Guest guest Posted October 10, 2004 Report Share Posted October 10, 2004 oh you know Di I wasn't even thinking about your child being involved. How about " Dear Mom, this year we are having a zero stress no conflict holiday season. We are not extending any invitations to Thanksgiving or Christmas except to Dr. Freud and Dr. Seuss. We will be glad to celebrate a holiday meal with you after New Years this year. You pick the day Jan 1-Jan 31. Love, Di " Ok its 1am I'm getting silly over here.- j __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 My Nada has already decided to " punish " me LOL, by saying she doesn't feel welcome in our home (TRUE, SHE IS WAS THROWN out, and told my by hubby never to come back to stay)...... I thought Di, did an awesome JOB! Di, your letter was perfect, and please don't beat yourself up, I do it enough (beat myself up inside) for all of us here lol....I thought your letter was great, and also I thought you got some great feedback that I am holding onto for the next letter (UGGGHHH) I send out to nada- Good luck Di!!! You are on the perfect path =) Kim In a message dated 10/11/2004 1:08:32 AM Eastern Standard Time, hellokitty435@... writes: oh you know Di I wasn't even thinking about your child being involved. How about " Dear Mom, this year we are having a zero stress no conflict holiday season. We are not extending any invitations to Thanksgiving or Christmas except to Dr. Freud and Dr. Seuss. We will be glad to celebrate a holiday meal with you after New Years this year. You pick the day Jan 1-Jan 31. Love, Di " Ok its 1am I'm getting silly over here.- j Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 PS: My children do not LIKE, nor do they trust NADA (Godzilla fits her perfecto)~ Nada has been on my case for yrs, trying to get me to let my littles ones take a plane ride ALONE to visit her!!! YEAH right, like I am going to EVER allow a 12, 9 and 4 yr old to hop on a plane and stay with the BPD/Alcoholic maniac- She gets very angry when I say " NO mother I just do not feel comfortable letting the children travel solo. " Ohhhhh, she really doesn't ever stop reminding me just how " MEAN " I am to not allow them to come to see her. I don't want to see her, so it is even harder for me to say " I shall be on the next plane to N.Carolina. " I have often offered her free airfare, free hotel, free rental car, NO STRINGS ATTACHED, just PLEASE don't stay at my house....She punishes me by saying that at age 57 she shall drive here (10 hr drive) for a night and stay with a friend JUST for the upcoming Bar Mitzvah- Actually after the last phone call that sent me over the edge (her), I kind of wonder if she will actually even show up. She will no doubt keep me wondering, and I wonder wonder wonder, IS SHE gonna come? Or is she going to punish us and not come? I suppose the punishment is a gift to me, maybe even to my son, of course I second guess myself all the time- I gotta read Sylvia's wedding weekend, maybe that will help. Thanks to all- Kim In a message dated 10/11/2004 7:31:58 AM Eastern Standard Time, jr512@... writes: In a message dated 10/11/2004 1:08:32 AM Eastern Standard Time, hellokitty435@... writes: oh you know Di I wasn't even thinking about your child being involved. How about " Dear Mom, this year we are having a zero stress no conflict holiday season. We are not extending any invitations to Thanksgiving or Christmas except to Dr. Freud and Dr. Seuss. We will be glad to celebrate a holiday meal with you after New Years this year. You pick the day Jan 1-Jan 31. Love, Di " Ok its 1am I'm getting silly over here.- j Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 Kim, From all that I have read in your posts, I think you have very good judgement regarding your children. Nada is just trying to hoover you into doing what she wants. You can tell her that you know of a woman (me) who is 59, and drove 7 hours to get to a wedding. I really don't think driving that distance at her age is a problem. At least, it wouldn't be a problem for me. She wants you to feel guilty, here is the FOG rolling in! And she wants control....ala not really letting you know if she will be there or not. She's good at the element of surprise. You are focused in the right direction - what is best for you and your family. Nada and everyone else needs to take their places behind your primary needs and responsibilities. Take care of yourself! Sylvia > > PS: > > My children do not LIKE, nor do they trust NADA (Godzilla fits her > perfecto)~ Nada has been on my case for yrs, trying to get me to let my littles ones > take a plane ride ALONE to visit her!!! YEAH right, like I am going to EVER > allow a 12, 9 and 4 yr old to hop on a plane and stay with the BPD/Alcoholic > maniac- She gets very angry when I say " NO mother I just do not feel comfortable > letting the children travel solo. " Ohhhhh, she really doesn't ever stop > reminding me just how " MEAN " I am to not allow them to come to see her. > > I don't want to see her, so it is even harder for me to say " I shall be on > the next plane to N.Carolina. " I have often offered her free airfare, free > hotel, free rental car, NO STRINGS ATTACHED, just PLEASE don't stay at my > house....She punishes me by saying that at age 57 she shall drive here (10 hr > drive) for a night and stay with a friend JUST for the upcoming Bar Mitzvah- > Actually after the last phone call that sent me over the edge (her), I kind of > wonder if she will actually even show up. She will no doubt keep me wondering, > and I wonder wonder wonder, IS SHE gonna come? Or is she going to punish us and > not come? > > I suppose the punishment is a gift to me, maybe even to my son, of course I > second guess myself all the time- I gotta read Sylvia's wedding weekend, maybe > that will help. > > Thanks to all- > > Kim > > In a message dated 10/11/2004 7:31:58 AM Eastern Standard Time, > jr512@a... writes: > > In a message dated 10/11/2004 1:08:32 AM Eastern Standard Time, > hellokitty435@y... writes: > > oh you know Di I wasn't even thinking about your child being involved. How > about " Dear Mom, this year we are having a zero stress no conflict holiday > season. We are not extending any invitations to Thanksgiving or Christmas > except > to Dr. Freud and Dr. Seuss. We will be glad to celebrate a holiday meal > with > you after New Years this year. You pick the day Jan 1-Jan 31. Love, Di " > Ok its 1am I'm getting silly over here.- j > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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