Re: Parents see daughter's Asperger's as extraordinary...

[Guest guest]

That can be true. However, I think her problem will be not so much being a robot, but rather not being able to hack the political infighting and brown nosing that is par for course in the business world. So much about promotions and such isn't about how effective one is at their job, but how cozy they are with the higher ups. You could be magnificent at your duties, but the mediocre fellow with good brown nosing skills gets the promotion because the bosses like them better.

Still, there are some times when it works out that being good is enough.

For starters we have this,"Part of Jessie's charm is her elegant logic, a good-tempereddirectness that seems equal parts adult wry humor and childlikeinnocence."And that is not appreciate in most work places. There is a covering-over, a glossing-over, a not speaking. It's viewed as some problems are unsolvable, so don't even bring it up. Directness (asking why the emperor has no clothes) is NOT appreciated.Now, she might make a fine entrepreneur, or an artist. But she's unlikely to have the skills to be a good little obedient corporate foot soldier.-Doug>> At face value, good. But then you read the optimism about her school > career, and there is a danger of this becoming a "giftedness" story. > Prejudged optimism about schooling makes worse the suffering and the > people-reactions when the forecasts don't come true. We may not want > to be seen as retards but the point of a medical label is to show we > do have limits.> See AOL's top rated recipes and easy ways to stay in shape for winter.

[Guest guest]

I agree. AS may include some talents, but those talents come with some significant drawbacks. She's going to need to learn to compensate for those. Their attitude is over-compensating for the diagnosis and could cause them trouble in the future.

At face value, good. But then you read the optimism about her school career, and there is a danger of this becoming a "giftedness" story. Prejudged optimism about schooling makes worse the suffering and the people-reactions when the forecasts don't come true. We may not want to be seen as retards but the point of a medical label is to show we do have limits. See AOL's top rated recipes and easy ways to stay in shape for winter.

[Guest guest]

There's a lot of artificiality in the corporate world. One of our

gifts (and I might be more borderline Aspie, my mother is more Aspie

and I think a lot of my traits are learned) is authenticity. That's

fantastic for an artist, or a scientist, or maybe even for a

politician if you go about it a certain way, stay optimistic but

still realistic.

But even medicine, the acknowledgment that it's never perfection,

always learning, with the striking honesty of the (?) mortality and

morbidity conferences, there is still telling people things

convenient for the institution and for the sake of the institution.

Okay, the social skills, can never be perfect. In fact, if you're

trying to do it perfectly, you're trying in the wrong direction or

trying too hard. If you try too hard expecting a result, you can't

help but feel resentful of people when it doesn't come.

-Doug

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show we

> > do have limits.

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