Re: lost my patience today

[Guest guest]

Don't be too hard on yourself! Sometimes I think we give OCD too much

power in our lives (not just our kids' lives). You can't let him not take

a shower because he doesn't have anymore of the right sized bandaids. I

can't let Kate stay at Grandpa's house until she is " finished " playing

with his Hot Wheels cars. Sometimes I have to get good and angry before

Kate realizes I'm not going to let the OCD win this time!

Beth

> I won't win any mother of the year awards today that is for sure. I

> have been so patient with my son and his ocd. His obsessions are

> hoarding and wearing band aids on all his fingers. This morning I

> needed him to get in the shower. he couldn't because he had no bandaids

> to change his bandaids after they became wet. He has a huge bag of

> bandaids but they " aren't the right size " I lost it and started yelling

> at him and saying things mom's shouldn't say. I feel so guilty and

> ashamed. He wasnt' speadking to me when I dropped him at the bus. He

> started luvox a week ago today. His first medication. I am so crossing

> my fingers that it works. He has so much anxiety aside from the

> obsessions. Today I am feeling so helpless.

>

>

[Guest guest]

i'm feeling it for ya.. i've said things to my daughter i would not

have said if i knew what was going on was ocd, and beyond her young

minds control. i have often felt like queen crud when i look back at

those times.. but you know, our kids still love us, and they

eventually get older and wiser too. Will be very interested to hear

when/if you feel the meds are making a difference. i'm trying to

decide if/when to go the med route for my daughter.

big hugs to you.

>

> I won't win any mother of the year awards today that is for sure. I

> have been so patient with my son and his ocd. His obsessions are

> hoarding and wearing band aids on all his fingers. This morning I

> needed him to get in the shower. he couldn't because he had no bandaids

> to change his bandaids after they became wet. He has a huge bag of

> bandaids but they " aren't the right size " I lost it and started yelling

> at him and saying things mom's shouldn't say. I feel so guilty and

> ashamed. He wasnt' speadking to me when I dropped him at the bus. He

> started luvox a week ago today. His first medication. I am so crossing

> my fingers that it works. He has so much anxiety aside from the

> obsessions. Today I am feeling so helpless.

>

[Guest guest]

Aw, don't feel too bad. We've all been there. Maybe

you can remind your son that it was really his OCD you

were saying those words to. I know how hard it is for

them to separate themselves from their disease. I can

rarely remember to do that myself.

You're a good mom.

>

> > I won't win any mother of the year awards today

> that is for sure. I

> > have been so patient with my son and his ocd. His

> obsessions are

> > hoarding and wearing band aids on all his fingers.

> This morning I

> > needed him to get in the shower. he couldn't

> because he had no bandaids

> > to change his bandaids after they became wet. He

> has a huge bag of

> > bandaids but they " aren't the right size " I lost

> it and started yelling

> > at him and saying things mom's shouldn't say. I

> feel so guilty and

> > ashamed. He wasnt' speadking to me when I dropped

> him at the bus. He

> > started luvox a week ago today. His first

> medication. I am so crossing

> > my fingers that it works. He has so much anxiety

> aside from the

> > obsessions. Today I am feeling so helpless.

> >

> >

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

(((hugs))) Barb! I do hope the Luvox helps, and helps soon!

How are things this afternoon, are they back to " normal " ? I know my

oldest and I usually managed to " pretend " some arguments didn't happen

later. We're both emotional and quick-tempered at times but also quick

to forget/forgive (without saying anything).

As to OCD and , oh yes I've vented at him more than once since

6th grade when it began. In fact in the past 3 weeks I vented a bit to

him about how miserable he looks. We all get fed up with OCD! It

makes it harder on us when it seems like our kids aren't getting fed up

and fighting it and OCD is disrupting things.

I'm surprised your son wears the bandaids to school? I would think he

would just wear at home (as soon as he walked in the door), knowing

others kids will comment on them.

