Re: Re: stevie/sharon

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stevie,

the sexual issues of dementia are very tough, and becuase the frontal lobe is

affected first, as i understand it taht is where tact is, sa well as manners etc

are, that is why the sexual issues become so prevalent. dad was obsessed with

his crotch, he would have his hand touching hiimself, all the time, and if i

stopped him as soon as i looked away he was like a bad kid and doing it again,

didnt matter if it was in his room, or in a doctors waitiing room or if we had

company. dad was never much to going out so we dint have to deal with it in

public too much but stil lit was very embarassing, esp when the hospice minister

would come and visit and dad was doing it, the alzheimers news letter has a

little business card taht you can copy adn print out that may help,

it says something like

excuse my loved one, he has a form of dementia and doesnt understand his actions

or words are improper, i am sorry.

and then if you are in public you can hand out this card without them seeing it,

and at least it will help out of the embarsasing situation. i kept a few of

these when dad was in the doctors office, but i told the docs ahead of time what

was going on so even if they were running behind they would take daddy first so

there would be no embarassing or awkward situatoins

hugs sharon m ps feel free to email personally if you would like if you wish to

discuss more in private, hugs,

From: juperant@...

Date: 2005/10/20 Thu PM 11:34:37 EDT

To: LBDcaregivers

Subject: Re: eileen/sharon

Thank you Sharon. This one sounds a bit scarey and I just hope my Uncle

keeps up with his manners. He is getting a little " stranger " every day and I

just

don't know what next week will be like. It helped to read the article by Geri

Hall that Carol sent me (Thank you Carol!)

(IssuesofSexualityinDementiaCases.doc). We think we know this disease and then

here comes another symptom to

deal with.

Thank you so much for being here! Peace....Stevie

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stevie,

dad never talked about his hallucinations but i do know that he couldnt keep

his hands out of his pants, he was constantly stroking himself. and as for me

with him he would get his dr jekyll ugly mood and it would turn into hateful

sexual discussions with me, like he would say that i was a whore and taht he

knew i was with so and so becuase they told him he vented his anger towards

me and used sexually expleciative descriptions. this stage for dad lasted

about 1 year, and his meds seemed to have no effect one way or anotehr on this

issue. i just had to learn how to deal with it, we noticed that the more

emotional ne was the worse the reaction. it was so hard when he was in that

stage,

because i neved knew what to expect adn win, but like i had to keep reminding

myslef, they take it out worse on the ones we love the most, good lluck and

hugs sharonm