Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families ~ Bradshaw

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~ ADULT CHILDREN OF DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES ~

From p 192 of the Bradshaw's book, “Bradshaw On: The Family”.

“In the checklist that follows, see if you identify yourself in several

of the following traits. If you do, it’s likely that you are codependent

and are carrying your family dysfunction. "

A Abandonment issues

D Delusion and denial

U Undifferentiated ego mass

L Loneliness and isolation

T Thought disorder

C Control madness

H Hypervigilant (high-level anxiety)

I Internalized shame

L Lack of boundaries

D Disabled will

R Reactive and reenacting

E Equifinality

N Numbed out

O Offender with or without offender status

F Fixated personality

D Dissociated responses

Y Yearn for parental warmth and approval

S Secrets (dark)

F Faulty communication

U Underinvolved

N Neglect of developmental dependency needs

C Compulsive-addictive behaviors

T Trance – carrying the family spell

I Intimacy problems

O Overinvolved (otheration)

N Narcissistically deprived

A Abuse victim

L Lack of coping skills (underlearning)

F False self – confused identity

A Avoid depression through activity

M Measured, judgmental and perfectionistic

I Inhibited trust

L Loss of own reality – damaged and weak boundaries

I Inflated self-image

E Emotional constraint (with or w/o dramatic outbursts)

S Spiritual bankruptcy

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