Re: My Mom is at peace

August 6, 2004

Debbie, my sincere condolences on the passing of your mother. I am sending

you and your father strength.

Courage

August 9, 2004

Debbie

I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. Thank you for sharing with us. Know we

are all thinking of you and your family as you go thru the next few weeks.

Please feel free to come to us at anytime you need a friend to talk to. We are

all here.

My prayers and thoughts are with you today

Jacqui

August 9, 2004

Debbie,

I don't know you but you and your family are in my prayers.

Shirley

> My Mom passed away this afternoon. We weren't there when she passed

but my Dad and I had been with her about 1.5 hrs before. She was sick

(running a temp and on oxygen for low pulse-ox reading) but didn't

seem to be in any pain. We had talked at length with one of her

nurses (in NH) about her status, had Dr been notified, would they do

x-rays to see if she'd had pnemonia again... I'm sure that the nurse

didn't have any idea that my Mom would leave us today....and neither

did we.

>

> I kissed her face as I always do when I'm leaving (and arriving)

told her " I love you and I'll see you in a few days " ...and left. She

was breathing a little deeper w/ her mouth open, but seemed

peacefully asleep (as she has for months now) and comfortable. A

short while later a nurse who wasn't even on duty on my Mom's floor

today was walking by the room, saw that Mom's color didn't look good

and went in immediately. She held my Mom's hand... said my Mom seemed

peaceful and comfortable (no thrashing or laboring etc)...she saw her

take maybe one more slow breath...and that was it.

>

> My Mom has been bedridden and on a feeding tube since March

03......in Oct 03 she had a few witty things to say to me (she'd been

in a cloud for weeks before that)...I remember this past XMAS having

a nice day where carols where playing on the radio and I was telling

her stories about my kids and about baking cookies (she went ohhhhhhh

when I mentioned making one of the pastries that had been

her " trademark " dessert...I think she really wanted one!)...from that

time on there would be small fleeting moments where she was awake

and " with us " ...and those gradually dwindled.....it's been months now

since I can say I knew she was awake and " with " me.

>

> Although it's been a long and sad illness where we knew what the

end result would be, that doesn't make today any easier. My Mom was a

sweet and lovely lady, a terrific Mother, grandmother, wife and

friend....I've missed her terribly over the past few years and I

truly feel her loss today.

>

> As soon my Dad called to say she was gone, we drove back to see

her. Her limbs and fingers that had been SO contracted for so long

were now free of the rigidity...I stretched out her fingers and held

her hands....I marvelled that she was almost lying flat in the bed

instead of being in the fetal position that has been the norm for so

long. I don't post here much, but wanted to share my Mom's passing

with you. At least now she is free of this terrible monster of a

disease.

>

> Debbie

>

> PS in the past several of you shared information about the stages

of death and dying....it definitely helped us prepare even though we

weren't right there with my Mom. We recently lost my FIL a few months

ago and I was also able to share those printouts with my husband's

family. thanks so much for the support.

>

August 9, 2004

Debbie - I never know what to say when someone writes about his/her LOs

death but your mom IS now at peace and free of

August 9, 2004

WHOOPS - so sorry - anyway all I wanted to add is that your mom is now

whole. I know you will remember all the good times and keep her close to

you in your heart. . .

with condolences,

carol

August 9, 2004

Debbie

Please accept my truly heartfelt condolences.

Your mom is at peace at last and free from the monster LBD.

You are in my prayers

Sally xx

August 9, 2004

Debbie,

My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Thank you for sharing

your mom's story. I remember so well the night my mom passed

(cancer). Feeling the same feelings that you describe. Knowing my

mom was at peace but wishing just the same that I didn't have to let

her go! You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Donna P.

> My Mom passed away this afternoon. We weren't there when she

passed but my Dad and I had been with her about 1.5 hrs before. She

was sick (running a temp and on oxygen for low pulse-ox reading) but

didn't seem to be in any pain. We had talked at length with one of

her nurses (in NH) about her status, had Dr been notified, would

they do x-rays to see if she'd had pnemonia again... I'm sure that

the nurse didn't have any idea that my Mom would leave us

today....and neither did we.

>

> I kissed her face as I always do when I'm leaving (and arriving)

told her " I love you and I'll see you in a few days " ...and left.

