Guest guest Posted February 27, 2004 Report Share Posted February 27, 2004 Some of you have mentioned cancer, so I feel like I should respond. My fil died of lung cancer in 1999. He went through 2 rounds of chemo and radiation. He lived a lot longer that most with his conditon. He was the most wonderful human being I ever met for the simple fact that he accepted me at face value. A part of me wants to say that BP's get cancer as punishment for their sins, but in my heart I know it just happens sometimes. My two cents worth. Tammy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2004 Report Share Posted February 28, 2004 My wife had surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation last year for breast cancer. Fortunately it appears to be all behind her now, it was caught early. It was a hard time for both of us. She said she thought she was susceptible to it because she was so distraught about my problems. This hasn't helped my recovery any. - Dan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 29, 2004 Report Share Posted February 29, 2004 Dan, Cancer isn't caused by her being upset over your problems. Cancer cells are in your body from day 1 because they are in your genetic code. Physical things are what cause them to start being a problem. Some things such as being around hogs, exposure to asbestos, certain types of food, certain chemicals, and such as that. But not from someone else having emotional or physical problems. I am sorry to say it, but either your wife was ignorant of the facts, ignorant, but wanted to make you feel guilty, or knew it all along and wanted to blame you any way. If my emotional problems were going to cause any of my family members to have cancer that would be one of the things posted on the cancer web sites and I haven't seen that yet. Don't put up with her blaming you. I am not saying challenge her, but I am saying let it go in one ear and out your bottom end. You didn't cause any of the problems she had with cancer, so don't let it bug you ok? Debbie Re: Cancer My wife had surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation last year for breast cancer. Fortunately it appears to be all behind her now, it was caught early. It was a hard time for both of us. She said she thought she was susceptible to it because she was so distraught about my problems. This hasn't helped my recovery any. - Dan Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to: http://www.BPDCentral.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 29, 2004 Report Share Posted February 29, 2004 Hi Dan, And putting your wife's words through The Oz Translator, she sees it as a blame/shame thing and said " Its all your fault! " But here we know that its called PROJECTION!! Dan, its not your fault. Plus, she'd already had it for 20 years by the time it was recognized. - Edith Dan wrote: > My wife had surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation last year for breast > cancer. Fortunately it appears to be all behind her now, it was > caught early. It was a hard time for both of us. She said she > thought she was susceptible to it because she was so distraught about > my problems. This hasn't helped my recovery any. > > - Dan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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