Guest guest Posted July 30, 2004 Report Share Posted July 30, 2004 Hi, Hope and Dan. Thanks for the warm replies! > > Lol, I did that for a while a few years ago (feels like it > was in a former lifetime). In my case, what I was saving in > rent wasn't coming close to what I was paying out of my > soul... I know, I know. My theory is that 1. I'm never home anyway and the amount of time I spend dealing with it is still less than the amount of time I'd spend at a useless job if I had to get one. If I can just get through these exams, I should be able to make good money. Certainly knowing that I have an escape route in the plans has made it easier, but she still finds the soft spots. The other thing is - she's not dead yet. She's had a heart attack 10 years ago, and her health gets progressively worse and better and worse, but as long as she's around - it feel like a chore I have to do, to learn how to cope with her, at least in terms of being able to set boundaries. Does that make sense? That since I grew up with the FOG, unless I deal with it with her, I'll be dealing with it in relationships, until I can disconnect. > > <<< My Dad just watches it and acts like it's okay. He > doesn't demand better behavior, an apology, anything, > UNLESS she tries to pull that garbage on him, in which > case he calls a halt to it. Why is that? >>> > > Sounds like you've got a dish-rag-dad. So do I. Welcome to > the club! You get to wear the tee-shirt :-) Just recently I > visited my drd and we went through the routine again of how > I think that he had a responsibility towards me when I was > a child, but he failed me. He answered (like he always > does) by whining about how badly nada treated him. Pathetic > excuse for a human being. The part I don't get is that - he's not a whiner. He has the power in their relationship. Like I said, if my Mom pulls that BS on him, he will call a halt to it. She's very reliant on him - he earns the money, pays the bills, drives her places. And she respects that. That's my bottom line, when she's mad at me about something, it's really Dad's house and Dad's food. I don't need her permission to cut the watermelon for my niece, because she didn't buy it, Dad did. So if she takes issue with it, I can ask Dad if he bought the watermelon only for Mom. So, he's very patriarchal, and that could explain it, but he's also not a control-freak. And maybe that's the point, that he doesn't want to try to control Mom, but all he has to do is be a good spouse, and say " honey, you're really tired, don't take it out on the niece " . Which he does, once in awhile, with me. But I think it's much more important that he do it for the 8yo who could be scarred by that. I'm old enough to laugh off Mom's anger and attitude. It's not fun to deal with, but I don't personalize it. > Welcome to modoasis :-) > > ===== > Hope > Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2004 Report Share Posted July 30, 2004 Hello there, and welcome. I am a newbie here myself, but would say that this is a great little corner of the net! That bit that you wrote about your niece struck me hard. What did your brother-in-law do when that happened? The main reason for me asking is, I guess, that i tend to feel very protective towards kids when it comes to their contact with the bpd rages. I went through sheer hell with my BP mother and would not wish it on any enemy... and when it comes to harm being done to little, impressionable people, I just hit the roof. I'd guess your dad is trying to protect himself... My stepfather, many years ago, used to stand up for me when my mother was raging, but over the years he shifted to ignoring it, then to telling me " she is only screaming at you because she loves you. If she didn't care, she would be indifferent " (what bs!), and now he is very firmly on her side, like her extra arm or something. Poor sod. Anyway, welcome to the group! Take care D > > This past week has been worse mostly because my brother-in-law, 2 > nieces, and nephew have been visiting. I love these kids and wanted > to spend time with them. And of course everyone else is too so a > lot of coordinating. But the truce that Mom and I had worked out > (the " we don't like each other and don't ask for anything from each > other " kind of truce) went out the window. For whatever reason, > suddenly Mom decided to scream at me for not doing something she > felt I had a duty to do. And, for some reason, instead of shrugging > my shoulders and saying that she's entitled to her opinion, it blew > up into an hour-long fight. And that's what led me to the bookstore > with a knot in my stomach, about books on anger or books on abuse. > I feel I am being abused, and what's scary is watching my Mom turn > that same wrath onto the 8-year-old niece. After her fight with me, > she started picking on the niece. I was also angry that no one > stopped her then, either. My Dad just watches it and acts like it's > okay. He doesn't demand better behavior, an apology, anything, > UNLESS she tries to pull that garbage on him, in which case he calls > a halt to it. Why is that? > > Anyway, if I start writing everything, I'll never stop. Thanks for > being here and thanks for listening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2009 Report Share Posted August 18, 2009 Hi, I'm new here and have been reading the archives with much interest. I've had hypo symptoms since I was pregnant with my 4th daughter. I went to my doctor for post partum depression, but he treated me for a vitamin b12 deficiency