Re: sandwich generation was Re: katherine

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katherine

we would be glad to meet you adn your mom it is always nice to meet people

and put a face with a name , i have made some very dear friends here, and am

looking forward to meeting some people, hope to see yoou soon,

donnie and i are 'parents' of 4 yorkies and 2 tabby cats, no children. but

there are others that are , so i am sure you will be hearing from some. sharon

a smile a day keeps the meanies away!!!

laughter is a breath of fresh air!

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My kids are 3.5 and 5 ...

Mom and Dad lived with us before Dad was sick. The idea was that

they would help take care of the kids - when they were babies and as

they got older they would meet the bus - take them for ice cream ... to

the park etc.

Unfortunately life had other ideas. Mom watched them until my youngest was

about one but then Dad started to be more work than the kids. Then my

husband got laid off and we decided this was actually a good thing -

he'd be home to help with the kids and Dad (to help pick him up the

many times he fell !).

Next year hubby got a job offer back at his old company for more $$ and

he would get back all his years. So he went back to work and I took

" early retirement " LOL.

Its not easy on kids - but perhaps because they always lived here - they

adjusted. my son used to get upset when Mom used to yell at grampa (for

throwing his food or doing one of the other odd things LBDers can do)...

he was very protective of grampa.

He also used to help at lot - bring his food to his room and sit in there

and eat with him etc.

He really took it hard last April when we lost Dad ... Dad was in/out of

the hospital so much the 3 months prior - I think my son thinks Heaven is

a big hospital some where and grampa will come back as soon as God fixes him.

But my Dad loved these kids to pieces - so I'm glad he got to spend his last

days with them.

The sandwich generation is tough - but as my husband pointed out today - better

to take care of parents in your 40's than in your 60's !

(My cousin took care of her Mom for years after her stoke - my Aunt died

at around 90 but my cousin died less than a year later when she was in her

60's !)

HUGS - its a tough road but we're all here for you !

Donna

cg to Dad who passed April 14, 2004 at 81

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> Sharon,

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> I have 2 boys, ages 5 and 8. They are one of the reasons that my dad

> will probably never live with us - he loves them, but after a bit (like

> 30-60 min), they are too much for him. Being boys, and still relatively

> young, they are BUSY, loud, building castles in the middle of the floor,

> racing cars down the hallway, etc. Not conducive to someone who is

> having problems walking. I am mostly trying to take them one at a time

> to go visit with my dad (so they don't fight and can pay more attention

> to him).

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> I plan on making it over there to meet people somehow - I'm just not

> sure when or for how long. If nothing else my mom and I can switch off.

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> Is anyone else here caring for young kids and parents?

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> LadySmilingAtU@... wrote:

> > katherine if you cannot dont worry i still have time to organize, no

> > problem, how many kids do you hve??? i was never blessed iwth children of

my own,

> > but dopnnie and i both adore them our nieces two kids are our pride an joy.

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> > adn almost 2, i dont get to see them exept maybe 2-3 times a year but linda

> > and larry their parents make sure tey know who uncle donnie adn aunt sharon

> > are. i love it, hugs sharon m,

> > i truly hope that you can make it to meet some of us, even if not during the

> > meeting times for those who are just coming in for the day, but servereal of

> > us will be there a frew days, so there will me more opportuintes to meet .

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> > you then hugs sharon m

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> > a smile a day keeps the meanies away!!!

> > laughter is a breath of fresh air!

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> Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

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