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Wow....I want to thank all of you who enjoyed my rambling. At the time

I so needed to do so as we alone know what we are going through and

unless you're there its almost pointless trying to explain to others.

Kath, thanks about the doll. Wish I could take credit for it but it was

my sister who thought this up. Mom has always loved stuffed animals and

one day my sister brought down a doll that belonged to my daughter - a

doll that crawls along the floor. Well, mom was enchanted and was

convinced it was real. I, too, found that it helped mom calm down and

when she'd say out loud that she was worried about her imaginary

children we would grab her dolls and show her that they were all

sleeping nicely and freshly diapered. Mom's doll collection topped out

at about 7-8. I wish mom still enjoyed them now but she is beyond

concern for them and mostly sleeps all day. Still this was an excellent

coping tool for as long as it lasted.

I was with mom today and my eldest brother brought his new puppy to

visit with mom. The dog is a 2 pound Lanois (not sure how to spell that

but its this really cute furry ball) and I tried all day to get mom to

acknowledge the dog. Finally, just after I gave mom a shower and she

seemed more awake I showed her the puppy to which mom responded " Oh,

look at the cat! " .

Courage

STEVE & KATHY WARD wrote:

> Courage

> You are what gives this board life. Don't you ever regret anything

> that you have sent here. It has helped me with my mom immensely. My

> mom loves her doll and it gets her through until she sees me again.

> When she had no tv, no visitors, no workers around, she could talk to

> her doll and be comforted. I would never have believed that a doll

> would be so much to her, nor would I have thought she would have

> accepted it so readily, except for your posts about Olivia.

>

> The outings you had with your mom make me believe everyday that there

> is life and happiness for our LO (especially my mom) even when they

> can't walk. You have shown me that for all the frustrations we go

> through there is still so much joy we can experience with our LO and

> those images you created with your posts made me laugh out loud at a

> time when nothing made me happy. Keep posting and when you need us we

> will be there for you!

>

> Kath in Toronto

>

> gaat wrote:

> Hi All,

>

> Since I can't sleep I've been up deleting old messages I posted here.

>

> I was amazed at how stressed out I was, how responsible I felt for

> tweaking my mom's meds, for getting her through yet another crisis,

> and

> for her daily care. Since mom has been in NH I don't feel half that

> pressure now. I read on and on with much sadness over my mom, the loss

>

> of my animals, and all the hard times I posted here.

>

> I also read about the happy times I've had with mom, the fun we had,

> our

> wheel chair trips outside the home, our shopping adventures and our

> many

> laughs together. There was other happy news like my daughter being

> pregnant and the birth of my most loved .

>

> This group and the people on it have truely been so kind to me and I

> am

> so very grateful.

>

> I've also discovered that I talk too damned much and will be deleting

> this message too!

> Courage

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> Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

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