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Hi Everyone,

It's in the middle of the night here in Australia but couldn't sleep.

Since was given the dx as PPD-NOS her speach therapist who is

also the co-ordinator of the early intervention she is attending is

giving off signals that she dissagree's with that. The paediatricain

who we are seeing specialises in the feild of autism and disorders

related as such. This was unknown to me when we intially saw her(dr)

but she has only been nothing but covering all bases before giving

her a dx. EEG to four different blood tests, recomending early

intervention since it was obvious she was delayed in more than one

area.

My dilemma is it was a shock to have autism suggested when we first

visited her, we even visited her again shortly afterward because of

wanting to know why she suspected autism. When l say autism in

's case it is being on the spectrum. To then come to terms with

this and then have a some other proffesional disagree and make you

fell in limbo again is horrible.

only has few autistic traits which l am lucky compared to most

of you Mums or adults with dx's. Yet it seems to be very frustrating

in 's situation as l can see l am going to have to argue the

point accross to whom ever is disputing it. As you all know if you

had a choice we wouldn't choose our children to have any disorder.

But because 's isn't as clear as some it is going to be a

constant battle.

I read this site every day, it is my therapy to hear and talk to Mums

in similiar and harder situations. I thank my lucky stars that

only has few autistic ways but almost wish that it is more obvious so

people would be more helpful than seemingly making things harder. I

only wish they knew or lived the hardships we have had since

was born. My Mother who has brought up 4 children and helped mind 6

grandchildren has said she has never in all her years come across a

child like ( with all the problems we had)

Sorry about this being drawn out as l had to just get this of my

cheast. Even one lady from our group said she didn't find PPD-NOS to

be autism in her eyes but l was still welcome to talk to the group.

In books and understood by proffesionals in the field PPD-NOS is an

autistic spectrum disorder being because the children have some

amount of autistic behaviour problems too. Well that is how it is in

Australia anyhow, sorry again about the long note,

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Sorry I know you were regretting going to the doctor. I

always do too. PDD-NOS which in my opi9nion is mild autism and aspergers

well no one notices these things. I am having the same problem with

MIchelle. Remember the problems I meantioned with and her

school? Well they insisted she has no autism and laughed at me for

thinking that way. They said her problem is strictly behavior and what is

happening at home? PDD-NOS is also ignored in circumstances here

especially when private insurance has to pay for something.

I am sorry about what the other parent made you feel. Some of

these parents think they know it all and are very very judgemental. For

example with well a blind man can see his autism but this one woman

who has a 7 year old autistic son had the nerve to doubt my sons autism.

Her son talks well just cant hold a conversation with him!!! this woman is

causing me alot of problems at the school too due to also being a counselor

for the state!

Did I tell you I was kicked out of the doctors office yesterday?

I asked them to give me an appointment during school hours and they refused.

they said new patients have to have appointments after 4pm. My

appointment was at 4:15. started pushing chairs around thus making

the receptionist nervous so she went out there to see what he was doing and

he pushed her in the hip. He is 5 years old. She told him off good and

he ignored her as usual. She then started tellingme off. I said I am so

sorry but he has autism. She said I dont care. He hit me! I then

said i tried to make an appointment during school hours and the office here

wouldnt let me. She then said you need to control your son!! I said how

long til I get seen? She said it will be a while. I said then maybe I

best reschedule. She didnt offer to reschedule me either. Then she said

you have a good day Maam. I said sarcastically you too! I then went home

and thought about it more and got more upset. I called them back and said

loose my paperwork. I dont want identity theft and I do not want a record

there. I never want to be seen there again. She then said well your son

hit me! I got so upset when she said that I called her a prejudish bit++

I am so thankful doesnt do that. She sits down and

stares off in space. was aweful on the airplane though LOL

Sometimes you will find out that some parents that have

autistic parents think if there child doesnt fit your childs mold then your

childis not autistic. They think they know it all in all aspects of life.

Some kind be right arrogant.

