Re: An 'advanced' KO list??

[Guest guest]

> One of the KOs on this list asked if we could form another list

> for those who are farther along in their recovery. Sure! If any

> of the 'oldies' on this list, who've been here a couple of

> years, would like to shuffle on over to our NonBP-oasis list

> that would be fine. We can reserve that list for them. And, a KO

> can be on both lists if they want.

>

> The NonBP-oasis list is at:

> http://www.yahoogroups.com/group/NonBP-oasis

>

> - Edith

> WTO List Manager & Gal Friday

> http://www.yahoogroups.com/group/GalFriday/messages

Ummmm. How are we to evaluate how far along we are in recovery, so as

to know which list is appropriate? Is it a chronological thing, like

2+ years? I know you said we could join both lists. Not realistic time

wise (for me).

Thanks,

sunsh

[Guest guest]

>

> > Ummmm. How are we to evaluate how far along we are in recovery, so as

> > to know which list is appropriate? Is it a chronological thing, like

> > 2+ years? I know you said we could join both lists. Not realistic time

> > wise (for me).

>

>

> This ModOasis list started in Oct 2000 and some KOs have been on

> this list for 3 1/2 years. The NonBP-oasis list could be for

> those who've been on the ModOasis list longer than 1.5 to 2 years.

>

> - Edith

That makes sense. Geez I wonder what issue's I'll *still* have three

years from now? October 2000. Doesn't seem like it was that long ago.

But it WAS. I can see time distortion being a LT issue. Oh yeah, the

cognitive stuff. I forgot. Memory. That's probably another one. Would

it be Ok to hang out there sometimes, to see what's in store?

sunsh

[Guest guest]

> Hmmm, I'm definitely not going to act as Oasis 'cop'. I think a

> list like that could allow the listmembers who've been here

> longer to express whatever their concerns are. And, that

> NonBP-oasis list hasn't been used for awhile.

Right. We don't need forum police (but I guess we do need BP police, I

hear they like to visit due to control issues, it's hard to

imagine..not the control thing, it's hard to imagine what they'd say here)

>

>

> Nadas don't seem to mellow with age. They're not as strong,

> physically, but they can still be self-centered, willful, and

> cantankerous.

>

> - Edith

And they never get a CLUE, either.

The BEST scenario is when they get brain cancer. nada seemed to

'forget' how to be weird. she even said she felt bad about some of her

antics. she seemed to get all mixed up in time, which was very cool

(bcs I understood what was happening -- watching her brain unravel

rather than argue the date was *interesting*). it was nice while it

lasted. then she expired.

[Guest guest]

<<<<<<<<>

> I have another KO list thats been together since 1997 that still

> generates lots of emails/day. With that list a lot of the

> problems now being discussed deal with aging and dying nadas,

> finding a place for nada to stay (ie, old folks home) after her

> hubby dies, and health issues (both those of KOs as well as

> nadas). As we KOs know, having a nada can be toxic to a KO's

> health. <sigh>

>

> Nadas don't seem to mellow with age. They're not as strong,

> physically, but they can still be self-centered, willful, and

> cantankerous.

>

> - Edith>>>>>>>>>

Edith,

I am interested in joining this list. Would you send the link? My

nada is 83, and father is 84. I may not have anything to contribute,

but I sure could use the advice that the others would have regarding

aging nadas.

Sylvia