Re: Edith , wtf and Trompalina

[Guest guest]

Thanks cindy for the clarification of borderline personality vs. non

borderline. Apparently I joined in the middle of this thing with Trompolina.

It has

made me a feel a bit awkward.

Practicing the fine art of ducking here.

Marla

[Guest guest]

Thanks cindy for the clarification of borderline personality vs. non

borderline. Apparently I joined in the middle of this thing with Trompolina.

It has

made me a feel a bit awkward.

Practicing the fine art of ducking here.

Marla

[Guest guest]

> > I am still trying to find where to report you as damaging people

as

> you did me. It is my opinion that you are not healthy enough to take

> in troubled people. Your ego is too operative. You are feeding off

of

> people as far as I am concerned.

> >

> > Kick me off, won't change my agenda.

> >

> > Trompalina

>

> --------------------------------------------------------------------

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> Ok. Is it me?

>

> I see a personality disordered " BPish " behavior e.g. claiming to

have

> an " agenda " and issueing vague threats against an invisible person

in

> an anonymous chat room in cyberspace. Because of something that was

> said or " done " ? Believing a list moderator's job is " taking in

> troubled people " ?

>

> WTF? I see this person as disconnected from reality. Or is it me???

>

> liquid sunshine

Hi ls,

I see this like I saw the incident a few weeks ago in that it isn't

so much WHAT was said as much as it is the reaction, being triggered

by what is said. It isn't that the situation is severe, the reaction

is. So, for many KO's and/or bp's any kind of criticism (real,

perceived, imagined) becomes a trigger to protect oneself, just like

many of us had to do with nada. BUT the question is: is this behavior

really working for us now as adults or is it another destructive nada-

aquired response? I think Trompalina was justified in feeling a

little singled out for what most of us do on occasion, but to say

such harsh things about Edith seems more like a trigger to me, like

someone feeling rejected, hurt, picked on. Of course, it could be

viewed as an opportunity to learn a new way to react, to becoming

aware of the negative foo stuff that is within all of us. Tromp, if

you're reading, they say things keep presenting in our lives until we

recognize them. That is what really sets apart a bp from a non bp,

imo, the ability to be aware and recognize our behavior and the

willingness to choose differently and that will also define the

difference between one who repeats the past and one who makes their

own future.

[Guest guest]

Hi ls,

> I see this like I saw the incident a few weeks ago in that it isn't

> so much WHAT was said as much as it is the reaction, being triggered

> by what is said. It isn't that the situation is severe, the reaction

> is. So, for many KO's and/or bp's any kind of criticism (real,

> perceived, imagined) becomes a trigger to protect oneself, just like

> many of us had to do with nada. BUT the question is: is this behavior

> really working for us now as adults or is it another destructive nada-

> aquired response? I think Trompalina was justified in feeling a

> little singled out for what most of us do on occasion, but to say

> such harsh things about Edith seems more like a trigger to me, like

> someone feeling rejected, hurt, picked on. Of course, it could be

> viewed as an opportunity to learn a new way to react, to becoming

> aware of the negative foo stuff that is within all of us. Tromp, if

> you're reading, they say things keep presenting in our lives until we

> recognize them. That is what really sets apart a bp from a non bp,

> imo, the ability to be aware and recognize our behavior and the

> willingness to choose differently and that will also define the

> difference between one who repeats the past and one who makes their

> own future.

An extreme reaction....uh huh. Yeah that makes sense. You know how

there is 'call waiting'? Maybe there should be something analogous

like 'call thwarting' to prevent those middle-of-the-night calls/posts

which are not in one's best interest?

sunsh

And it seems things really do keep presenting until we " get " them.

Life is strange like that...