Re: PAIN the dark messenger

[Guest guest]

This is excellent!

- Edith

free_spirit_etc wrote:

> http://www.colleenjoypage.com/articles_pain.htm

>

> PAIN the dark messenger By Colleen-Joy Page as published in Namaste

> magazine (2000). Copyright © 2000, All rights reserved.

>

> When pain speaks to you, do you listen? Or do you suppress it's cry,

> banishing it to some remote region of your mind and body?

>

> Pain lives always in the dark, empty places of your being. When you

> try to kill it or suppress it, it lives on and grows. It thrives in

> the darkness of fear and ignorance. Its voice becomes louder when you

> try to silence it. Pain of any kind, whether emotional, physical or

> mental is not the cause. Pain is the messenger. Is it helpful to

> shoot the messenger?

>

> Your body uses pain to warn you of a bodily function that is out of

> balance. It hopes that you will listen and " bring to light " the cause

> of the underlying imbalance. Emotional and mental pain are also

> messengers of imbalance and discord. Modern society teaches us to

> want quick fixes and immediate gratification, so we are armed and go

> with guns blazing after the messenger. Rather than listening we take

> a painkiller to kill off the body ache. A painkiller does not fix the

> cause of the pain it just silences the messenger. Physical

> painkillers are easy to name, but what of your emotional and mental

> painkillers?

>

> The physical body is the final destination of pain that begins its

> journey in the energy bodies of emotion and thought. The imbalances

> that ultimately affect our physical health begin in non-physical

> health. Pain always starts sending its signals to us on the mental

> and emotional levels. If we kill these messengers we ignore the

> hidden imbalance that ultimately manifests physically. So most

> importantly we must learn about our non-physical pain.

>

> What does it mean to take and emotional or mental painkiller? By

> suppressing emotional or mental pain you build a dark place within, a

> self made dungeon, and then you push your pain in, build walls around

> it and lock the door. You want it dark because you do not want to

> see. You want it silenced because you do not want to hear. You return

> to the surface of your life and try to pretend that the pain is

> safely gone. You fill your life with distractions and painkilling

> activities, so that you will forget about your prisoner. Just when

> you think you have killed the pain, your painkillers where off. You

> wish for dreamless sleep and ignore the empty feelings that grow

> inside you. You can't be alone or in silence with yourself because

> then you will hear pain calling from behind it's walls. So you fill

> you life with anything to keep the volume up and to keep you away

> from yourself. When life brings you reminders of pain you go back and

> build thicker, and thicker walls, until one day the dungeon fills the

> castle that is you, and you find that you are completely empty and in

> darkness. You have accomplished your goal, you are victorious because

> you feel no pain, but neither can you feel anything else. You feel no

> love, no joy, no laughter and no life. When you shut in the darkness,

> you shut out the light.

>

> back to top

>

> Feeling- You build the dungeon and walls to try to escape feeling the

> pain of the moment. In that moment you believe that you are smaller

> than the source of the pain and your fear of being powerless sends

> you into plan B… you lock it away. What you do not realise then, is

> that the prisoner is a part of yourself and not a stranger. When you

> build a dark prison to fill with your pain you wall off pieces of

> yourself. So instead of allowing a short-term experience of pain you

> sentence yourself to emptiness and numbness. You begin as whole and

> end up with holes. Like a circle that becomes a jigsaw piece you feel

> empty and unfulfilled and then go out into the world looking for the

> missing parts of you. You believe that only an external source can

> give you back to yourself. Once upon a time you disowned the parts of

> yourself that came with pain, so only you can reintegrate them. No

> one else is responsible for your happiness and wholeness, only you

> are. External sources of wholeness (relationships, material

> possessions, etc.) provide us with reminders of what wholeness feels

> like but they are not true wholeness. True wholeness comes from

> filling our holes from the inside out. When you need another to make

> you feel whole, beautiful, worthy or loved this is an indication that

> the parts of yourself that know beauty, wholeness, self-worth or love

> are walled off along with the pain that came to speak to you about

> truth.

>

> To find wholeness again you must face the prisoner of every dungeon

> that walls off the parts of your whole self. And you must face the

> prison warder and question the beliefs that built the dungeon. The

> only way out is in.

>

> Facing - In time the wall that guards your pain, becomes a mask. You

> wear the mask whenever you fear that the truth of that part of

> yourself will be revealed. The child learns to build a mask to hide

> the parts of the self that are seen to elicit pain. The shame that is

> then associated with true feelings and true self-expression keeps the

> mask firmly in place. After years of wearing a mask you believe that

> you are the mask and you further deny the part of yourself that is

> buried behind walls of darkness. You know that you are wearing a mask

> when you look at your life and don't see YOU in it. When you look at

> your relationships and don't see YOU in the relationships. If you are

> wearing a mask, YOU are not the one living and relating, your mask

> is! Your mask is alive and you are not.

