Re: My dad has lost it! What do I do now?

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the offer of help - just reading my email and giving me

suggestions is very helpful.

I am going to speak to my dad's doctor and have him change dad's Zoloft to

Celexa. I believe that the zoloft is making my dad's hand tremors worse.

Apparently my eldest brother went over to the house, changed the oil in his

car and then took my dad for a drive up north? Haven't the foggiest idea

why but I hope Dad enjoyed the time with his eldest.

Courage

Re: My dad has lost it! What do I do now?

>

>courage,

>hmmmmm this isnt easy but would it be so awful if your dad didnt go see

your

>mom for a while , until at least you can get your dad to a doctor that can

>com e up with the right combination of medicines for your dad as well. i

would

>guess your dad is in denial, men in general have a i gotta fix it

attitude,

>and lbd is something your dad cant fix so he is very frusttrated, and since

he

>cant fix it, he blames himself for it as well as your mom for her

irrational

>behaviors. woman on the other hand are nurturers in general. so we care for

and

>nurture those awround us esp, those that are needing it. since your dad

has

>the jealousies concerning your mom obviuosly he does still lvoe her very

much,

> if i were you first i would let your dad not visit your mom for a while,

>your mom has been getting upset beacuse of your dads lack of attention so

this

>might be the best thing for both of them for a while, please see if you

can

>contact your dads doctor and talk with him and let him/her know about the

changes

>in your dad, and see if they can come up with the mix for him, and then i

>would bet he will be ready to see your mom. so look at this as a blessing

for

>the time being, a rest for you mentally , fighting with your dad, and

getting

>into embarssinng situations. good luck courage i wish i were closesr i

would

>help you more. hugs. sharon m

>

>a smile a day keeps the meanies away!!!

>laughter is a breath of fresh air!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh how I wish this approach would work . Nothing seems to get through

to him. Yesterday he told my sister that he was going to hit the man mom

sits next to during meals because he spoke to her - this kind gentleman

speaks to everyone!

Dad is now taking 1/2 tab of Seroquel at night. My sister and I have to do

all the paper work to see if he can get into the same NH mom is going to (we

have her on a list for our number one place we chose a few months ago). We

are hoping that they will push him up on the list so that they can be

together.

I am so not looking forward to my dad living in a NH as he is going to be

one difficult resident and will probably lash out at people. OIY!

Courage

PS. Got the cornstarch and the cornstarch power for mom - worked like a

charm.

[Guest guest]

courage,

hmmmmm this isnt easy but would it be so awful if your dad didnt go see your

mom for a while , until at least you can get your dad to a doctor that can

com e up with the right combination of medicines for your dad as well. i would

guess your dad is in denial, men in general have a i gotta fix it attitude,

and lbd is something your dad cant fix so he is very frusttrated, and since he

cant fix it, he blames himself for it as well as your mom for her irrational

behaviors. woman on the other hand are nurturers in general. so we care for and

nurture those awround us esp, those that are needing it. since your dad has

the jealousies concerning your mom obviuosly he does still lvoe her very much,

if i were you first i would let your dad not visit your mom for a while,

your mom has been getting upset beacuse of your dads lack of attention so this

might be the best thing for both of them for a while, please see if you can

contact your dads doctor and talk with him and let him/her know about the

changes

in your dad, and see if they can come up with the mix for him, and then i

would bet he will be ready to see your mom. so look at this as a blessing for

the time being, a rest for you mentally , fighting with your dad, and getting

into embarssinng situations. good luck courage i wish i were closesr i would

help you more. hugs. sharon m

a smile a day keeps the meanies away!!!

laughter is a breath of fresh air!

[Guest guest]

Can you convince him that if he loves her he needs to fight for her and woo

her away from the other man???

M

>

>Reply-To: LBDcaregivers

>To: " LBDcaregivers " <LBDcaregivers >

>Subject: My dad has lost it! What do I do now?

>Date: Mon, 16 Aug 2004 09:46:12 -0500

>MIME-Version: 1.0

>X-Sender: gaat@...

>Received: from n22.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.78]) by

>mc6-f26.hotmail.com with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6713); Sat, 21 Aug 2004

>11:44:55 -0700

>Received: from [66.218.66.31] by n22.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 21 Aug

>2004 18:43:53 -0000

>Received: (qmail 38351 invoked from network); 21 Aug 2004 18:43:50 -0000

>Received: from unknown (66.218.66.166) by m25.grp.scd.yahoo.com with QMQP;

>21 Aug 2004 18:43:50 -0000

>Received: from unknown (HELO budah.vif.com) (216.239.64.153) by

>mta5.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 21 Aug 2004 18:43:50 -0000

>Received: from gaat (ip216-239-79-117.vif.net [216.239.79.117])by

>budah.vif.com (8.12.11/8.12.11) with SMTP id i7LIhmsO056387for

><LBDcaregivers >; Sat, 21 Aug 2004 14:43:48 -0400

>(EDT)(envelope-from gaat@...)

