Hi everyone

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I was in your situation a couple of years ago. I finally moved out

when I was 33 with my 13-year-old daughter. Yep, things got pretty

rotten and I could not stand my daughter to be in that mess any more.

Nada will try to make your life miserable as you move out. That's why

I took only what I really needed and left the rest behind. My nada

called me all kinds of bad names that I am sure she would deny she

ever did now. It's them acting out of desperation, but if they

somehow think that's going to keep you there, I can't figure that one

out. Call someone terribly nasty names and they are going to want to

stay. Right. Mine did not give me anything, even after I bought and

moved into my own house. This was my first house that I bought.

Someone gave me a set of glasses. My sister gave me usual needed

things like some towels, silverware, etc. Nada gave me nothing. I am

actually glad she did not now because everything has strings attached.

Do you know where you are going to move to yet? Find you good

affordable place to live and once that's set up, move quickly enough

so that you don't have several days of nada mouth to put up with. I

even got up in the middle of the night when nada was asleep to move my

stuff. And I moved everything by car which was kind of difficult and

nada had this rule I had to take everything out from the back of the

house, drag it through the yard (just with my luggage carrier) to the

front of the house. Ridiculous. When she was asleep I just took

everything THROUGH the house which as a bit easier. Daughter had to

leave several of her things behind. Nada makes isssues out of how

dead her house is if we took too much out, so we just took what we

absolutely needed or our most favorite things and that's it.

It's soooooooo much nicer when you don't live in the same house with

nada ! Now me living so close to her was not a good idea but at least

we have a giant drainage ditch between us!

THeresa

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> I'm new to the group. I have a borderline mom.. and i found out she

> was borderline while i was in counseling thinking i had lost my

> mind, and my counselor assured me that it wasn't me, it was her...so

> anyway, i'm 24.. and moving out of my house for the first time...so

> i am getting GUILT and anger from my mom like nothing else...i came

> home last night to a guilt trip like none i had ever been on..

> complete with a handstitched pillow case on my bed to take with me

> when i " go " ... gawd, it just overtook me, and she's even got my dad

> in on this too. i am at work, so i dont have much time to check the

> board, but if anyone has any advice besides seek counseling now, i

> would appreciate it...the guilt is tremendous, and i know i shouldnt

> be feeling it but i do..shes always told me since the time i can

> remember " You'll regret this when I'm gone " ... anyway, please email

> me with any suggestions at bigcityjen@.... Thanks!!!

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[Guest guest]

I’m still alive, after this crazy week I begin to

wonder why? I thought I had a supportive family, but boy was I ever wrong,

Haven’t heard from anyone outside of my dh since my mil called and dumped

on me about crap that took place YEARS AGO. Why do people have to behave like

such? Sorry I am exhausted, I’m not able to get much asleep and the

next dose of stronger pain meds are due in here in a bit, just wanted to let

you all know I’m ok, I just have trouble getting on line here at the

hospital.

Everyone take care please!

Terry