>

> Truth - The way to wholeness is from the inside out. If you seek

> wholeness you must own the mask rather than be the mask. Then you

> must find the truth of who you are and let it see the light of day.

> The truth is that you are equal to anything. Pain comes to tell you

> that you feel less than or greater than. To have any part of the Self

> be less than or greater than takes you away from being a whole

> perfect circle to being a jigsaw with holes.

>

> back to top

>

> When you face the hardest task but know inside that you are equal to

> it, you face it with soul power and truth. When you can equal

> yourself to everything that you think is greater than you AND when

> you can equal yourself to everything that you think is lesser than

> you, you will find the source of the pain and can find healing. To be

> equal to something or someone opens dialogue and brings things to

> light. Darkness does not fight the light, it is not an equal and

> opposing force. Ignorance and fear may keep you in the dark but

> knowledge and truth will light up even the darkest dungeon. Darkness

> is a lack of wholeness. Your soul is the true you. It is whole, and

> seeks to be whole in a physical body. It is equal to everything, it

> needs nothing. It wants to express and feel this while in the

> physical world. Your soul is the silence that brings light to the

> inner dungeons. Your soul can face the messenger of pain without

> fear, it will listen with patience and understanding and then if you

> allow it to, it will fill your body with truth, dissolve the walls

> and fill the holes.

>

> Fear digs holes, love builds wholeness.

>

> " Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which

> your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how

> else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the

> more joy you can contain " . Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet.

>

> If you seek to fill other's holes, you are using your jigsaw and are

> also not whole. Don't rob others of the joy of filling their own

> holes with self-love and self worth. If you desire that another be

> whole for the sake of your happiness, you act from your own

> unfulfilled need and reveal your own lack of wholeness. You make the

> other responsible for your happiness.

>

> This is indeed a glimpse into the sacred mirror or life. Thank the

> mirror when it shows you your holes, thank the messenger that brings

> the reminder. Pain is a dark messenger but its message is one of

> light. The greatest act of love you can bring to the world is to be

> visible. Show others what a person looks like without a mask. Remind

> others of their wholeness by being whole.

>

[Guest guest]

I'm so glad I found it..because it really speaks to me right now...

and it actually says a lot of things you have been telling us..

I just typed " The body speaks for the soul if the soul does not find

a voice " into SEARCH and this appeared.

Free

>

> > http://www.colleenjoypage.com/articles_pain.htm

> >

> > PAIN the dark messenger By Colleen-Joy Page as published in

Namaste

> > magazine (2000). Copyright © 2000, All rights reserved.

> >

> > When pain speaks to you, do you listen? Or do you suppress it's

cry,

> > banishing it to some remote region of your mind and body?

> >

> > Pain lives always in the dark, empty places of your being. When

you

> > try to kill it or suppress it, it lives on and grows. It thrives

in

> > the darkness of fear and ignorance. Its voice becomes louder when

you

> > try to silence it. Pain of any kind, whether emotional, physical

or

> > mental is not the cause. Pain is the messenger. Is it helpful to

> > shoot the messenger?

> >

> > Your body uses pain to warn you of a bodily function that is out

of

> > balance. It hopes that you will listen and " bring to light " the

cause

> > of the underlying imbalance. Emotional and mental pain are also

> > messengers of imbalance and discord. Modern society teaches us to

> > want quick fixes and immediate gratification, so we are armed and

go

> > with guns blazing after the messenger. Rather than listening we

take

> > a painkiller to kill off the body ache. A painkiller does not fix

the

> > cause of the pain it just silences the messenger. Physical

> > painkillers are easy to name, but what of your emotional and

mental

> > painkillers?

> >

> > The physical body is the final destination of pain that begins

its

> > journey in the energy bodies of emotion and thought. The

imbalances

> > that ultimately affect our physical health begin in non-physical

> > health. Pain always starts sending its signals to us on the

mental

> > and emotional levels. If we kill these messengers we ignore the

> > hidden imbalance that ultimately manifests physically. So most

> > importantly we must learn about our non-physical pain.

> >

> > What does it mean to take and emotional or mental painkiller? By

> > suppressing emotional or mental pain you build a dark place

within, a

> > self made dungeon, and then you push your pain in, build walls

around

> > it and lock the door. You want it dark because you do not want to

> > see. You want it silenced because you do not want to hear. You

return

> > to the surface of your life and try to pretend that the pain is

> > safely gone. You fill your life with distractions and painkilling

> > activities, so that you will forget about your prisoner. Just

when

> > you think you have killed the pain, your painkillers where off.

You

> > wish for dreamless sleep and ignore the empty feelings that grow

> > inside you. You can't be alone or in silence with yourself

because

> > then you will hear pain calling from behind it's walls. So you

fill

> > you life with anything to keep the volume up and to keep you away

> > from yourself. When life brings you reminders of pain you go back

and

> > build thicker, and thicker walls, until one day the dungeon fills

the

> > castle that is you, and you find that you are completely empty

and in

> > darkness. You have accomplished your goal, you are victorious

because

> > you feel no pain, but neither can you feel anything else. You

feel no

> > love, no joy, no laughter and no life. When you shut in the

darkness,

> > you shut out the light.

