thanks and

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It is great to hear your stories and feel your support. Thank you.

I'm sorry anyone can understand though--it's such a terrible thing

to go through. I have felt so isolated and afraid of my mother and

so trapped by my need to have a relationship with her at all costs.

It has taken being married to realize that I can't afford her--if

that makes sense. When my husband, who is wise and gentle and

understanding, says he can't take me being upset about this all the

time, I have to listen. He's right. If I couldn't do it for

myself, I have to do it for him, for us, and for the kids we hope to

have. But I am so sad about the prospect of closing myself off to

my mother.