She was breathing a little deeper w/ her mouth open, but seemed

peacefully asleep (as she has for months now) and comfortable. A

short while later a nurse who wasn't even on duty on my Mom's floor

today was walking by the room, saw that Mom's color didn't look good

and went in immediately. She held my Mom's hand... said my Mom

seemed peaceful and comfortable (no thrashing or laboring etc)...she

saw her take maybe one more slow breath...and that was it.

>

> My Mom has been bedridden and on a feeding tube since March

03......in Oct 03 she had a few witty things to say to me (she'd

been in a cloud for weeks before that)...I remember this past XMAS

having a nice day where carols where playing on the radio and I was

telling her stories about my kids and about baking cookies (she went

ohhhhhhh when I mentioned making one of the pastries that had been

her " trademark " dessert...I think she really wanted one!)...from

that time on there would be small fleeting moments where she was

awake and " with us " ...and those gradually dwindled.....it's been

months now since I can say I knew she was awake and " with " me.

>

> Although it's been a long and sad illness where we knew what the

end result would be, that doesn't make today any easier. My Mom was

a sweet and lovely lady, a terrific Mother, grandmother, wife and

friend....I've missed her terribly over the past few years and I

truly feel her loss today.

>

> As soon my Dad called to say she was gone, we drove back to see

her. Her limbs and fingers that had been SO contracted for so long

were now free of the rigidity...I stretched out her fingers and held

her hands....I marvelled that she was almost lying flat in the bed

instead of being in the fetal position that has been the norm for so

long. I don't post here much, but wanted to share my Mom's passing

with you. At least now she is free of this terrible monster of a

disease.

>

> Debbie

>

> PS in the past several of you shared information about the stages

of death and dying....it definitely helped us prepare even though we

weren't right there with my Mom. We recently lost my FIL a few

months ago and I was also able to share those printouts with my

husband's family. thanks so much for the support.

>

August 9, 2004

Debbie, I'm sorry for the passing of your precious mother, but you know she is

better off, not suffering. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers,

LOL, SC Pat

Debbie wrote: My Mom passed away this afternoon. We

weren't there when she passed but my Dad and I had been with her about 1.5 hrs

before. She was sick (running a temp and on oxygen for low pulse-ox reading) but

didn't seem to be in any pain. We had talked at length with one of her nurses

(in NH) about her status, had Dr been notified, would they do x-rays to see if

she'd had pnemonia again... I'm sure that the nurse didn't have any idea that my

Mom would leave us today....and neither did we.

I kissed her face as I always do when I'm leaving (and arriving) told her " I

love you and I'll see you in a few days " ...and left. She was breathing a little

deeper w/ her mouth open, but seemed peacefully asleep (as she has for months

now) and comfortable. A short while later a nurse who wasn't even on duty on my

Mom's floor today was walking by the room, saw that Mom's color didn't look good

and went in immediately. She held my Mom's hand... said my Mom seemed peaceful

and comfortable (no thrashing or laboring etc)...she saw her take maybe one more

slow breath...and that was it.

My Mom has been bedridden and on a feeding tube since March 03......in Oct 03

she had a few witty things to say to me (she'd been in a cloud for weeks before

that)...I remember this past XMAS having a nice day where carols where playing

on the radio and I was telling her stories about my kids and about baking

cookies (she went ohhhhhhh when I mentioned making one of the pastries that had

been her " trademark " dessert...I think she really wanted one!)...from that time

on there would be small fleeting moments where she was awake and " with us " ...and

those gradually dwindled.....it's been months now since I can say I knew she was

awake and " with " me.

Although it's been a long and sad illness where we knew what the end result

would be, that doesn't make today any easier. My Mom was a sweet and lovely

lady, a terrific Mother, grandmother, wife and friend....I've missed her

terribly over the past few years and I truly feel her loss today.

As soon my Dad called to say she was gone, we drove back to see her. Her limbs

and fingers that had been SO contracted for so long were now free of the

rigidity...I stretched out her fingers and held her hands....I marvelled that

she was almost lying flat in the bed instead of being in the fetal position that

has been the norm for so long. I don't post here much, but wanted to share my

Mom's passing with you. At least now she is free of this terrible monster of a

disease.

Debbie

PS in the past several of you shared information about the stages of death and

dying....it definitely helped us prepare even though we weren't right there with

my Mom. We recently lost my FIL a few months ago and I was also able to share

those printouts with my husband's family. thanks so much for the support.