instead. At the time, my TSH was 1.37. I eventually got my vitamin d and b issues resolved. In the meantime, I was diagnosed with raynaud's phenomenon. Thing were were ok until I had another baby. Since then, life has not been functional, or very near to non-functional. More blood was taken at the end of May and the end of July by my doctor and he again treated for vitamin d and b12 deficiencies. I managed to get my zinc and folate up. Iron hasn't been an issue for me for a while. I thought he knew what he was doing at the end of May and didn't look up the TSH numbers. I was over 3 at the time, but barely. By the end of July, I was at 5.69, so he prescribed levoxyl. I went home and did a bunch of research and have realized that I need a new doctor. I have an appointment with a clinic in Colleyville on Wed, but I haven't found them on the database or in the doctor list. The doctor there is Dr. LeCroy. I went to Star Care several years ago, but didn't follow up. I guess I should have, and can go back there, if I need to. Right now, I would like to get all of the blood work done and looked at by someone who knows what he or she is doing. I've felt like junk for many years and if this is the beginning of the answer to my symptoms, I would like to find a doctor who will work with me. Suggestions? Is there hope? I'm just so depressed, and fatigued, and have such brain fog, that I don't know how I'm going to be proactive. susie in north fort worth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2009 Report Share Posted August 18, 2009 Elmore is still at Star Care. I know one person who sees her and another who sees her PA. >> Hi,> > I'm new here and have been reading the archives with much interest. I've had hypo symptoms since I was pregnant with my 4th daughter. I went to my doctor for post partum depression, but he treated me for a vitamin b12 deficiency instead. At the time, my TSH was 1.37. I eventually got my vitamin d and b issues resolved. In the meantime, I was diagnosed with raynaud's phenomenon. Thing were were ok until I had another baby. Since then, life has not been functional, or very near to non-functional.> > More blood was taken at the end of May and the end of July by my doctor and he again treated for vitamin d and b12 deficiencies. I managed to get my zinc and folate up. Iron hasn't been an issue for me for a while. I thought he knew what he was doing at the end of May and didn't look up the TSH numbers. I was over 3 at the time, but barely. By the end of July, I was at 5.69, so he prescribed levoxyl.> > I went home and did a bunch of research and have realized that I need a new doctor. I have an appointment with a clinic in Colleyville on Wed, but I haven't found them on the database or in the doctor list. The doctor there is Dr. LeCroy. I went to Star Care several years ago, but didn't follow up. I guess I should have, and can go back there, if I need to. Right now, I would like to get all of the blood work done and looked at by someone who knows what he or she is doing. I've felt like junk for many years and if this is the beginning of the answer to my symptoms, I would like to find a doctor who will work with me.> > Suggestions? Is there hope? I'm just so depressed, and fatigued, and have such brain fog, that I don't know how I'm going to be proactive.> > susie> in north fort worth> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2009 Report Share Posted August 18, 2009 Welcome Susie! I hope you find a doctor that works for you soon. It can be really tough when you have little ones dependent on you. Kim in North Texas. From: Texas_Thyroid_Groups [mailto:Texas_Thyroid_Groups ] On Behalf Of suseyb Sent: Monday, August 17, 2009 8:45 PM To: Texas_Thyroid_Groups Subject: new here Hi, I'm new here and have been reading the archives with much interest. I've had hypo symptoms since I was pregnant with my 4th daughter. I went to my doctor for post partum depression, but he treated me for a vitamin b12 deficiency instead. At the time, my TSH was 1.37. I eventually got my vitamin d and b issues resolved. In the meantime, I was diagnosed with raynaud's phenomenon. Thing were were ok until I had another baby. Since then, life has not been functional, or very near to non-functional. More blood was taken at the end of May and the end of July by my doctor and he again treated for vitamin d and b12 deficiencies. I managed to get my zinc and folate up. Iron hasn't been an issue for me for a while. I thought he knew what he was doing at the end of May and didn't look up the TSH numbers. I was over 3 at the time, but barely. By the end of July, I was at 5.69, so he prescribed levoxyl. I went home and did a bunch of research and have realized that I need a new doctor. I have an appointment with a clinic in Colleyville on Wed, but I haven't found them on the database or in the doctor list. The doctor there is Dr. LeCroy. I went to Star Care several years ago, but didn't follow up. I guess I should have, and can go back there, if I need to. Right now, I would like to get all of the blood work done and looked at by someone who knows what he or she is doing. I've felt like junk for many years and if this is the beginning of the answer to my symptoms, I would like to find a doctor who will work with me. Suggestions? Is there hope? I'm just so depressed, and fatigued, and have such brain fog, that I don't know how I'm going to be proactive. susie in north fort worth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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