Hallucinations of a sexual nature

August 12, 2004

Dear friends

I forgot to mention that when I was chatting to Auntie Betty about Barry she

made a couple of comments that I thought might interest the group.

A couple of weeks ago, their son and daughter-in-law took them both on a weeks

holiday at a hotel especially adapted for disabled residents. I was very

surprised and delighted to hear that Betty had managed to get some rest and that

Barry had enjoyed it. What surprised me even more was that while he was at the

hotel he didn't hallucinate or get 'visits' from his usual imaginary friends. I

was always warned that taking dementia patients out of their usual environment

was very risky as they could deteriorate without the familiar surroundings BUT

Barry seemed to benefit from it!

As soon as Barry was home the 'visitors' returned. His hallucinations are

particularly severe at night when he plagued by men trying to climb into his bed

to have sex with him! It is very distressing for Betty but she tries to

'lighten' the moment with a usual retort, ' You should be so lucky - why don't

you send them next door into my room!?'

I am sure there is a 'sexual' component to this illness - my dad would make

outrageous comments about women's breasts and even resorted to crude remarks. It

was devastating! For some reason he suddenly imagined himself to be a much

younger stud!! He truly believed he was irresistible - he was such a flirt -

and I worried about his comments to the female nurses and carers. I know he made

inappropriate 'gestures' to a couple of the younger nurses - I was horrified!!

It takes some guts to laugh about it even now.

I'm wondering if this is a problem with all dementias, not just LBD?

I've noted Sharon M's comments about her dad - it's a real tough one!

Hugs to all

Sally x

August 12, 2004

Hello,

I have had some experiences with this, but I do not feel really

comfortable talking about it here. As the matter of fact I have

spoken very little about it since leaving the hospital. I am finding

it interesting though that there are others that have had this. So

far it has bee men and I just wonder without you going into detail if

there have been any women. Just curious is all. I will have to watch

out for further posts on this subject....Hugs...Patti

> Dear friends

> I forgot to mention that when I was chatting to Auntie Betty about

Barry she made a couple of comments that I thought might interest the

group.

> A couple of weeks ago, their son and daughter-in-law took them both

on a weeks holiday at a hotel especially adapted for disabled

residents. I was very surprised and delighted to hear that Betty had

managed to get some rest and that Barry had enjoyed it. What

surprised me even more was that while he was at the hotel he didn't

hallucinate or get 'visits' from his usual imaginary friends. I was

always warned that taking dementia patients out of their usual

environment was very risky as they could deteriorate without the

familiar surroundings BUT Barry seemed to benefit from it!

> As soon as Barry was home the 'visitors' returned. His

hallucinations are particularly severe at night when he plagued by

men trying to climb into his bed to have sex with him! It is very

distressing for Betty but she tries to 'lighten' the moment with a

usual retort, ' You should be so lucky - why don't you send them next

door into my room!?'

> I am sure there is a 'sexual' component to this illness - my dad

would make outrageous comments about women's breasts and even

resorted to crude remarks. It was devastating! For some reason he

suddenly imagined himself to be a much younger stud!! He truly

believed he was irresistible - he was such a flirt - and I worried

about his comments to the female nurses and carers. I know he made

inappropriate 'gestures' to a couple of the younger nurses - I was

horrified!! It takes some guts to laugh about it even now.

> I'm wondering if this is a problem with all dementias, not just LBD?

> I've noted Sharon M's comments about her dad - it's a real tough

one!

> Hugs to all

> Sally x

>

August 13, 2004

Hi Jacqui,

I thank you for telling me this. I was really concerned maybe it was

something in me that had brought this on so I am greatly to read

about others that have experienced things in this line as well. I

hate this disease! I do love all of you though as you are honest and

straightforward and I respect that in people. You are truly genuine

people trying to help one another and that has been something I have

had trouble finding in a support group. That is kind of sad isn't it?

I think this group should be set up as a model for all support

groups....Hugs...Patti

> Patti

>

> My Mom's hallucinations in her bedroom are of men. She see them in

bed with

> her. She usually says some pretty interesting(?) things to them.

Then the

> next morning she says they tried to seduce her but she resisted.

There are

> also boys trying to watch her pee. So you see sexual feelings must

come out in

> some unusual way for the person with LBD. I mean to say in a way

they would

> never dream of if they were not inflicted with LBD.

