Guest guest Posted February 19, 2004 Report Share Posted February 19, 2004 Hi , and welcome! You'll find that you're going to shout " Eureka! " over and over again as you read the posts here - we actually *understand* each other and there's a lot of validation in knowing that others know what you're talking about. Your siblings are trying to maintain the " family facade " that you've held up for so many years. I've had to walk away from almost my entire family because they're all still playing that game, and I'm just not a player anymore. I know the truth now, and it's so freeing . Welcome!! > Hi all. > > I'm brand new at this. I'm used to various message boards (I belong > to a Catholic Convert forum), but I've never talked to anyone > outside my immediate family...regarding " Life with Mother. " *BIG > SIGH* > > It just so happens that the " Law and Order " episode, that some of > this group's members were talking about, was the pivotal moment that > caused me to race to the computer, and type in, " Borderline > Personality Disorder. " Imagine my surprise (and relief) when page > after page came up...and all of them were about...mother! I almost > shouted, " Eureka! " > > I should mention that my mother refuses to acknowledge she has any > kind of problem. She says the problem is me. Six years ago, I > just...snapped, and finally told her that there was something " Wrong > with her. " Well, that did it. I was treated to the most > traumatizing episode of histronics...the likes of which I had never > seen...even from my mother. Since that day, I officially went from > being the VERY good daughter, to the VERY BAD, SOCIOPATHIC, CRUEL > AND SECOND-RATE daughter. > I spent years feeling guilty. I would wake up in the middle of the > night, and wonder what I could do, to be a better daughter. I just > assumed that mother was right...and then...slowly, but surely, that > self-opinion began to erode. Still, I had no explanation for > behaviors that my mother exhibited. My siblings would hear none of > it! One agrees that I'm the problem, and the other doesn't > understand why I can't just make everything better. > > Neither of them understand...that my mother chose me from the time I > was born, to be her co-dependant...her caretaker...her everything. > For, that is what I was. Still, when I was finally strong enough to > make the break (40 years later), I was assaulted with feelings of > responsiblity. After all...I had taken care of my mother for so > long. And, she was more than happy to validate those feelings, and > she let me know (often) just how warped I was. > > So, how's that for an introduction? I could go on and on. > > IH, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2004 Report Share Posted February 20, 2004 > Hi all. > > I'm brand new at this. I'm used to various message boards (I belong > to a Catholic Convert forum), but I've never talked to anyone > outside my immediate family...regarding " Life with Mother. " *BIG > SIGH* > > It just so happens that the " Law and Order " episode, that some of > this group's members were talking about, was the pivotal moment that > caused me to race to the computer, and type in, " Borderline > Personality Disorder. " Imagine my surprise (and relief) when page > after page came up...and all of them were about...mother! I almost > shouted, " Eureka! " > > Welcome, . I have been a member for less than a month. This is a very good place to be to learn more about BPD, and to get support for dealing with your mother. Be kind and gentle to yourself - Sylvia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2004 Report Share Posted April 22, 2004 Hi and welcome. Hope all is going well for you. Sylvia > Hi to everyone, > > I'm another one out there who's just discovered > I have a nada. I've been an observer for awhile; this > is my first post. I've only been an enlightened KO for > about a month, and I am amazed at the transformation it has > effected. Never has one single piece of information been so > very important to my existence. > >.......>>>>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2004 Report Share Posted April 22, 2004 Hi and welcome. Hope all is going well for you. Sylvia > Hi to everyone, > > I'm another one out there who's just discovered > I have a nada. I've been an observer for awhile; this > is my first post. I've only been an enlightened KO for > about a month, and I am amazed at the transformation it has > effected. Never has one single piece of information been so > very important to my existence. > >.......>>>>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2004 Report Share Posted April 22, 2004 Hi and welcome. Hope all is going well for you. Sylvia > Hi to everyone, > > I'm another one out there who's just discovered > I have a nada. I've been an observer for awhile; this > is my first post. I've only been an enlightened KO for > about a month, and I am amazed at the transformation it has > effected. Never has one single piece of information been so > very important to my existence. > >.......>>>>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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