wish me luck in terms of grandnada - again!

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Well, the heat is being turned up so that I am getting really hot. I

am finally to the point I am going to ask my sister if my daughter can

go up north and stay with her for maybe a month just to get daughter

away from her grandnada until I can think about what to do next. My

daughter went to a talk at church tonight and of course I could not go

because I work evenings. Well, grandnada had saved her a seat. Not

bad except that before the talk even started grandnada starts crying a

little and writing notes to my daughter wanting my daughter to circle

'yes " or " no " about thinks like " is the situation with me and your mom

all my fault? " She also wants daughter to tell her what she really

thinks of grandnada so that grandnada can go tell it to her previous

therapist. Daughter refused to answer any of it stating that she did

not want to talk about that right now. Note that grandfather was

sitting by them the whole time, but as I have mentioned before, he has

surrendered to saying or agreeing with nada just to avoid his life

being more miserable.

Before I picked daughter up I had the idea but after hearing that I

mentioned to my daughter what would she think about staying with her

aunt for a month or so. She thought that a good idea. She said she

needs a vacation from grandnada. I asked her " do you think you could

handle a vacation from her down here but meaning we can't have

anything to do with the horses? " Naturally, if I pull this one, nada

is going to explode which is why I think it might be a good idea for

her to be out of town so that I can tell nada what I think and she can

have a month to explode herself and not onto my daughter.

I told daughter staying with her aunt would be a temporary until I

could figure out what to do. I told her what we really need to do is,

unfortunately, quit dealing with the horses because as long as we are

tied to them we are tied to grandma. Naturally she did not sound too

happy but at the same time she did sound as though she would

understand.

Nada is pushing my buttons to the point I am going to have to talk

about calling police for harrassment.

Crud. I told her not to sit by grandnada the next 2 nights she goes

to these talks. She said, " but she is saving me a spot " I said,

" well, I guess I will have to take you late so that you can't manage

to sit by her " because I mean that place is packed. I hate to tell

her she can't go to that, too, as she really enjoyed it. Uggh. I

gotta figure out what to do about that one before tomorrow evening.

Well, at least I don't think I would have gotten this far without this

list and a couple of books!

Theresa