Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others- mood swings?

[Guest guest]

Love the topic! My 8 yo son is very similar. We've tried the " starve it out "

method and it doesn't work for our son either. He becomes a monster! I think

it has to do with low blood sugar. We have to keep him fed regularly. Half the

time he would forget if we didn't prepare food and put it in front of him. When

my son's mood starts heading south, we always have to check when the last time

he ate was.

Does anyone else notice issues with low blood sugar, mood changes and

Asperger's?

Kristy in VA, USA

> >

> > Hey, everyone,

> > I've really loved this back and forth discussion regarding how others view

> us as lazy or as bad parents. Going along with this sort of thinking, have

> any of you experienced this type of criticism coming from family members or

> friends?

> > I have....many more times than I can write about here. I love all my kin

> dearly, don't get me wrong, but sometimes they come out with very hurtful

> things.

> > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and

> better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED

> (selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with

> brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids

> have no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't

> work or whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not

> parenting the right way.

> > I can't help but feel that secretly they think my bad parenting is

> actually the cause of my grandson behaving the way he does. This makes me

> sad.

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

For us it's not necessarily the blood sugar but just hunger in general...it does effect his behavior To: autism-aspergers Sent: Sunday, March 18, 2012 9:45 AM Subject: Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others- mood swings?

Love the topic! My 8 yo son is very similar. We've tried the "starve it out" method and it doesn't work for our son either. He becomes a monster! I think it has to do with low blood sugar. We have to keep him fed regularly. Half the time he would forget if we didn't prepare food and put it in front of him. When my son's mood starts heading south, we always have to check when the last time he ate was.

Does anyone else notice issues with low blood sugar, mood changes and Asperger's?

Kristy in VA, USA

> >

> > Hey, everyone,

> > I've really loved this back and forth discussion regarding how others view

> us as lazy or as bad parents. Going along with this sort of thinking, have

> any of you experienced this type of criticism coming from family members or

> friends?

> > I have....many more times than I can write about here. I love all my kin

> dearly, don't get me wrong, but sometimes they come out with very hurtful

> things.

> > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and

> better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED

> (selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with

> brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids

> have no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't

> work or whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not

> parenting the right way.

> > I can't help but feel that secretly they think my bad parenting is

> actually the cause of my grandson behaving the way he does. This makes me

> sad.

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I'm not sure if there's a link or if it's just a normal thing. I've recognized that all three of my kids have blood sugar issues, but then again, so do I. As far as "starve it out" I've always felt like there were so many more important things to deal with that fighting over food just never happened in my house. For many years I made two different meals, one for us and one for E. For the past couple years, I've just made sure to have plenty of E friendly stuff in the house. Now if he doesn't like what I've made, he fixes himself something. Thankfully any of his grandparents he stays with feed him exactly the same. They make meals for us and if he doesn't want it, they offer alternatives. One funny thing is, E will eat eggs at my mom's house, actually will ASK

her to make scrambled eggs for him but he won't touch eggs in any form at my house. Jodi What children take from us, they give…We become people who feel more deeply, question more deeply, hurt more deeply, and love more deeply. Taitz, O Magazine, May 2003 ***To: autism-aspergers Sent: Sun, March 18, 2012 9:45:14 AMSubject: Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others-

mood swings?

Love the topic! My 8 yo son is very similar. We've tried the "starve it out" method and it doesn't work for our son either. He becomes a monster! I think it has to do with low blood sugar. We have to keep him fed regularly. Half the time he would forget if we didn't prepare food and put it in front of him. When my son's mood starts heading south, we always have to check when the last time he ate was.

Does anyone else notice issues with low blood sugar, mood changes and Asperger's?

Kristy in VA, USA,_._,___

[Guest guest]

I think that is our problem too. We had to make a rule that said that my daughter couldn't bring up dinner until 5pm because if not, she started asking about dinner right after lunch or as soon as she got home from school. She will get agitated if we are not either getting ready or already eating dinner at 5:30. Life as we know it is over if she isn't given dinner by 6.

Oh my...life on the spectrum can be so fun!

  Only two defining forces have ever offered to die for you;

Jesus Christ and the American Soldier.

One died for your soul; the other for your freedom.

-- Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others- mood swings?

Love the topic! My 8 yo son is very similar. We've tried the "starve it out" method and it doesn't work for our son either. He becomes a monster! I think it has to do with low blood sugar. We have to keep him fed regularly. Half the time he would forget if we didn't prepare food and put it in front of him. When my son's mood starts heading south, we always have to check when the last time he ate was. Does anyone else notice issues with low blood sugar, mood changes and Asperger's?Kristy in VA, USA> >> > Hey, everyone,> > I've really loved this back and forth discussion regarding how others view> us as lazy or as bad parents. Going along with this sort of thinking, have> any of you experienced this type of criticism coming from family members or> friends?> > I have....many more times than I can write about here. I love all my kin> dearly, don't get me wrong, but sometimes they come out with very hurtful> things.> > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and> better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED> (selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with> brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids> have no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't> work or whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not> parenting the right way.> > I can't help but feel that secretly they think my bad parenting is> actually the cause of my grandson behaving the way he does. This makes me> sad.> > > >>

[Guest guest]

Oh yes...if my son doesn't eat he gets SO grumpy! I can always tell. I am the same way. My anxiety and irritation goes up 10 fold if I am hungry! I have always been that way!LoriSubject: Re: Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others- mood swings?To: autism-aspergers Date: Sunday, March 18, 2012, 9:20 PM

I think that is our problem too. We had to make a rule that said that my daughter couldn't bring up dinner until 5pm because if not, she started asking about dinner right after lunch or as soon as she got home from school. She will get agitated if we are not either getting ready or already eating dinner at 5:30. Life as we know it is over if she isn't given dinner by 6.

Oh my...life on the spectrum can be so fun!

  Only two defining forces have ever offered to die for you;

Jesus Christ and the American Soldier.

One died for your soul; the other for your freedom.

-- Re: Bad parenting as viewed by others- mood swings?

Love the topic! My 8 yo son is very similar. We've tried the "starve it out" method and it doesn't work for our son either. He becomes a monster! I think it has to do with low blood sugar. We have to keep him fed regularly. Half the time he would forget if we didn't prepare food and put it in front of him. When my son's mood starts heading south, we always have to check when the last time he ate was. Does anyone else notice issues with low blood sugar, mood changes and Asperger's?Kristy in VA, USA> >> > Hey, everyone,> > I've really loved this back and forth discussion regarding how others view> us as lazy or as bad parents. Going along with this sort of thinking, have> any of you experienced this type of criticism coming from family members or> friends?> > I have....many more times than I can write about here. I love all my kin> dearly, don't get me wrong, but sometimes they come out with very hurtful>

things.> > They love to give suggestions on how I could do things differently and> better when it comes to feeding my 9 yr grandson (PDD-NOS) who has SED> (selective eating disorder which goes beyond just being picky) and deal with> brushing teeth, cutting nails, and just about any situations where NT kids> have no problem. When I tell them I've tried this or that and it doesn't> work or whatever, they make me feel like I'm a failure and I just am not> parenting the right way.> > I can't help but feel that secretly they think my bad parenting is> actually the cause of my grandson behaving the way he does. This makes me> sad.> > > >>