Flaming Explained

[Guest guest]

I have owned and/or

been a moderator on many groups (legal and otherwise)

for more than 20 years so I have some idea of what flaming is and

how it starts. It starts with ones perspective.

For example: Sit down with an argumentative rock head across the

table from you. Holding a coffee cup in your right hand, sit it on

the table with the handle to the right. Ask the argumentative rock

head what side the handle is on.

They will argue with you until the cows come home that the handle is

on the LEFT when you see that the handle as being on the RIGHT. It's

all in ones perspective and, both of you are correct FROM YOUR

PERSPECTIVE.

If YOU are the argumentative rock head, you will NEVER

put yourself in the other persons shoes and, therefore, can NEVER

see anything from someone else's perspective. Thus we have destroyed

interpersonal relationships between group members, husbands and

wives, friends, relatives and/or acquaintances. Your unwillingness

to see the difference in perspectives just keeps fanning the flames

of separation, disgust and anger.

Internet flaming starts exactly this way. I mention your name

because I feel I know more than you, you fire back at me because you

feel you know more than me. Both of us are correct but refuse to see

it from the others PERSPECTIVE. People put others down to make

themselves look good IN THEIR OWN EYES and from THEIR PERSPECTIVE,

simple as that.

The other side of the coin is... If you don't like the way this

group is run go start your own group and run it however you want.

Bad mouthing me or anyone else in the group will only get you

Moderated or Banned. New people join the group regularly so you

won't be missed. The door to the group swings both ways.

Flaming in the SLIGHTEST DEGREE will not be tolerated ON OR OFF

LIST, period. It matters not to us one whit whether or not you can

see it from the Mods perspective. We Mods are not interested in

moderating or banning anybody but rest assured, we will if

necessary.

We will have peace.

Bill

-- To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism. To steal from many is research.