Charlene

-- Feeling sad

Hi Everyone,

It's in the middle of the night here in Australia but couldn't sleep.

Since was given the dx as PPD-NOS her speach therapist who is

also the co-ordinator of the early intervention she is attending is

giving off signals that she dissagree's with that. The paediatricain

who we are seeing specialises in the feild of autism and disorders

related as such. This was unknown to me when we intially saw her(dr)

but she has only been nothing but covering all bases before giving

her a dx. EEG to four different blood tests, recomending early

intervention since it was obvious she was delayed in more than one

area.

My dilemma is it was a shock to have autism suggested when we first

visited her, we even visited her again shortly afterward because of

wanting to know why she suspected autism. When l say autism in

's case it is being on the spectrum. To then come to terms with

this and then have a some other proffesional disagree and make you

fell in limbo again is horrible.

only has few autistic traits which l am lucky compared to most

of you Mums or adults with dx's. Yet it seems to be very frustrating

in 's situation as l can see l am going to have to argue the

point accross to whom ever is disputing it. As you all know if you

had a choice we wouldn't choose our children to have any disorder.

But because 's isn't as clear as some it is going to be a

constant battle.

I read this site every day, it is my therapy to hear and talk to Mums

in similiar and harder situations. I thank my lucky stars that

only has few autistic ways but almost wish that it is more obvious so

people would be more helpful than seemingly making things harder. I

only wish they knew or lived the hardships we have had since

was born. My Mother who has brought up 4 children and helped mind 6

grandchildren has said she has never in all her years come across a

child like ( with all the problems we had)

Sorry about this being drawn out as l had to just get this of my

cheast. Even one lady from our group said she didn't find PPD-NOS to

be autism in her eyes but l was still welcome to talk to the group.

In books and understood by proffesionals in the field PPD-NOS is an

autistic spectrum disorder being because the children have some

amount of autistic behaviour problems too. Well that is how it is in

Australia anyhow, sorry again about the long note,

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((( ))) We have had several people doubt my dd's dx also.. its

very frustrating but after much research I know what her dx is so I

just blow off the nay sayers.

Lyn

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Hi tanya.....well here I am at 3.18am..............middle of the night

for me too. There is always so much to think about isn’t there, may as

well sit here, then lay in bed I say. You know you have friends, hang in

there. Cheryl s

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Hi Everyone,

It's in the middle of the night here in Australia but couldn't sleep.

Since was given the dx as PPD-NOS her speach therapist who is

also the co-ordinator of the early intervention she is attending is

giving off signals that she dissagree's with that. The paediatricain

who we are seeing specialises in the feild of autism and disorders

related as such. This was unknown to me when we intially saw her(dr)

but she has only been nothing but covering all bases before giving

her a dx. EEG to four different blood tests, recomending early

intervention since it was obvious she was delayed in more than one

area.

My dilemma is it was a shock to have autism suggested when we first

visited her, we even visited her again shortly afterward because of

wanting to know why she suspected autism. When l say autism in

's case it is being on the spectrum. To then come to terms with

this and then have a some other proffesional disagree and make you

fell in limbo again is horrible.

only has few autistic traits which l am lucky compared to most

of you Mums or adults with dx's. Yet it seems to be very frustrating

in 's situation as l can see l am going to have to argue the

point accross to whom ever is disputing it. As you all know if you

had a choice we wouldn't choose our children to have any disorder.

But because 's isn't as clear as some it is going to be a

constant battle.

I read this site every day, it is my therapy to hear and talk to Mums

in similiar and harder situations. I thank my lucky stars that

only has few autistic ways but almost wish that it is more obvious so

people would be more helpful than seemingly making things harder. I

only wish they knew or lived the hardships we have had since

was born. My Mother who has brought up 4 children and helped mind 6

grandchildren has said she has never in all her years come across a

child like ( with all the problems we had)

Sorry about this being drawn out as l had to just get this of my

cheast. Even one lady from our group said she didn't find PPD-NOS to

be autism in her eyes but l was still welcome to talk to the group.