>

> I won't win any mother of the year awards today that is for sure. I

> have been so patient with my son and his ocd. His obsessions are

> hoarding and wearing band aids on all his fingers. This morning I

> needed him to get in the shower. he couldn't because he had no

bandaids

> to change his bandaids after they became wet. He has a huge bag of

> bandaids but they " aren't the right size " I lost it and started

[Guest guest]

Well, I am at work and he got home from school a little while ago

(grandma takes care of him in the afternoons) He is still mad at me

and not speaking to me. I imagine that won't last long. He is in a

class this year with really great kids and noone picks on him. They

asked him at the beginning of the year what the deal was with the

bandaids and he said he has peeling skin and they just say " oh " and

move on. They assume he has a valid reason for wearing them. Someone

recently asked him in front of me what the deal was and much to my

surprise he said " Well, I used to have valid reasons for wearing them

but now I know it is my OCD and I am working on getting them off " I

was shocked and proud. Atleast now he wants them off. A few years

back we would tell him he was going to get made fun of and probably

bullied and he would yell at us and say " I don't care I don't Care I

don't care!!! " and honestly he didn't. As time went by I did notice

he tries to hide his hands now. Not so easy to hide your hands! In

addition to that he hoards pencils, pencil sharpeners and erasers. He

alwasys has to have his pencils sharpened perfectly and is afraid

they will break so has to have like 10 around him. Add that to the

fact that he is overweight and very very shy. I do have him in a

social skills group where he goes for counseling. He doesn't have

many friends. One of the hardest things for us OCD parents to watch

is how this cripples them socially sometimes.

> >

> > I won't win any mother of the year awards today that is for sure.

I

> > have been so patient with my son and his ocd. His obsessions are

> > hoarding and wearing band aids on all his fingers. This morning

I

> > needed him to get in the shower. he couldn't because he had no

> bandaids

> > to change his bandaids after they became wet. He has a huge bag

of

> > bandaids but they " aren't the right size " I lost it and started

>

[Guest guest]

Barb -

Today was a bad day for us also. I know what you mean about being so patient

for so long. But then something comes along and sets you off. Don't beat

yourself up for it. We are only human and doing the best we can for our kids.

Hope you see an improvement with the luvox.

hugs to you.

angela

Subject: lost my patience today

To:

Date: Monday, May 12, 2008, 11:31 AM

I won't win any mother of the year awards today that is for sure. I

have been so patient with my son and his ocd. His obsessions are

hoarding and wearing band aids on all his fingers. This morning I

needed him to get in the shower. he couldn't because he had no bandaids

to change his bandaids after they became wet. He has a huge bag of

bandaids but they " aren't the right size " I lost it and started yelling

at him and saying things mom's shouldn't say. I feel so guilty and

ashamed. He wasnt' speadking to me when I dropped him at the bus. He

started luvox a week ago today. His first medication. I am so crossing

my fingers that it works. He has so much anxiety aside from the

obsessions. Today I am feeling so helpless.

[Guest guest]

I have so lost it before over the OCD. My son has developed a tic

chewing on his shirt and totally ruining his clothing. I kept telling

him to stop and then I actuall popped him in the mouth telling

him " maybe that will help you remember " . Immediately in my head I knew

he couldn't help it, but I was feeling so frustrated! He just started

crying and well, anyways....

My mom always says something that I try to remind myself of often.

Most people do the best they know how to do at the time they do it.

Forgiving yourself for not being able to do better than the best you

did at the time is key.

[Guest guest]

, I think we all must have lost it with our kids. Forgiving yourself helps

you move on. I do think it's important to make sure you address your own

frustration and anger so that everyone is safe.

longlivejuliet wrote: I

have so lost it before over the OCD. My son has developed a tic

chewing on his shirt and totally ruining his clothing. I kept telling

him to stop and then I actuall popped him in the mouth telling

him " maybe that will help you remember " . Immediately in my head I knew

he couldn't help it, but I was feeling so frustrated! He just started

crying and well, anyways....

My mom always says something that I try to remind myself of often.

Most people do the best they know how to do at the time they do it.

Forgiving yourself for not being able to do better than the best you

did at the time is key.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I understand, Believe me!!! I think we all have been there before. My God, you

can only take so much, than after you feel so horrible!!!

Try to hang in there!

Hugs

judy

Re: lost my patience today

I have so lost it before over the OCD. My son has developed a tic

chewing on his shirt and totally ruining his clothing. I kept telling

him to stop and then I actuall popped him in the mouth telling

him " maybe that will help you remember " . Immediately in my head I knew

he couldn't help it, but I was feeling so frustrated! He just started

crying and well, anyways....

My mom always says something that I try to remind myself of often.

Most people do the best they know how to do at the time they do it.

Forgiving yourself for not being able to do better than the best you

did at the time is key.