Re:Motivation and Insight/Beth

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What is " flooding " ? Is it hiding OCD signs until you are in a safe place to

manifest itself ?

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Hi Beth!

Just thought I'd respond to your post. The whole riddle of this OCD

thing is the motivation and willingness to see what is problematic,

isn't it? Ours is 17 and the insight part was lacking, as well as will

and motivation....and other stuff...

Funnily enough, seeing part of the Oprah show on OCD was a motivation

for our son - he didn't want to be like " those freaks " (teens!). Of

course he is/was no different, just can't admit it to himself... Ours

has been pretty invested in the idea that he's in control of things.

So he does not believe doctors have anything of value to offer. The

only good aspect of this is that he is invested in getting himself

well, and not seeing doctors, and of course the money this saves us.

Like your daughter he has worked out any visible signs of OCD, and he

accomplished this by " flooding " , which as you say is not easy to do.

Motivation really is key.

Currently he says he no longer has OCD, and there are no visible signs

of it, and he reports there are no thoughts either(hmmmm...not so

sure...) According to him he no longer has OCD! We hope this is

true.....we will see. Lately we have focused on behavior and

accountability with no reference to the OCD, which seems to be working.

Sounds like your daughter has done very well with the ERP, you SHOULD

be proud! It is so hard for them, and when they are younger and teased

as you say, it can be heartbreaking, but I guess it gave her the

motivation, so she stood up to it and the OCD bully! I hope she is

able to continue to use the skill she has learned. It can be hard to

manage as a family, as you say, sometimes it makes all the difference

to have a professional on board.

Barb

>

> She is now refusing to deal with some other things that she won't

admit

> are OCD-related. But it's becoming pretty obvious now that her OCD is

> back in action (not that it was ever completely gone). We are trying

to

> work past these things as a family but with very limited success. We

may

> have to head back to the therapist before too long if she continues to

> resist our " at home ERP " .

>

> Beth

>

[Guest guest]

No. In our sons case it was exposing himself to all the contamination

stuff that he feared all at once. It is a technique that usu one

builds up to. Our son said he didn't have the patience or discipline

to do the gradual exposures he'd rather get it over with all at once.

Kind of like ripping a band-aid off slowly or all at once - which hurts

more???

Our son is now able to brush his teeth, pick up the dog, touch the

toilet, be around people with colds... It's been two years that he

could not do these things.

Barb

>

> What is " flooding " ? Is it hiding OCD signs until you are in a safe

place to

> manifest itself ?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Barb, I'm glad to read your son is doing so much better!!!

At one time when was doing really well, I saw no sign of OCD

and asked him was it " gone. " He said it was always there. But I

guess it was just at some lower level and he was able to push it into

the background. However, maybe your son isn't feeling any of the

previous OCD " needs/thoughts " , which is great! Time will tell and my

fingers are crossed!!

>

> Hi Beth!

>

> Just thought I'd respond to your post. The whole riddle of this

OCD

[Guest guest]

>>Our son is now able to brush his teeth, pick up the dog, touch the toilet, be

around people with colds... It's been two years that he could not do these

things.

Wow! He has come a LONG way! Congratulations to him for getting past the

contamination issued all in one fell swoop! That must have been something to

behold!

Beth

[Guest guest]

Oh Barb,

What a wonderful blessing!  This sounds like such a turning point for your son

and you must feel like such a weight has been released!  It is so remarkable for

all on this board to hear such success stories.

Enjoy this time!

in TN

Subject: Re:Motivation and Insight/Beth

To:

Date: Monday, July 14, 2008, 8:13 PM

Hi Beth!

Just thought I'd respond to your post. The whole riddle of this OCD

thing is the motivation and willingness to see what is problematic,

isn't it? Ours is 17 and the insight part was lacking, as well as will

and motivation.. ..and other stuff...

Funnily enough, seeing part of the Oprah show on OCD was a motivation

for our son - he didn't want to be like " those freaks " (teens! ). Of

course he is/was no different, just can't admit it to himself... Ours

has been pretty invested in the idea that he's in control of things.

So he does not believe doctors have anything of value to offer. The

only good aspect of this is that he is invested in getting himself

well, and not seeing doctors, and of course the money this saves us.

Like your daughter he has worked out any visible signs of OCD, and he

accomplished this by " flooding " , which as you say is not easy to do.

Motivation really is key.

Currently he says he no longer has OCD, and there are no visible signs

of it, and he reports there are no thoughts either(hmmmm. ..not so

sure...) According to him he no longer has OCD! We hope this is

true.....we will see. Lately we have focused on behavior and

accountability with no reference to the OCD, which seems to be working.

Sounds like your daughter has done very well with the ERP, you SHOULD

be proud! It is so hard for them, and when they are younger and teased

as you say, it can be heartbreaking, but I guess it gave her the

motivation, so she stood up to it and the OCD bully! I hope she is

able to continue to use the skill she has learned. It can be hard to

manage as a family, as you say, sometimes it makes all the difference

to have a professional on board.

Barb

>

> She is now refusing to deal with some other things that she won't

admit

> are OCD-related. But it's becoming pretty obvious now that her OCD is

> back in action (not that it was ever completely gone). We are trying

to

> work past these things as a family but with very limited success. We

may

> have to head back to the therapist before too long if she continues to

> resist our " at home ERP " .

>

> Beth

>

[Guest guest]

Oh Barb,

What a wonderful blessing!  This sounds like such a turning point for your son

and you must feel like such a weight has been released!  It is so remarkable for

all on this board to hear such success stories.

Enjoy this time!

in TN

Subject: Re:Motivation and Insight/Beth

To:

Date: Monday, July 14, 2008, 8:13 PM

Hi Beth!

Just thought I'd respond to your post. The whole riddle of this OCD

thing is the motivation and willingness to see what is problematic,

isn't it? Ours is 17 and the insight part was lacking, as well as will

and motivation.. ..and other stuff...

Funnily enough, seeing part of the Oprah show on OCD was a motivation

for our son - he didn't want to be like " those freaks " (teens! ). Of

course he is/was no different, just can't admit it to himself... Ours

has been pretty invested in the idea that he's in control of things.

So he does not believe doctors have anything of value to offer. The

only good aspect of this is that he is invested in getting himself

well, and not seeing doctors, and of course the money this saves us.

Like your daughter he has worked out any visible signs of OCD, and he

accomplished this by " flooding " , which as you say is not easy to do.

Motivation really is key.

Currently he says he no longer has OCD, and there are no visible signs

of it, and he reports there are no thoughts either(hmmmm. ..not so

sure...) According to him he no longer has OCD! We hope this is

true.....we will see. Lately we have focused on behavior and

accountability with no reference to the OCD, which seems to be working.

Sounds like your daughter has done very well with the ERP, you SHOULD

be proud! It is so hard for them, and when they are younger and teased

as you say, it can be heartbreaking, but I guess it gave her the

motivation, so she stood up to it and the OCD bully! I hope she is

able to continue to use the skill she has learned. It can be hard to

manage as a family, as you say, sometimes it makes all the difference

to have a professional on board.

Barb

>

> She is now refusing to deal with some other things that she won't

admit

> are OCD-related. But it's becoming pretty obvious now that her OCD is

> back in action (not that it was ever completely gone). We are trying

to

> work past these things as a family but with very limited success. We

may

> have to head back to the therapist before too long if she continues to

> resist our " at home ERP " .

>

> Beth

>

[Guest guest]

Barb,

What did I miss? How did your son turn the corner and start the flooding?

Dina

[Guest guest]

Oops, I just read about the Oprah show--amazing! How wonderful! Does

he say that he feels " freer " or anything?

Dina