In books and understood by proffesionals in the field PPD-NOS is an

autistic spectrum disorder being because the children have some

amount of autistic behaviour problems too. Well that is how it is in

Australia anyhow, sorry again about the long note,

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Hi , I am also from Australia and have a girl Bianca 4 who was diagnosed

only last week at the RCH melb. I walked in knowing they would say she was

" officially " autistic..but in the back of my mind I hoped that they wouldnt give

her a diagnosis of PDD-NOS (only because the services etc are not as good if not

diagnosed as autistic). Theres something wrong with that isnt there. What state

are you in? Warm wishes. Annette

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Hi Everyone,

It's in the middle of the night here in Australia but couldn't sleep.

Since was given the dx as PPD-NOS her speach therapist who is

also the co-ordinator of the early intervention she is attending is

giving off signals that she dissagree's with that. The paediatricain

who we are seeing specialises in the feild of autism and disorders

related as such. This was unknown to me when we intially saw her(dr)

but she has only been nothing but covering all bases before giving

her a dx. EEG to four different blood tests, recomending early

intervention since it was obvious she was delayed in more than one

area.

My dilemma is it was a shock to have autism suggested when we first

visited her, we even visited her again shortly afterward because of

wanting to know why she suspected autism. When l say autism in

's case it is being on the spectrum. To then come to terms with

this and then have a some other proffesional disagree and make you

fell in limbo again is horrible.

only has few autistic traits which l am lucky compared to most

of you Mums or adults with dx's. Yet it seems to be very frustrating

in 's situation as l can see l am going to have to argue the

point accross to whom ever is disputing it. As you all know if you

had a choice we wouldn't choose our children to have any disorder.

But because 's isn't as clear as some it is going to be a

constant battle.

I read this site every day, it is my therapy to hear and talk to Mums

in similiar and harder situations. I thank my lucky stars that

only has few autistic ways but almost wish that it is more obvious so

people would be more helpful than seemingly making things harder. I

only wish they knew or lived the hardships we have had since

was born. My Mother who has brought up 4 children and helped mind 6

grandchildren has said she has never in all her years come across a

child like ( with all the problems we had)

Sorry about this being drawn out as l had to just get this of my

cheast. Even one lady from our group said she didn't find PPD-NOS to

be autism in her eyes but l was still welcome to talk to the group.

In books and understood by proffesionals in the field PPD-NOS is an

autistic spectrum disorder being because the children have some

amount of autistic behaviour problems too. Well that is how it is in

Australia anyhow, sorry again about the long note,

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..... she doesn't have any. Neither do any of the other boobs you run into.

DONELLE THAT IS A STATEMENT THAT MADE ME LAUGH VERY HARD ROFL Your dr. is

the specialist. Some doctors are specialist while others you wonder how

they found there license.

realize that they were wrong. I took my dd to 5 psychologists before she

got her dx (one said she was OCD, one said she had anxiety disorder, two

said, yep she's different but we don't know why, and finally the 5th said

autism - which has been seconded by a 6th psy

chologist). So, even among the medical - and I use that term lightly-

community, there will be disagreements.

Sounds like you have been through the ringer too Donnelle

Charlene

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, I'm thinking your daughter is 20 months, please forgive me if

I'm wrong. If this is the case, then it's highly likely your

daughter's condition is still defining itself within her body.

When Allie was 20 month she was considered mildly autistic. Her

psychologist said he would almost classify it as PDD-NOS. Then after

we began the diet she improved so much we felt she might not even be

considered autistic for some time. Then she spiraled downward around

32 months. At 36 months she was tested for her special ed school and

they said the consider her severely autistic. Now she's back to

mild/moderate again. My point is that at different ages, growth

spurts, developmental spurts, etc they seem to move up and down the

spectrum.

My advice to you is to try to take it one day at a time. When Allie

was first dx I would hang my daily emotional state on Allie's

behavior. If her eye contact was bad or she made little sound, I

found myself crying and feeling so anxious. Each round of testing

brought me a week's worth of crying, because it never turned out as

positively as I hoped. At that point I was afraid to even hope for

her future because I didn't know what kind of future she would have.

