Re: I think I am in the right place now! To Angrydeeto

August 11, 2004

Holy crap!

And I thought my mother, the nada, was bad! Mine tried in every way she could

think of to take over my wedding...and when I thwarted her attempts...she got

even in the worst way.

She made a horrible scene all the while I was at the altar...not weeping tears

for the happiness of the occassion, but BELLOWING tears of profound sadness.

The congregation kept turning away from me and my husband, and looking at her

and expressing their sympathies. I wished the altar would have swallow me up.

Then to make things even worse, nevermind the non stop criticisms and pot-shots

aimed at my decision to plan the wedding the way the groom and I wanted, she got

roaring drunk at my reception and told my best male friend, out loud and in

front of my husband, that she " wished he had been the groom. " Again...I was

looking for that trap door in the floor of the reception hall. For her, this

time.

Naturally, you mention all this to her 10 years after the fact, she becomes

innocent as a lamb. If I hadn't been so horrible to her, so bad, so ungrateful,

so blah blah blah...you know the drill, she wouldn't have acted like that.

Yeah right. I've decided if I EVER marry again, she is not invited to the

wedding.

Family or no...I will not go through that again!

I wonder how many others on this list have had their weddings, christenings, bar

mitzvahs, etc. wrecked by BPDs on the warpath?

Take care!

angrydeeto wrote:

Hi-

I started off on the wrong board, but was referred here. My mother

who fits the " nada " decription quite well seems to have many counter

parts on this board.

The topic of competition is a sore spot for me. She prefers to think

of me as her sister. I am not to call her 'Mother' or any variation

of it. Actually, as a kid I started to call her that to make her mad.

One of our classic competition moments was when my husband and I

announced we were getting married. She suddenly, she was getting

married. Of course, her engagement broke off shortly later. It was

just long enough to distract from my planning. I thought she was done

with the glory hogging, until she wore her wedding dress to my

wedding!

Unbelievable!

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August 11, 2004

>

> Yeah right. I've decided if I EVER marry again, she is not invited

to the wedding.

> Family or no...I will not go through that again!

>

> I wonder how many others on this list have had their weddings,

christenings, bar mitzvahs, etc. wrecked by BPDs on the warpath?

>

My mother " loved " my future husband or so I thought!!! She told me

that she was going to be my Matron of Honor. When I told her that I

had planned to ask my best friend she got livid. She informed me

that she KNEW my fiancee was going to ask his father to be his best

man. I told her that wasn't true, that he was asking his best

friend. But of course, she KNOWS what everyone is going to do

before they do it (LOL). Anyway, she informed me upfront that if she

was not my Matron of Honor, she would see to it that the wedding

never took place!!! When she started her distortion campaign against

both my fiancee and myself, my best friend opted out of being my

Matron of Honor...she didn't want to get into the middle of things

(and to be honest, she hadn't agreed yet). Anyway, to make a long

story short, we eloped. We told our best friends and my husbands

family when/where we were getting married...but no one told my mother.

My friends even threw me a bridal shower beforehand! My only regret

is that my husbands family weren't there to see our wedding.

August 11, 2004