Re: am I being too sensitive?

[Guest guest]

So I just need to vent and perhaps be told that I'm just over-reacting lol

I am part of a non profit moms group and some if the gals in it have side

businesses selling jewelry, candles, etc. I had a person that knows if I've been

struggling with the school and looking into an autism diagnosis fir my son email

me today to ask about hosting an " event " at my home - I emailed back that things

were a bit chaotic still and that my son was finally diagnosed with an autism

spectrum disorder and that my main concern was lining up appropriate services -

I also said that a group of strangers in my home would not be something my child

could handle due to his sensory issues (crowds with noise and too much movement

present a problem). Basically a thanks for the offer but I'm going to have to

say no at this time...

She emailed back to say sorry about your news but can u still help - she said

can you refer some people to me - I'll give you 25 buck off for everyone u refer

- um, seriously? Does she think I have time to refer people to her business

right now?

Seems a bit insensitive to me - I haven't responded bc I'm afraid I'll say

something I might regret later and maybe I am over reacting lol

Is it just me?

[Guest guest]

lol, thanks...makes me feel a little better...I know my feelings are probably a

bit " raw " right now and sometimes things don't translate well in txt. Thanks for

the support :-)

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> omg your not overreacting she needs a boot up her... well id say she is being

very insensitive i mean for gosh sakes no means no!

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> So I just need to vent and perhaps be told that I'm just over-reacting lol

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> I am part of a non profit moms group and some if the gals in it have side

businesses selling jewelry, candles, etc. I had a person that knows if I've been

struggling with the school and looking into an autism diagnosis fir my son email

me today to ask about hosting an " event " at my home - I emailed back that things

were a bit chaotic still and that my son was finally diagnosed with an autism

spectrum disorder and that my main concern was lining up appropriate services -

I also said that a group of strangers in my home would not be something my child

could handle due to his sensory issues (crowds with noise and too much movement

present a problem). Basically a thanks for the offer but I'm going to have to

say no at this time...

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> She emailed back to say sorry about your news but can u still help - she said

can you refer some people to me - I'll give you 25 buck off for everyone u refer

- um, seriously? Does she think I have time to refer people to her business

right now?

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> Seems a bit insensitive to me - I haven't responded bc I'm afraid I'll say

something I might regret later and maybe I am over reacting lol

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> Is it just me?

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[Guest guest]

I softened it just a bit (because I will see her socially) but gave her the gist

with a tweak of your comments below...Thanks for the support...I feel a little

overwhelmed sometimes :-)

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> Not just you, but people just dont get it! Perhaps you can reply saying:

Like I said I have an AUTISTIC son requiring specialty medical care. I as his

mother have to negotiate and arrange for his needs. His extra needs are

exausting physically, mentally, and emotionally. I will not now or in the near

future be taking on any projects or favors for anyone. Thanks for your

understanding in advance.

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> Its passive aggressive, blunt, and allows her to find the empathy she should

have had origionally.

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> Sent: February 22, 2012 2/22/12

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> Subject: Re: am I being too sensitive?

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> So I just need to vent and perhaps be told that I'm just over-reacting lol

>

> I am part of a non profit moms group and some if the gals in it have side

businesses selling jewelry, candles, etc. I had a person that knows if I've been

struggling with the school and looking into an autism diagnosis fir my son email

me today to ask about hosting an " event " at my home - I emailed back that things

were a bit chaotic still and that my son was finally diagnosed with an autism

spectrum disorder and that my main concern was lining up appropriate services -

I also said that a group of strangers in my home would not be something my child

could handle due to his sensory issues (crowds with noise and too much movement

present a problem). Basically a thanks for the offer but I'm going to have to

say no at this time...

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> She emailed back to say sorry about your news but can u still help - she said

can you refer some people to me - I'll give you 25 buck off for everyone u refer

- um, seriously? Does she think I have time to refer people to her business

right now?

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> Seems a bit insensitive to me - I haven't responded bc I'm afraid I'll say

something I might regret later and maybe I am over reacting lol

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> Is it just me?