> >

> > back to top

> >

> > Feeling- You build the dungeon and walls to try to escape feeling

the

> > pain of the moment. In that moment you believe that you are

smaller

> > than the source of the pain and your fear of being powerless

sends

> > you into plan B… you lock it away. What you do not realise then,

is

> > that the prisoner is a part of yourself and not a stranger. When

you

> > build a dark prison to fill with your pain you wall off pieces of

> > yourself. So instead of allowing a short-term experience of pain

you

> > sentence yourself to emptiness and numbness. You begin as whole

and

> > end up with holes. Like a circle that becomes a jigsaw piece you

feel

> > empty and unfulfilled and then go out into the world looking for

the

> > missing parts of you. You believe that only an external source

can

> > give you back to yourself. Once upon a time you disowned the

parts of

> > yourself that came with pain, so only you can reintegrate them.

No

> > one else is responsible for your happiness and wholeness, only

you

> > are. External sources of wholeness (relationships, material

> > possessions, etc.) provide us with reminders of what wholeness

feels

> > like but they are not true wholeness. True wholeness comes from

> > filling our holes from the inside out. When you need another to

make

> > you feel whole, beautiful, worthy or loved this is an indication

that

> > the parts of yourself that know beauty, wholeness, self-worth or

love

> > are walled off along with the pain that came to speak to you

about

> > truth.

> >

> > To find wholeness again you must face the prisoner of every

dungeon

> > that walls off the parts of your whole self. And you must face

the

> > prison warder and question the beliefs that built the dungeon.

The

> > only way out is in.

> >

> > Facing - In time the wall that guards your pain, becomes a mask.

You

> > wear the mask whenever you fear that the truth of that part of

> > yourself will be revealed. The child learns to build a mask to

hide

> > the parts of the self that are seen to elicit pain. The shame

that is

> > then associated with true feelings and true self-expression keeps

the

> > mask firmly in place. After years of wearing a mask you believe

that

> > you are the mask and you further deny the part of yourself that

is

> > buried behind walls of darkness. You know that you are wearing a

mask

> > when you look at your life and don't see YOU in it. When you look

at

> > your relationships and don't see YOU in the relationships. If you

are

> > wearing a mask, YOU are not the one living and relating, your

mask

> > is! Your mask is alive and you are not.

> >

> > Truth - The way to wholeness is from the inside out. If you seek

> > wholeness you must own the mask rather than be the mask. Then you

> > must find the truth of who you are and let it see the light of

day.

> > The truth is that you are equal to anything. Pain comes to tell

you

> > that you feel less than or greater than. To have any part of the

Self

> > be less than or greater than takes you away from being a whole

> > perfect circle to being a jigsaw with holes.

> >

> > back to top

> >

> > When you face the hardest task but know inside that you are equal

to

> > it, you face it with soul power and truth. When you can equal

> > yourself to everything that you think is greater than you AND

when

> > you can equal yourself to everything that you think is lesser

than

> > you, you will find the source of the pain and can find healing.

To be

> > equal to something or someone opens dialogue and brings things to

> > light. Darkness does not fight the light, it is not an equal and

> > opposing force. Ignorance and fear may keep you in the dark but

> > knowledge and truth will light up even the darkest dungeon.

Darkness

> > is a lack of wholeness. Your soul is the true you. It is whole,

and

> > seeks to be whole in a physical body. It is equal to everything,

it

> > needs nothing. It wants to express and feel this while in the

> > physical world. Your soul is the silence that brings light to the

> > inner dungeons. Your soul can face the messenger of pain without

> > fear, it will listen with patience and understanding and then if

you

> > allow it to, it will fill your body with truth, dissolve the

walls

> > and fill the holes.

> >

> > Fear digs holes, love builds wholeness.

> >

> > " Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from

which

> > your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And

how

> > else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being,

the

> > more joy you can contain " . Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet.

> >

> > If you seek to fill other's holes, you are using your jigsaw and

are

> > also not whole. Don't rob others of the joy of filling their own

> > holes with self-love and self worth. If you desire that another

be

> > whole for the sake of your happiness, you act from your own

> > unfulfilled need and reveal your own lack of wholeness. You make

the

> > other responsible for your happiness.

> >

> > This is indeed a glimpse into the sacred mirror or life. Thank

the

> > mirror when it shows you your holes, thank the messenger that

brings

> > the reminder. Pain is a dark messenger but its message is one of

> > light. The greatest act of love you can bring to the world is to

be

> > visible. Show others what a person looks like without a mask.

Remind

> > others of their wholeness by being whole.

> >