She was nonverbal and had no receptive language skills.

As time went on with therapy and diet she began to speak and improve.

Then she regressed again. I found myself spiralling emotionally with

her bad days. We got that straight with some mild med. Then her bad

testing at school. But I noticed I only cried about 3 days as

compared to a week's worth. I realized that I also was beginning to

not pay quite so much attention at every single little thing she did.

I think it helped both her and my older daughter, not to mention

myself.

Also, one year later on her third birthday, I found myself beginning

to dream for her once again. I could look back and see the enormous

progress she made from age 2 to age 3(we got her dx 2 weeks before

her second birthday). While she still had a long way to go, just

getting her to there was huge. Since her birthday she has continued

to progress.

My point is that you are in for somewhat of a roller coaster ride

over the next months and years. Let it come. Realize that some days

you will feel so depressed and exhausted. It's okay to feel sad and

depressed. It will get better if you just hang in there. Those first

progressions can seem that it will take forever, but your little one

will progress. You are getting her help and you will see the

benefits, but it might take some time.

Debi

> Hi Everyone,

> It's in the middle of the night here in Australia but couldn't

sleep.

> Since was given the dx as PPD-NOS her speach therapist who is

> also the co-ordinator of the early intervention she is attending is

> giving off signals that she dissagree's with that. The

paediatricain

> who we are seeing specialises in the feild of autism and disorders

> related as such. This was unknown to me when we intially saw her

(dr)

> but she has only been nothing but covering all bases before giving

> her a dx. EEG to four different blood tests, recomending early

> intervention since it was obvious she was delayed in more than one

> area.

> My dilemma is it was a shock to have autism suggested when we first

> visited her, we even visited her again shortly afterward because of

> wanting to know why she suspected autism. When l say autism in

> 's case it is being on the spectrum. To then come to terms

with

> this and then have a some other proffesional disagree and make you

> fell in limbo again is horrible.

> only has few autistic traits which l am lucky compared to

most

> of you Mums or adults with dx's. Yet it seems to be very

frustrating

> in 's situation as l can see l am going to have to argue the

> point accross to whom ever is disputing it. As you all know if you

> had a choice we wouldn't choose our children to have any disorder.

> But because 's isn't as clear as some it is going to be a

> constant battle.

> I read this site every day, it is my therapy to hear and talk to

Mums

> in similiar and harder situations. I thank my lucky stars that

> only has few autistic ways but almost wish that it is more obvious

so

> people would be more helpful than seemingly making things harder. I

> only wish they knew or lived the hardships we have had since

> was born. My Mother who has brought up 4 children and helped mind 6

> grandchildren has said she has never in all her years come across a

> child like ( with all the problems we had)

> Sorry about this being drawn out as l had to just get this of my

> cheast. Even one lady from our group said she didn't find PPD-NOS

to

> be autism in her eyes but l was still welcome to talk to the group.

> In books and understood by proffesionals in the field PPD-NOS is an

> autistic spectrum disorder being because the children have some

> amount of autistic behaviour problems too. Well that is how it is

in

> Australia anyhow, sorry again about the long note,

>

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Debbi, I to be to fully agree to this cycling of growths and regressions in

people of autism and this cycling is life long. I to be to have times of

functioning that ismuch good but then without warning will cycle into states

of regressions.

Sondra

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From Melbourne too, live in the eastern suberbs. will be able

to go to a centre called Irabina that specialises with any child on

the spectrum which is great but she won't be able to get in till next

yr.

> Hi , I am also from Australia and have a girl Bianca 4 who was

diagnosed only last week at the RCH melb. I walked in knowing they

would say she was " officially " autistic..but in the back of my mind I

hoped that they wouldnt give her a diagnosis of PDD-NOS (only because

the services etc are not as good if not diagnosed as autistic).

Theres something wrong with that isnt there. What state are you in?