August 9, 2004

Debbie,

My sympathy to you on the passing of your mother. Your post conveyed the

love you feel for her and time will let you remember her vibrancy rather than

her

illness.

Thank you for sharing this time with us. You have no idea how comforting it

is. May you be comforted in your grief.

Gitch

August 9, 2004

Hi Debbie,

My heart love and prayers goes out to you and your family at this

time. I believe that God Orcestrates the end of life the same as he

orchestrates the beginning of life. It sounds like that your mother

went in peace just as it was meant to be. May God be with you in the

days to come and bless you richly...Hugs...Patti

> My Mom passed away this afternoon. We weren't there when she passed

but my Dad and I had been with her about 1.5 hrs before. She was sick

(running a temp and on oxygen for low pulse-ox reading) but didn't

seem to be in any pain. We had talked at length with one of her

nurses (in NH) about her status, had Dr been notified, would they do

x-rays to see if she'd had pnemonia again... I'm sure that the nurse

didn't have any idea that my Mom would leave us today....and neither

did we.

>

> I kissed her face as I always do when I'm leaving (and arriving)

told her " I love you and I'll see you in a few days " ...and left. She

was breathing a little deeper w/ her mouth open, but seemed

peacefully asleep (as she has for months now) and comfortable. A

short while later a nurse who wasn't even on duty on my Mom's floor

today was walking by the room, saw that Mom's color didn't look good

and went in immediately. She held my Mom's hand... said my Mom seemed

peaceful and comfortable (no thrashing or laboring etc)...she saw her

take maybe one more slow breath...and that was it.

>

> My Mom has been bedridden and on a feeding tube since March

03......in Oct 03 she had a few witty things to say to me (she'd been

in a cloud for weeks before that)...I remember this past XMAS having

a nice day where carols where playing on the radio and I was telling

her stories about my kids and about baking cookies (she went ohhhhhhh

when I mentioned making one of the pastries that had been

her " trademark " dessert...I think she really wanted one!)...from that

time on there would be small fleeting moments where she was awake

and " with us " ...and those gradually dwindled.....it's been months now

since I can say I knew she was awake and " with " me.

>

> Although it's been a long and sad illness where we knew what the

end result would be, that doesn't make today any easier. My Mom was a

sweet and lovely lady, a terrific Mother, grandmother, wife and

friend....I've missed her terribly over the past few years and I

truly feel her loss today.

>

> As soon my Dad called to say she was gone, we drove back to see

her. Her limbs and fingers that had been SO contracted for so long

were now free of the rigidity...I stretched out her fingers and held

her hands....I marvelled that she was almost lying flat in the bed

instead of being in the fetal position that has been the norm for so

long. I don't post here much, but wanted to share my Mom's passing

with you. At least now she is free of this terrible monster of a

disease.

>

> Debbie

>

> PS in the past several of you shared information about the stages

of death and dying....it definitely helped us prepare even though we

weren't right there with my Mom. We recently lost my FIL a few months

ago and I was also able to share those printouts with my husband's

family. thanks so much for the support.

>

August 9, 2004

debbie,

please find peace knowing that your mom is no longer suffering, and this

disease is in her past and she has now become your familys guardian angel,

watching over you adn your family. as is your father in law. i truly believe

our

loved ones become our guardian angels when they leave this earth. she is free

from pain now, and you are left with the sorrow of losing her. find comfort in

the memories that you shared with her, adn the ohhh when you talked about HER

traditional pastry. you are continuing passing her traditions on to your

family, thus keeping her spirit with you always.

i pray that you and your family can find comfort in your memories of both

your mom and your father in law. and that He lightens the sorrow and brings

sunshine and blessings your way. if there is anything i can do for you, please

do

not hesitate to ask.

hugs to you, sharon m

a smile a day keeps the meanies away!!!

August 9, 2004

Dearest Debbie, my deepest sympathies on your mom's passing and blessings that

she passed peacefully after the suffering LBD put her through.

Much love to you.

.xx

My Mom is at peace

My Mom passed away this afternoon. We weren't there when she passed but my Dad

and I had been with her about 1.5 hrs before. She was sick (running a temp and

on oxygen for low pulse-ox reading) but didn't seem to be in any pain. We had

talked at length with one of her nurses (in NH) about her status, had Dr been

notified, would they do x-rays to see if she'd had pnemonia again... I'm sure

that the nurse didn't have any idea that my Mom would leave us today....and

neither did we.