Guest guest Posted November 11, 2004 Report Share Posted November 11, 2004 Jana and Di, Okay, I'm replying again...in fact I've replied to this same message for an hour and keep deleting it. I am so triggered.....so I'm just gonna come out and ask. My nada did stuff like what Di described AND did some of the more direct, nastier things we described...and I had lumped them all together. Are they different? My nada talked alot about if I got pregnant, not always about specifically about mine or her sex life. And she only got in the bed with me and hubby once, several other times she did what exactly what Di describes. But in my head they all feel the same. Why is that? Sometimes the more indirect stuff seems worse because it robs me of my complaint... " And she stood in the room with us! " just doesn't resonate like " she got in bed with us. " But it felt the about the same to me. And by talking about the biological outcomes of my hypothetical sex life I thought she was just being sneakier about her disgusting invasion. Putting on another layer of OZ to hide what she was really doing. Wondering if I wrongly accused her...maybe I was wrong about all of it. I can't remember it as clearly now as yesterday, maybe it didn't happen that way and I made it up. That's what Dad used to say. Sorry Di to make your sad stories about me, I feel awful about it....Oh, and Jana, I'm not afraid its slutty to talk about nada sex invasion. I'm afraid its too gross and no one will want to talk to me anymore now that I said it, especially my first week in the group. I thought when I came here my nada was so HF that everyone would think I was a poser, but now I feel that she's too weird for others to stomach. I feel gross and sad! And I'm worried saying all this is inappropriate, rude to Di, offensive, and marks me as an immature sicko, oh, and manipulative. I don't want to be like nada, remarking on other's lives so she can work in a complaint about her own and manipulate them into comforting her and complimenting her for an hour. Bad, bad Ivorysoap not 99.44% pure now, are you? > > Boy, I really do feel for all of you that have such yucky memories > of nada's freakish sex issues. That is so gross and sick and wrong. \ > > My Nada didn't discuss sex too often, but she could never stop > informing me that I was sure to get pregnant before I could finish > school. Later she was joking with her friends about how she was so > smart to use " reverse psychology " on me since I never got PG in > college. Hello...I was on bc pill! > > I think I mentioned this before, but Nada doesn't really enjoy sex. > It was always just a duty thing that wives do. She wouldn't > understand that it could be fun or enjoyable. > > One thing that irritates me is that Nada, when visiting our home, > will just walk into our bedroom in the morning. She knows my husband > is modest, doesn't care if I am dressed. So she has us TRAPPED in > our bed. YUCK. God, I was such a wuss never to scream at her to get > the f* & % out of my bedroom. You had better believe that I would now! > > I hate the way our Nada's are so INVASIVE. I will NEVER due that to > my kid! > > Di. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2004 Report Share Posted November 11, 2004 Jana and Di, Okay, I'm replying again...in fact I've replied to this same message for an hour and keep deleting it. I am so triggered.....so I'm just gonna come out and ask. My nada did stuff like what Di described AND did some of the more direct, nastier things we described...and I had lumped them all together. Are they different? My nada talked alot about if I got pregnant, not always about specifically about mine or her sex life. And she only got in the bed with me and hubby once, several other times she did what exactly what Di describes. But in my head they all feel the same. Why is that? Sometimes the more indirect stuff seems worse because it robs me of my complaint... " And she stood in the room with us! " just doesn't resonate like " she got in bed with us. " But it felt the about the same to me. And by talking about the biological outcomes of my hypothetical sex life I thought she was just being sneakier about her disgusting invasion. Putting on another layer of OZ to hide what she was really doing. Wondering if I wrongly accused her...maybe I was wrong about all of it. I can't remember it as clearly now as yesterday, maybe it didn't happen that way and I made it up. That's what Dad used to say. Sorry Di to make your sad stories about me, I feel awful about it....Oh, and Jana, I'm not afraid its slutty to talk about nada sex invasion. I'm afraid its too gross and no one will want to talk to me anymore now that I said it, especially my first week in the group. I thought when I came here my nada was so HF that everyone would think I was a poser, but now I feel that she's too weird for others to stomach. I feel gross and sad! And I'm worried saying all this is inappropriate, rude to Di, offensive, and marks me as an immature sicko, oh, and manipulative. I don't want to be like nada, remarking on other's lives so she can work in a complaint about her own and manipulate them into comforting her and complimenting her for an hour. Bad, bad Ivorysoap not 99.44% pure now, are you? > > Boy, I really do feel for all of you that have such yucky memories > of nada's freakish sex issues. That is so gross and sick and wrong. \ > > My Nada didn't discuss sex too often, but she could never stop > informing me that I was sure to get pregnant before I could finish > school. Later she was joking with her friends about how she was so > smart to use " reverse psychology " on me since I never got PG in > college. Hello...I was on bc pill! > > I think I mentioned this before, but Nada doesn't really enjoy sex. > It was always just a duty thing that wives do. She wouldn't > understand that it could be fun or enjoyable. > > One thing that irritates me is that Nada, when visiting our home, > will just walk into our bedroom in the morning. She knows my husband > is modest, doesn't care if I am dressed. So she has us TRAPPED in > our bed. YUCK. God, I was such a wuss never to scream at her to get > the f* & % out of my bedroom. You had better believe that I would now! > > I hate the way our Nada's are so INVASIVE. I will NEVER due that to > my kid! > > Di. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2004 Report Share Posted November 11, 2004 I'm afraid its too gross and no one will want to talk to > me anymore now that I said it, especially my first week in the > group. I thought when I came here my nada was so HF that everyone > would think I was a poser, but now I feel that she's too weird for > others to stomach. I feel gross and sad! And I'm worried saying all > this is inappropriate, rude to Di, offensive, and marks me as an > immature sicko, oh, and manipulative. I don't want to be like nada, > remarking on other's lives so she can work in a complaint about her > own and manipulate them into comforting her and complimenting her for > an hour. _______________________________________________ None of the above. None of the above. None of the above. Ivy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2004 Report Share Posted November 11, 2004 I'm afraid its too gross and no one will want to talk to > me anymore now that I said it, especially my first week in the > group. I thought when I came here my nada was so HF that everyone > would think I was a poser, but now I feel that she's too weird for > others to stomach. I feel gross and sad! And I'm worried saying all > this is inappropriate, rude to Di, offensive, and marks me as an > immature sicko, oh, and manipulative. I don't want to be like nada, > remarking on other's lives so she can work in a complaint about her > own and manipulate them into comforting her and complimenting her for > an hour. _______________________________________________ None of the above. None of the above. None of the above. Ivy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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