Mom

[Guest guest]

Yes, I'm the same AFM as on the other group. Why is it " fishy? " Roxanna or

must have kicked me off that group after I asked them why they were

making assumptions about me and my situation that they were not informed about

and I invited them to come to my house and see for themselves.

Anyway, I don't know what comments were for me other than " Shoot him! " since it

seems the thread got shifted to the more extreme situation with the young man

who is violent.

I was not offended by the " Shoot Him! " comments, in fact, I laughed so hard, I

spit coffee on my computer screen. The humor was a much needed break from

hearing him bang around the house looking for his bus card because he doesn't

want to designate a single place for items like ID/ATM/bus card/passport, etc.

and consequently things continually get lost.

I'm not sure if " Evict him! " was directed to me or the other poster.

I can evict him with 30 days notice to the Family Housing Agency but he's not

been here a month and I know he needs time to settle in. If the " turn off the

computer " advice was for me, I'm not allowed to use those kind of consequences.

He is an adult and has full rights of any other adult living in my house (as if

he was a room mate) and I'm not allowed to deprive him. I have thought of taking

the router into my bedroom after 10pm so that he could get some sleep (since

he's up all night on the computer and sleeping all day) but again, that's a

violation of his rights per the Landerman Act.

Was the bugger wall question for me or someone else? Because there was a bugger

wall at his old place and he did go back and clean it up and he knows that no

bugger walls are allowed in my house but I have seen a few already. I also gave

him a rule of no food in his bedroom but there is food in his bedroom all the

time so my rules mean nothing either because his respect is poor or because he's

so entrenched in bad habits, he's not mindful of my expectations.

Thanks!