Re: Dargie

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In a message dated 9/11/2004 10:08:37 AM Central Daylight Time,

dargielists@... writes:

My father simply will not understand that a regular schedule is

necessary.

dargie,

we have a very set schedule here for dad and he thrives on it, we have b

runch with meds at 1130 we have snack at 230 we have dinner 530 we ahve snack

and meds at 8pm he has snacks cookies, crackers, nuts, etc on jhis bedside.

he has ice water readily avalable, donnie and i have a sitter on friday nites

so we can bowl a league which i am secretary for. we write all our schedules

on a calendar for him his appointemtns our trips to nashville , bowling

nites, etc, and even if there is no bowling as it is a off nite, we go out

anyway

do something dfferent and keep his schedule dad gets very aggitated if we

fluctuate from his schedule, it certainly would make life much easier for you

if

you could get dad to do that, bu t i know that can be difficult,

good luck sharon m

a smile a day keeps the meanies away!!!

laughter is a breath of fresh air!

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At 10:56 AM 8/20/2004, you wrote:

>P.S. Prozac is one of the older SSRI's (anti-depressants) ask your doctor

>of the newer ones which have fewer side effects.

Thanks, I'll see what I can do. I have to do something since it's

only 10 a.m. and already I have a blinding headache from dealing with the

folks. My father simply will not understand that a regular schedule is

necessary. He gets Mom up for breakfast whenever he feels like it (and

blames her), makes a wreck of the kitchen, doesn't remember to put her gait

belt on and gives her the wrong walker when he takes her from room to room,

and of course I'm the bad guy, the unreasonable daughter who " thinks it's

easy. "

I said " I've been doing this for ten years. I KNOW it's not easy. "

I just have to keep telling myself that if she falls when she's

with him, there's nothing I can do or could have done about it. All I can

do is keep trying to parent-proof everything. At least the microwave won't

work for him. *g*

dargie (ow, it hurts when I roll my eyes in exasperation)

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I feel for you. My dad never wanted to accept that my mother was not going

to get better. He would get her and put her in the car and take her for a

ride. First he had no business trying to hold her up when getting her in and

out of the car and he really had no business driving but we decided that if

something happened during this time we would figure out how to deal with it.

Because how do you stop your parents???

Luckily nothing ever did.

cathy M

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>At 10:56 AM 8/20/2004, you wrote:

> >P.S. Prozac is one of the older SSRI's (anti-depressants) ask your

>doctor

> >of the newer ones which have fewer side effects.

>

> Thanks, I'll see what I can do. I have to do something since

>it's

>only 10 a.m. and already I have a blinding headache from dealing with the

>folks. My father simply will not understand that a regular schedule is

>necessary. He gets Mom up for breakfast whenever he feels like it (and

>blames her), makes a wreck of the kitchen, doesn't remember to put her gait

>belt on and gives her the wrong walker when he takes her from room to room,

>and of course I'm the bad guy, the unreasonable daughter who " thinks it's

>easy. "

> I said " I've been doing this for ten years. I KNOW it's not

>easy. "

>

> I just have to keep telling myself that if she falls when she's

>with him, there's nothing I can do or could have done about it. All I can

>do is keep trying to parent-proof everything. At least the microwave won't

>work for him. *g*

>

> dargie (ow, it hurts when I roll my eyes in exasperation)

>

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