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........> Help!! I know that there are other things in this book not

related to my mother - probably the angst is a metaphor for the

author's own journey of dealing with cancer and there are other

themes in the book, but I really want to have my side of this heard

and I'm not sure how to go about it. The author has died, but her

daughters are still involved with the play and talk about the book.

Would it be appropriate to contact the daughters? And if so, what

might I say? I'm still trying to figure out what I hope to

accomplish by this. I guess I just am really sick of being voiceless.

>

> Any suggestions?

>

>

>

Hi ,

This has got to be very frustrating. It is definitely one of the

most difficult parts of dealing with a BPs distortion campaigns,

lies, and rewriting of events. It seems to me that trying to set the

record straight about this book could be a major difficult endeavor.

And I would think that the author's daughter would point out that

this was fiction (regardless of where the story came from). I am

wondering if that is the best place to put your efforts. What I am

thinking is that what may be important to you is your last sentence -

I am really sick of being voiceless. Do you feel this way in other

situations as well? Can you deal with the voicelessness in other

situations? Those for which you might have a better chance of

success? I am wondering if dealing with feeling voiceless in other

areas will help diminish the pain you are feeling from the story in

this book.

I sincerely hope that you can find a way to feel better about this,

Sylvia

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I'm pretty much thinking like Sylvia on this.

I'm sure it would be horribly frustratng to see a re-written

distorted version of your life in a book and play format.

But I also think trying to find your voice by battling with your

mother's voice with the author's daughters might be equally as

frustrating.

They may not care if the story is true or untrue - as long as it

sells, especially since it sells as a fiction. Or they may even

decide to use your stepping forward as " press " to draw more attention

to their book / play...(i.e. " USE you " )

But before I get to far into my opinion of what you might do... what

are you hoping to accomplish by contacting the daughters?

Just having your say?

Being heard?

Have them pull the book / play?

Have them rewrite the book / play?

Something else?

What would be your best case scenario of finding your voice in this?

Maybe we can figure out a way that you can get that...or get

something close to that.. if we know what that is.

Free

> .......> Help!! I know that there are other things in this book

not

> related to my mother - probably the angst is a metaphor for the

> author's own journey of dealing with cancer and there are other

> themes in the book, but I really want to have my side of this heard

> and I'm not sure how to go about it. The author has died, but her

> daughters are still involved with the play and talk about the

book.

> Would it be appropriate to contact the daughters? And if so, what

> might I say? I'm still trying to figure out what I hope to

> accomplish by this. I guess I just am really sick of being

voiceless.

> >

> > Any suggestions?

> >

> >

> >

> Hi ,

>

> This has got to be very frustrating. It is definitely one of the

> most difficult parts of dealing with a BPs distortion campaigns,

> lies, and rewriting of events. It seems to me that trying to set

the

> record straight about this book could be a major difficult

endeavor.

> And I would think that the author's daughter would point out that

> this was fiction (regardless of where the story came from). I am

> wondering if that is the best place to put your efforts. What I am

> thinking is that what may be important to you is your last

sentence -

> I am really sick of being voiceless. Do you feel this way in other

> situations as well? Can you deal with the voicelessness in other

> situations? Those for which you might have a better chance of

> success? I am wondering if dealing with feeling voiceless in other

> areas will help diminish the pain you are feeling from the story in

> this book.

>

> I sincerely hope that you can find a way to feel better about this,

>

> Sylvia

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> I think there was also someone else on this

> list had a nada who was emailing their kid

Yeah, I remember something about the daughter having to stand up for

herself on the email.

> Nada has been sneaking around making

> friends with these teens

That is so dirty! GROSS!

>I just believe how fast teens

> buy into taking all her advice

>

Teens are at a lower developmental advantage and easily buy into

boundariless nonsense. But the parents should know better. shame on

them.

Ivory

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> I think there was also someone else on this

> list had a nada who was emailing their kid

Yeah, I remember something about the daughter having to stand up for

herself on the email.

> Nada has been sneaking around making

> friends with these teens

That is so dirty! GROSS!

>I just believe how fast teens

> buy into taking all her advice

>

Teens are at a lower developmental advantage and easily buy into

boundariless nonsense. But the parents should know better. shame on

them.

Ivory

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> >I just believe how fast teens

> > buy into taking all her advice

> >

>

> Teens are at a lower developmental advantage and easily buy into

> boundariless nonsense. But the parents should know better. shame on

> them.

>

Unfortunately, the parents are either fruitcakes themselves or they

just think nada is being a nice ole granny. They have been somehow

convinced by nada that I, the crazy, paranoid one, am the one who

wants to keep my daughter from these teen friends, that I am making

things a disadvantage for my own daughter. It's just so disgusting I

can't even begin a list of curse words.

Theresa

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