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[Guest guest]

I felt like I had to respond to the first email but perhaps it's best to let

stuff go sometimes...like that second email. Thanks for the advice, Breanna :-)

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> > So I just need to vent and perhaps be told that I'm just over-reacting lol

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> > I am part of a non profit moms group and some if the gals in it have side

businesses selling jewelry, candles, etc. I had a person that knows if I've been

struggling with the school and looking into an autism diagnosis fir my son email

me today to ask about hosting an " event " at my home - I emailed back that things

were a bit chaotic still and that my son was finally diagnosed with an autism

spectrum disorder and that my main concern was lining up appropriate services -

I also said that a group of strangers in my home would not be something my child

could handle due to his sensory issues (crowds with noise and too much movement

present a problem). Basically a thanks for the offer but I'm going to have to

say no at this time...

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> > She emailed back to say sorry about your news but can u still help - she

said can you refer some people to me - I'll give you 25 buck off for everyone u

refer - um, seriously? Does she think I have time to refer people to her

business right now?

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> > Seems a bit insensitive to me - I haven't responded bc I'm afraid I'll say

something I might regret later and maybe I am over reacting lol

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> > Is it just me?

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[Guest guest]

lol at sometime in 18 years - thanks, - I politely declined and even

gave a very specific example about why I couldn't do it and she came back with

more - we actually have strict " no solicitation " policy in the mommy group so

perhaps the president just needs to remind the members of that too - I do know

that I'm overly sensitive right now too so thanks for reminding me that it is

perfectly normal and that I shouldn't feel guilty for knowing my limits :-)

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> > So I just need to vent and perhaps be told that I'm just over-reacting lol

> >

> > I am part of a non profit moms group and some if the gals in it have side

> > businesses selling jewelry, candles, etc. I had a person that knows if I've

> > been struggling with the school and looking into an autism diagnosis fir my

> > son email me today to ask about hosting an " event " at my home - I emailed

> > back that things were a bit chaotic still and that my son was finally

> > diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder and that my main concern was

> > lining up appropriate services - I also said that a group of strangers in

> > my home would not be something my child could handle due to his sensory

> > issues (crowds with noise and too much movement present a problem).

> > Basically a thanks for the offer but I'm going to have to say no at this

> > time...

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> > She emailed back to say sorry about your news but can u still help - she

> > said can you refer some people to me - I'll give you 25 buck off for

> > everyone u refer - um, seriously? Does she think I have time to refer

> > people to her business right now?

> >

> > Seems a bit insensitive to me - I haven't responded bc I'm afraid I'll say

> > something I might regret later and maybe I am over reacting lol

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> > Is it just me?

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[Guest guest]

I used to sell candles (party lite) for many years and I now have a child with

autism. No, I would not respond. The more contact you make the more opportunity

you are giving to thus person. I have numerous friends who hold these types of

parties and enjoy them. That's great, but I am in a budget not only regarding my

money, but also my time. Being the mother of 3 teenagers (1 neurotypical, 1

graves disease and 1 high function autism) and working full time I don't have

the time or choose to put my money in that area. Keep saying no and she will

eventually leave you alone abt it.

Sent from my iPhone

[Guest guest]

My stance would be that she's not a friend. A friend would be more concerned

with you, not her money.

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> So I just need to vent and perhaps be told that I'm just over-reacting lol

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> I am part of a non profit moms group and some if the gals in it have side

businesses selling jewelry, candles, etc. I had a person that knows if I've been

struggling with the school and looking into an autism diagnosis fir my son email

me today to ask about hosting an " event " at my home - I emailed back that things

were a bit chaotic still and that my son was finally diagnosed with an autism

spectrum disorder and that my main concern was lining up appropriate services -

I also said that a group of strangers in my home would not be something my child

could handle due to his sensory issues (crowds with noise and too much movement

present a problem). Basically a thanks for the offer but I'm going to have to

say no at this time...

>

> She emailed back to say sorry about your news but can u still help - she said

can you refer some people to me - I'll give you 25 buck off for everyone u refer

- um, seriously? Does she think I have time to refer people to her business

right now?

>

> Seems a bit insensitive to me - I haven't responded bc I'm afraid I'll say

something I might regret later and maybe I am over reacting lol

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> Is it just me?

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