Guest guest Posted March 3, 2005 Report Share Posted March 3, 2005 Kath wrote: > I know this is a decision I have to make - no one can tell me what is >best - but it would help if I knew about other peoples >experiences/thoughts on this. What experiences do you all have going >to family functions like this? My thoughts on this, although I haven't had a similar experience because I have never had to cut contact with my nada, are that you should not go. Staying away just reinforces your decision for boundaries. If you go, it will be like starting all over again with your nada. If your gut feels sick thinking of going, listen to it. You have to keep priorities straight and remember your decision to cut contact....ALL contact. Maybe you could visit your neice earlier in the day (or later) with a personal gift. It might even mean more to her than you being at the party with a lot of other people as your interaction would be one on one. Being consistent with boundaries is really impportant because, remember, you are dealing with a person who is a child emotionally. Don't set yourself up for the anxiety and pain this could cause you. Give yourself a break and follow your first rule: NO CONTACT WITH NADA!!!!!!!!!! There! You have my thoughts. Of course, the final decision is yours to make. Dee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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