Warm wishes. Annette

>

> Feeling sad

>

>

> Hi Everyone,

> It's in the middle of the night here in Australia but couldn't

sleep.

> Since was given the dx as PPD-NOS her speach therapist who

is

> also the co-ordinator of the early intervention she is attending

is

> giving off signals that she dissagree's with that. The

paediatricain

> who we are seeing specialises in the feild of autism and

disorders

> related as such. This was unknown to me when we intially saw her

(dr)

> but she has only been nothing but covering all bases before

giving

> her a dx. EEG to four different blood tests, recomending early

> intervention since it was obvious she was delayed in more than

one

> area.

> My dilemma is it was a shock to have autism suggested when we

first

> visited her, we even visited her again shortly afterward because

of

> wanting to know why she suspected autism. When l say autism in

> 's case it is being on the spectrum. To then come to terms

with

> this and then have a some other proffesional disagree and make

you

> fell in limbo again is horrible.

> only has few autistic traits which l am lucky compared to

most

> of you Mums or adults with dx's. Yet it seems to be very

frustrating

> in 's situation as l can see l am going to have to argue the

> point accross to whom ever is disputing it. As you all know if

you

> had a choice we wouldn't choose our children to have any

disorder.

> But because 's isn't as clear as some it is going to be a

> constant battle.

> I read this site every day, it is my therapy to hear and talk to

Mums

> in similiar and harder situations. I thank my lucky stars that

> only has few autistic ways but almost wish that it is more

obvious so

> people would be more helpful than seemingly making things harder.

I

> only wish they knew or lived the hardships we have had since

> was born. My Mother who has brought up 4 children and helped mind

6

> grandchildren has said she has never in all her years come across

a

> child like ( with all the problems we had)

> Sorry about this being drawn out as l had to just get this of my

> cheast. Even one lady from our group said she didn't find PPD-NOS

to

> be autism in her eyes but l was still welcome to talk to the

group.

> In books and understood by proffesionals in the field PPD-NOS is

an

> autistic spectrum disorder being because the children have some

> amount of autistic behaviour problems too. Well that is how it is

in

> Australia anyhow, sorry again about the long note,

>

>

>

>

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Thankyou for the encouragement Debi,

is 2yr 2mths old, and l think it does scare me alot what the

future holds. I would of never guessed that was going to have

autistic traits at 2yrs old, now that l am aware of what they are

through researching into autism. As Donelle said in a e-mail to me, l

think l am going through the grieving process, shock, anger then

sadness. I think it is just really dawned apon me how l will have to

fight for every bit of help can get. When l say fight l guess l

mean the opposition l will get off other proffesionals, therapists

and conflicting information. You really do need to be strong to get

the full benefit of services for your child, have to learn to speak

out. That's a hard thing to do when you are a reserved person.

I know what you mean with how symptons can change with growth spurts

and other things. I am noticing this too since it was suggested that

she was on the autistic spectrum at 22 mths. I guess l'll just have

to hold on for the life of me with this continuing roller coaster

ride,LOL

-- In Autism_in_Girls , " fightingautism "

<fightingautism@y...> wrote:

> , I'm thinking your daughter is 20 months, please forgive me

if

> I'm wrong. If this is the case, then it's highly likely your

> daughter's condition is still defining itself within her body.

>

> When Allie was 20 month she was considered mildly autistic. Her

> psychologist said he would almost classify it as PDD-NOS. Then

after

> we began the diet she improved so much we felt she might not even

be

> considered autistic for some time. Then she spiraled downward

around

> 32 months. At 36 months she was tested for her special ed school

and

> they said the consider her severely autistic. Now she's back to

> mild/moderate again. My point is that at different ages, growth

> spurts, developmental spurts, etc they seem to move up and down the

> spectrum.

>

> My advice to you is to try to take it one day at a time. When Allie

> was first dx I would hang my daily emotional state on Allie's

> behavior. If her eye contact was bad or she made little sound, I

> found myself crying and feeling so anxious. Each round of testing

> brought me a week's worth of crying, because it never turned out as

> positively as I hoped. At that point I was afraid to even hope for

> her future because I didn't know what kind of future she would

have.