>

> My Dad also had these feeling right before he died. He asked my

daughters,

> neices and a very good friend who helped care for him to get into

bed with him.

> He was also a boob man.

>

> Hugs

> Jacqui

>

August 13, 2004

Hi Courage,

Thank you so much. I have for the moment moved on an marked it off to

just the hallucinations, but have wondered about myself at times. Not

so much now as I did right after the peoblems. I do hope that kind of

behavior does not return nor do the dreams that accompanied them.

When you mentioned the time of your other pinching your boob it

brought back a memory of my mother doing the same and as I recall it

was more than once and each time she would just giggle. I thought

little about it at the time and to tell you the truth anything that

made mother smile or laugh didn't really bother me as most of the

time she was in tears and crying. I just thought she was being

silly.I asked her once why she did that and her response was

something like I don't know just thought it would be fun.

I have always been a little bit on the flirtatious side I guess

feeling as relaxed with men as with women. I say that, but actually

it was just that I would tease them as I would my girl friends. I the

hospital though it was as though there was no right or wrong when it

came to morals. I knew I was marrried and yet it was not wrong for me

to flirt and even propose to one of the staff members. It was the

dreams that were so horrid and I had no idea as to where they came

from or what had caused them, but it was my belief at the time that

it was othing, but a sex factory to the point it was like a conveyor

belt putting people through including my husband. It was as if all

was so wicked in that area and so common that what I did was actually

still being very modest and even sweet. So it was my whole outlook

that was warped and there was nothing wrong in asking an engaged man

to marry you. By the way he did say I would be next in line if it

didn't work out. Of course he was teasing with me and I knew that.

His wedding day was the day I was released and I wished him the very

best. I made a big scene about how good my Dr. looked when he came to

visit and embarrassed him absolutely to death I am sure, but he

thanked me and changed the subject to me and how I was feeling. The

dreams though so real and vivid talking about them just brings them

all back and refreshes them in my mind and I am trying to forget them.

At some time maybe I will have the courage to write them down

somewhere and what was happening at that time, but each time I start

I have to stop. I will always keep in mind though that I can email

you all or write to you something that I need to get off my chest and

that is only o0ne of the reasons why I love you all...Hugs...Patti

> >> Dear friends

> >> I forgot to mention that when I was chatting to Auntie Betty

about

> >Barry she made a couple of comments that I thought might interest

the

> >group.

> >> A couple of weeks ago, their son and daughter-in-law took them

both

> >on a weeks holiday at a hotel especially adapted for disabled

> >residents. I was very surprised and delighted to hear that Betty

had

> >managed to get some rest and that Barry had enjoyed it. What

> >surprised me even more was that while he was at the hotel he didn't

> >hallucinate or get 'visits' from his usual imaginary friends. I was

> >always warned that taking dementia patients out of their usual

> >environment was very risky as they could deteriorate without the

> >familiar surroundings BUT Barry seemed to benefit from it!

> >> As soon as Barry was home the 'visitors' returned. His

> >hallucinations are particularly severe at night when he plagued by

> >men trying to climb into his bed to have sex with him! It is very

> >distressing for Betty but she tries to 'lighten' the moment with a

> >usual retort, ' You should be so lucky - why don't you send them

> >> I am sure there is a 'sexual' component to this illness - my dad

> >would make outrageous comments about women's breasts and even

> >resorted to crude remarks. It was devastating! For some reason he

> >suddenly imagined himself to be a much younger stud!! He truly

> >believed he was irresistible - he was such a flirt - and I worried

> >about his comments to the female nurses and carers. I know he made

> >inappropriate 'gestures' to a couple of the younger nurses - I was

> >horrified!! It takes some guts to laugh about it even now.

> >> I'm wondering if this is a problem with all dementias, not just

LBD?

> >> I've noted Sharon M's comments about her dad - it's a real tough

> >one!

> >> Hugs to all

> >> Sally x

> >>

August 14, 2004

Yes, Liam had an oriental woman who visited him during the night. Since she came

to visit fairly often we called her Mrs. Lee. He would often thank me for being

so good in bed when I had not been in his bed. I figured it was harmless and if

it made him feel good, why not. Too many things were painful for him.

Simmel

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