>X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jEYpk9pctsDrtfoSpeg3hNR

>X-Yahoo-Newman-Property: groups-email

>X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers

>Message-ID: <000901c4839f$c72d73e0$754fefd8@gaat>

>X-MSMail-Priority: Normal

>X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 4.72.3110.1

>X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V4.72.3110.3

>X-vif-MailScanner-Information: Please contact the ISP for more information

>X-vif-MailScanner: Found to be clean

>X-MailScanner-From: gaat@...

>X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 216.239.64.153

>X-Yahoo-Profile: twodogsand3cats

>Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact

>LBDcaregivers-owner

>Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers

>Precedence: bulk

>List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe >

>Return-Path:

>sentto-2141318-34102-1093113832-cat86443=hotmail.com@...

>X-OriginalArrivalTime: 21 Aug 2004 18:44:55.0960 (UTC)

>FILETIME=[F3EBE980:01C487AE]

>

>Hi All,

>

>Even though today is my day off I can't rest easy because of my dad. He

>told my sister last night that he is never going to see mom again as she is

>now living in sin with one of the gentlemen she shares a dining table with,

>that mom sent him away, and that he is now disgraced!!!!! Can you believe

>this!

>

>When he told my sister she couldn't help but laugh a bit and he was so

>offended by her response. She talked to him and tried to reason with him

>but he insists that this is what is going on. What do we do now? Dad

>stayed home today, true to his word, and refuses to even talk about mom.

>I don't think this is dementia per se, but I do believe that he needs a

>LARGE dose increase of his anti-depressant meds.

>If anyone has any suggestions on how to handle this impossible situation

>I'd be more than happy to listen.

>Stressed to the max,

>Courage

>Please follow this link to learn more about Lewy Body Dementia

>http://www.lewybodydementia.org

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well if I think of any other idea I will send it along.

I will say some extra prayers that you find a way to get your dad to stop

being jealous.

M

>

>Reply-To: LBDcaregivers

>To: <LBDcaregivers >

>Subject: Re: My dad has lost it! What do I do now?

>Date: Wed, 18 Aug 2004 05:30:47 -0500

>MIME-Version: 1.0

>X-Sender: gaat@...

>Received: from n27.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.83]) by

>mc5-f17.hotmail.com with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Fri, 27 Aug 2004

>01:34:39 -0700

>Received: from [66.218.67.193] by n27.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 27 Aug

>2004 08:33:32 -0000

>Received: (qmail 88578 invoked from network); 27 Aug 2004 08:33:31 -0000

>Received: from unknown (66.218.66.218) by m11.grp.scd.yahoo.com with QMQP;

>27 Aug 2004 08:33:31 -0000

>Received: from unknown (HELO budah.vif.com) (216.239.64.153) by

>mta3.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 27 Aug 2004 08:33:31 -0000

>Received: from gaat (ip216-239-79-8.vif.net [216.239.79.8])by budah.vif.com

>(8.12.11/8.12.11) with SMTP id i7R8XO6g012591for

><LBDcaregivers >; Fri, 27 Aug 2004 04:33:25 -0400

>(EDT)(envelope-from gaat@...)

>X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jGD2gC7NymYlHm4NB5l9meB

>X-Yahoo-Newman-Property: groups-email

>X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers

>Message-ID: <011701c4850e$6d683a00$084fefd8@gaat>

>X-MSMail-Priority: Normal

>X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook Express 4.72.3110.1

>X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V4.72.3110.3

>X-vif-MailScanner-Information: Please contact the ISP for more information

>X-vif-MailScanner: Found to be clean

>X-MailScanner-From: gaat@...

>X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 216.239.64.153

>X-Yahoo-Profile: twodogsand3cats

>Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact

>LBDcaregivers-owner

>Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers

>Precedence: bulk

>List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe >

>Return-Path:

>sentto-2141318-34316-1093595612-cat86443=hotmail.com@...

>X-OriginalArrivalTime: 27 Aug 2004 08:34:39.0497 (UTC)

>FILETIME=[b1498F90:01C48C10]

>

>Oh how I wish this approach would work . Nothing seems to get through

>to him. Yesterday he told my sister that he was going to hit the man mom

>sits next to during meals because he spoke to her - this kind gentleman

>speaks to everyone!

>Dad is now taking 1/2 tab of Seroquel at night. My sister and I have to do

>all the paper work to see if he can get into the same NH mom is going to

>(we

>have her on a list for our number one place we chose a few months ago). We

>are hoping that they will push him up on the list so that they can be

>together.

>I am so not looking forward to my dad living in a NH as he is going to be

>one difficult resident and will probably lash out at people. OIY!

>Courage

>PS. Got the cornstarch and the cornstarch power for mom - worked like a

>charm.

>

_________________________________________________________________

Check out Election 2004 for up-to-date election news, plus voter tools and

more! http://special.msn.com/msn/election2004.armx