Re: Help for fleas, please.

[Guest guest]

> Hi everyone. Any suggestions other than therapy for getting rid of

> fleas? ..................> I am quite certain my main issue comes

from being brought up in a home

> with a BPD mom and narcissist step-dad. It has greatly affected my

> ability to get close to people and often accurately read a situation

> when it involves my emotions. I have a very social life with lots

of

> friends but I tend to have a bit of a bite in how I address people

> when I feel that someone is being condescending, misunderstanding me

> or telling me what to do. I know that I do not suffer from BPD but I

> am very frustrated with some of the learned behavior I've

accumulated.

> Any chance of redemption?

*******There are certainly many self-help books that you can read.

You seem to have identified what your issues are. Look for books on

interpersonal skills, communication skills and managing emotions. I

recommend books that also have exercises or an accompanying

workbook. With behavior changes, it isn't enough to just

intellectually identify the problem. It takes practice to make the

behavior changes.

It was helpful to me when I finally understood that just because

someone said or did something that reminded me of nada, their intent

was probably not the same, and that they were also unaware of how

they were affecting me emotionally.

Good luck,

Sylvia

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much for responding. Those are great suggestions!

> > Hi everyone. Any suggestions other than therapy for getting rid

of

> > fleas? ..................> I am quite certain my main issue

comes

> from being brought up in a home

> > with a BPD mom and narcissist step-dad. It has greatly affected

my

> > ability to get close to people and often accurately read a

situation

> > when it involves my emotions. I have a very social life with

lots

> of

> > friends but I tend to have a bit of a bite in how I address people

> > when I feel that someone is being condescending, misunderstanding

me

> > or telling me what to do. I know that I do not suffer from BPD

but I

> > am very frustrated with some of the learned behavior I've

> accumulated.

> > Any chance of redemption?

>

> *******There are certainly many self-help books that you can read.

> You seem to have identified what your issues are. Look for books

on

> interpersonal skills, communication skills and managing emotions.

I

> recommend books that also have exercises or an accompanying

> workbook. With behavior changes, it isn't enough to just

> intellectually identify the problem. It takes practice to make the

> behavior changes.

>

> It was helpful to me when I finally understood that just because

> someone said or did something that reminded me of nada, their

intent

> was probably not the same, and that they were also unaware of how

> they were affecting me emotionally.

>

> Good luck,

>

> Sylvia