> She was nonverbal and had no receptive language skills.

>

> As time went on with therapy and diet she began to speak and

improve.

> Then she regressed again. I found myself spiralling emotionally

with

> her bad days. We got that straight with some mild med. Then her bad

> testing at school. But I noticed I only cried about 3 days as

> compared to a week's worth. I realized that I also was beginning to

> not pay quite so much attention at every single little thing she

did.

> I think it helped both her and my older daughter, not to mention

> myself.

>

> Also, one year later on her third birthday, I found myself

beginning

> to dream for her once again. I could look back and see the enormous

> progress she made from age 2 to age 3(we got her dx 2 weeks before

> her second birthday). While she still had a long way to go, just

> getting her to there was huge. Since her birthday she has continued

> to progress.

>

> My point is that you are in for somewhat of a roller coaster ride

> over the next months and years. Let it come. Realize that some days

> you will feel so depressed and exhausted. It's okay to feel sad and

> depressed. It will get better if you just hang in there. Those

first

> progressions can seem that it will take forever, but your little

one

> will progress. You are getting her help and you will see the

> benefits, but it might take some time.

>

> Debi

>

>

>

> > Hi Everyone,

> > It's in the middle of the night here in Australia but couldn't

> sleep.

> > Since was given the dx as PPD-NOS her speach therapist who

is

> > also the co-ordinator of the early intervention she is attending

is

> > giving off signals that she dissagree's with that. The

> paediatricain

> > who we are seeing specialises in the feild of autism and

disorders

> > related as such. This was unknown to me when we intially saw her

> (dr)

> > but she has only been nothing but covering all bases before

giving

> > her a dx. EEG to four different blood tests, recomending early

> > intervention since it was obvious she was delayed in more than

one

> > area.

> > My dilemma is it was a shock to have autism suggested when we

first

> > visited her, we even visited her again shortly afterward because

of

> > wanting to know why she suspected autism. When l say autism in

> > 's case it is being on the spectrum. To then come to terms

> with

> > this and then have a some other proffesional disagree and make

you

> > fell in limbo again is horrible.

> > only has few autistic traits which l am lucky compared to

> most

> > of you Mums or adults with dx's. Yet it seems to be very

> frustrating

> > in 's situation as l can see l am going to have to argue the

> > point accross to whom ever is disputing it. As you all know if

you

> > had a choice we wouldn't choose our children to have any

disorder.

> > But because 's isn't as clear as some it is going to be a

> > constant battle.

> > I read this site every day, it is my therapy to hear and talk to

> Mums

> > in similiar and harder situations. I thank my lucky stars that

>

> > only has few autistic ways but almost wish that it is more

obvious

> so

> > people would be more helpful than seemingly making things harder.

I

> > only wish they knew or lived the hardships we have had since

> > was born. My Mother who has brought up 4 children and helped mind

6

> > grandchildren has said she has never in all her years come across

a

> > child like ( with all the problems we had)

> > Sorry about this being drawn out as l had to just get this of my

> > cheast. Even one lady from our group said she didn't find PPD-NOS

> to

> > be autism in her eyes but l was still welcome to talk to the

group.

> > In books and understood by proffesionals in the field PPD-NOS is

an

> > autistic spectrum disorder being because the children have some

> > amount of autistic behaviour problems too. Well that is how it is

> in

> > Australia anyhow, sorry again about the long note,

> >

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Thats it I need to move now!!!! I need to move to Australia LOL

Charlene

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From Melbourne too, live in the eastern suberbs. will be able

to go to a centre called Irabina that specialises with any child on

the spectrum which is great but she won't be able to get in till next

yr.

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Thats it I need to move now!!!! I need to move to Australia LOL

Charlene

-- Re: Feeling sad

From Melbourne too, live in the eastern suberbs. will be able

to go to a centre called Irabina that specialises with any child on

the spectrum which is great but she won't be able to get in till next

yr.

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