Guest guest Posted March 29, 2004 Report Share Posted March 29, 2004 Reactive Attachment Disorder. Related to Narcissistic Personality Disorder. RAD kids come in varying degrees. Moderate ones can be managed, and even turned around. In the most severe form, RAD kids (called RADishes, cute, huh?) can be homicidal, burn down houses, molest other children, kill and poison pets, stab their adoptive parents. Oh, yes, we had several of those characteristics. It was fun beyond your wildest dreams. So, somehow the RAD kid thing and the NADA all came together. I'm still not able to express this particularly well. Hopefully, I'll be more clear in a few months. Marla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2004 Report Share Posted March 30, 2004 Thanks. I might have been a mild radish when I was younger as I loved playing with fire and tormented our poor kitty cats by swinging them around by their tails. Of course I'm nothing like that now, but saw as a young adult w/nada's rage how I could've been like that as a kid (she kicked our family dog once infront on me when I was 21 and that was the closest we ever came to blows as I just snapped and shoved the hell out of her and said 'next time you want to hit or kick someone or something, you come after me b/c I'm big enough now to take you on. BUT, if I ever see you kick or hit another animal or baby or child infront of me, you're deadmeat lady!- that's one of the few times I let my rage go on her and scared her). It's interesting as it makes sense a kid would be a radish after being raised by a nada. Kerrie > Reactive Attachment Disorder. Related to Narcissistic Personality Disorder. > RAD kids come in varying degrees. Moderate ones can be managed, and even > turned around. In the most severe form, RAD kids (called RADishes, cute, huh?) > can be homicidal, burn down houses, molest other children, kill and poison > pets, stab their adoptive parents. Oh, yes, we had several of those > characteristics. It was fun beyond your wildest dreams. > > So, somehow the RAD kid thing and the NADA all came together. I'm still not > able to express this particularly well. Hopefully, I'll be more clear in a > few months. > > Marla > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2004 Report Share Posted March 30, 2004 Hi Everythinglists, My Gramma 'saved' me, emotionally and physically. She raised me for 2 and 1/2 years; otherwise I'd have had noone important/or whom I was important to at all. I've worked with 'detachment disordered' kids; quite a challenge they have...really do have to relive their infancy and learning to trust seems the biggest obstacle. Carol In a message dated 3/30/04 3:31:06 PM Eastern Standard Time, everythinglists@... writes: It is funny that this topic came up because I'd started to worry that maybe I had RAD but what I came up with is that my nada did as a child, with led to her personality disorder because her RAD was never recognized or treated. I know I don't have RAD because apparently they lack empathy and if nothing else I have too much of that, although sometimes it might be somewhat manufactured because I'm aware of it (as in, maybe I DON'T have empathy but I know I should so I am mindful of it). Do any of you KO's think you have an attachment disorder? I guess we would almost have to because there was no way to form a good attachment to a nada. I know I resented people trying to take care of me when I was younger but maybe have a nada kept me from acting out or outwardly rejecting people - heck if I know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2004 Report Share Posted March 30, 2004 > Thanks. I might have been a mild radish when I was younger as I > loved playing with fire and tormented our poor kitty cats by > swinging them around by their tails. Of course I'm nothing like that > now, but saw as a young adult w/nada's rage how I could've been like > that as a kid (she kicked our family dog once infront on me when I > was 21 and that was the closest we ever came to blows as I just > snapped and shoved the hell out of her and said 'next time you want > to hit or kick someone or something, you come after me b/c I'm big > enough now to take you on. BUT, if I ever see you kick or hit > another animal or baby or child infront of me, you're deadmeat lady!- > that's one of the few times I let my rage go on her and scared her). > It's interesting as it makes sense a kid would be a radish after > being raised by a nada. It is funny that this topic came up because I'd started to worry that maybe I had RAD but what I came up with is that my nada did as a child, with led to her personality disorder because her RAD was never recognized or treated. I know I don't have RAD because apparently they lack empathy and if nothing else I have too much of that, although sometimes it might be somewhat manufactured because I'm aware of it (as in, maybe I DON'T have empathy but I know I should so I am mindful of it). Do any of you KO's think you have an attachment disorder? I guess we would almost have to because there was no way to form a good attachment to a nada. I know I resented people trying to take care of me when I was younger but maybe have a nada kept me from acting out or outwardly rejecting people - heck if I know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2004 Report Share Posted March 30, 2004 I definitely had attachment phobias when I was younger and probably up until my mid to late 20s when I really started reaching out and trying to get much healthier. I think now I see things much clearer w/these issues and own my crap/fleas much better w/dh. I often times find a lot of the situations are nada based when I am not being authentic to my path in life- my truest self and comfortable in my skin. Its inevitable though when she visits and I forget to be on guard for a possible witch. It doesn't serve me right as no one should be a psycho, but at the end of the day I'm letting that psycho dictate my personal relationships any longer. I'm gonna be healthy whether she choses to or not. Empathy came late for me. I don't think I really got it until I was in my 20s and late 20s at that after I'd lived away from nada altogether for a few years. In some ways I think I was like an npd or something as I just thought everyone was like me. Then I noticed people whom I admired and loved as friends had a much different way of processing things and then I started noticing 'others' more than 'self' as I think I'd finally come to a place in my life where self was semi-okay. I don't think I could've ever married dh if I'd not come to some 'empathy' place in my life even though I still have had an enormous amount of work to do since the wedding 4 years ago this upcoming June. I think that is also just life and relationships, but the bp things have really come out more since getting married and 'I can see clearly now that the fog is gone.' Kerrie > > Thanks. I might have been a mild radish when I was younger as I > > loved playing with fire and tormented our poor kitty cats by > > swinging them around by their tails. Of course I'm nothing like > that > > now, but saw as a young adult w/nada's rage how I could've been > like > > that as a kid (she kicked our family dog once infront on me when I > > was 21 and that was the closest we ever came to blows as I just > > snapped and shoved the hell out of her and said 'next time you want > > to hit or kick someone or something, you come after me b/c I'm big > > enough now to take you on. BUT, if I ever see you kick or hit > > another animal or baby or child infront of me, you're deadmeat > lady!- > > that's one of the few times I let my rage go on her and scared > her). > > It's interesting as it makes sense a kid would be a radish after > > being raised by a nada. > > It is funny that this topic came up because I'd started to worry that > maybe I had RAD but what I came up with is that my nada did as a > child, with led to her personality disorder because her RAD was never > recognized or treated. I know I don't have RAD because apparently > they lack empathy and if nothing else I have too much of that, > although sometimes it might be somewhat manufactured because I'm > aware of it (as in, maybe I DON'T have empathy but I know I should so > I am mindful of it). > > Do any of you KO's think you have an attachment disorder? I guess we > would almost have to because there was no way to form a good > attachment to a nada. I know I resented people trying to take care > of me when I was younger but maybe have a nada kept me from acting > out or outwardly rejecting people - heck if I know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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