me in to what the acronym NADA means? " Thanks in advance! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 19, 2005 Report Share Posted April 19, 2005 Hi there- Nada is our term for our BPD mothers- as in not really a mother. I have to admit that your post is a bit confusing to me- this is your ex boyfriend that has the wife and 3 kids and you met him on a online dating site? I would agree that if he is still married with 3 kids then the relationship probably is a bit crowded. Did I understand that he is " too good to be true, so nice, so sweet, so honest, so much integrity " but he is still married and participating in a dating group. Something isn't adding up here? This group is mainly for the adult children of borderline parents. It is an unchosen type of relationship, not a chosen one like a marriage. If you check out BPDCentral, they have groups for folks dealing with chosen relationships. Maybe they can offer you more answers. IMHO, I would be wary of anyone who could produce 3 children with a woman he didn't love, narcissist or BPD! Too many red flags waving around there for me! And why would she want to take the kids and run...possibly to get them and herself away from him? Di. Idating se Trying to figure out if my ex is a Narcissist or a Borderline. He's in the midst of a nasty custody battle with his wife; a woman he says he never loved eventhough they have 3 beautiful children together. He has his friends, family and the church on his side. He's hired lawyers to nuke the wife and make her look like a looney, psychotic bitch, but deep down inside, I think he drove her madly insane with his cheating. Eventhough she tried to kidnap the kids and flee out of state, I believe she still loves him deeply. I met this guy thru an on-line dating site and he became the guitarist in my band, then we slowly started a love affair. But I'm unhappy in the relationship because there's not enough room for me, with a vindictive, angry wife and 3 children (4,6,7) with emotional issues. This man seemed too good to be true, so nice, so sweet, so honest, so much integrity -- meanwhile I don't know what or who to believe. PS " Will someone clue me in to what the acronym NADA means? " Thanks in advance! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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