Re: hoover attempt-Hope

[Guest guest]

Hi Hope,

Congrats! I know how exciting it is to your artwork/heart on display. And I

feel your angst at your nada's inviting herself.

I'm perhaps not as generous; might make perfectly clear that nada was not

invited. Am, again, probably a bit more suspicious...the only reason my nada

would attend my show would be out of plain/simple/primal jealousy; she couldn't

have my aunts know more than she... Carol

In a message dated 5/9/04 9:19:52 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

oikocryst@... writes:

I am participating in an art exhibit

that opened last friday. I am very proud and it is a dream

coming true for me. I did something very daring for me -- I

invited some of my foo relatives to the exhibit, even

though I knew there was a chance that they would tell nada

about it. For four years now I haven't told my hoovered foo

relatives about any of my accomplishments because I

couldn't stand the thought of nada finding out and trying

to take credit for it or fogging me about it. With this

opening, I decided to take the chance. Well, somebody did

forward my email invitation to nada. Shame on them. I know

I can't control what they do, but it is still disappointing

that they actually did that (I don't even know who it was).

I just got an email from my nada that had my invitation

text in it, and said " Well, of course, I've always been one

of your very best fans. Can I come? Mom " . Notice she

still doesn't call me by name. I guess in a way it is nice

for her to at least pretend to ask my permission. The

exhibit is in a public building, and advertised in all the

newspapers -- I can't stop her from coming if she actually

decides to. I'd like to hear your thoughts on whether to

write her back and what to say. I don't want her anywhere

near the place but again, I can only control my behavior,

not hers. I think the whole letter is just a ploy to make

her seem like she is willing to " forgive me " and consider

me " good " again. I'm not interested in seeing her no matter

how she splits me. Basically if I were to say something

from my gut, it would be " no you're not invited, stay away

you bitch " . Don't worry, I won't actually send her that. I

don't know whether to ignore her email or answer it. I'm

thinking I'll open up UBM and try and write something like

" It is not okay with me for you to come to my exhibit. I

did not invite you and I do not know who told you the

details " . And m-a-y-b-e add " thank you for asking " .

Any suggestions?

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Hope