Re: What's going on with all these odd postings

[Guest guest]

this is the only group I am a member of for autism and it just seems like there is a lot of angst, anger, Jealousy and such going on and it seems to be driving people away instead of bringing people in.

From: taras_29

Sent: Sunday, June 19, 2011 10:28 AM

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: What's going on with all these odd postings

I have been reading all the recent posts on here and I don't know if half of them ate serious or not. I am a member of many special needs groups and have never came across anything such as the thi gs I have been reading on here recently.I think some of the comments, if needed, should be sent directly to that person, not the entire group. It is hard to take the advice on here serious with the recent activity.I am sure there are many mothers that agree with me. ( group moderator ) if you read this, let us know what your thoughts are.

[Guest guest]

This group was never like that until just recently. I have been a member here for several years and never seen posts like the ones we've had lately. There are many many members here and everyone has their own idea about how to behave on a group with so many people who are all different and going through different things in their lives.

I hope we don't lose valuable members over this. Hopefully the very few who insist of causing trouble will soon get bored and will move on.

There are so many people in this group who are so helpful in so many different ways. Let's try and ignore the rude comments and focus on the real reason we are here! To learn about aspergers, to learn how to deal with issues our kids are going through and to be friends!

Thanks!

Estevan, SK

Canada

-- What's going on with all these odd postings

I have been reading all the recent posts on here and I don't know if half of them ate serious or not. I am a member of many special needs groups and have never came across anything such as the thi gs I have been reading on here recently.I think some of the comments, if needed, should be sent directly to that person, not the entire group. It is hard to take the advice on here serious with the recent activity.I am sure there are many mothers that agree with me. ( group moderator ) if you read this, let us know what your thoughts are.

[Guest guest]

My sentiments exactly.   This is a valuable and supportive group.  If everyone remembers that some people deal with stress differently, and may be ornery or argumentative, the best thing to do is to just ignore it and move on.  It is hard when people's feelings get hurt to just move on, but to do so would be for the " greater good " .  Just know that the bulk of the readers support what is right and honorable and would not judge others without knowing their individuals circumstances.

http://5kidswdisabilities.wordpress.comOn Sun, Jun 19, 2011 at 3:33 PM, wmgodfrey@... wrote:

 

This group was never like that until just recently.  I have been a member here for several years and never seen posts like the ones we've had lately.  There are many many members here and everyone has their own idea about how to behave on a group with so many people who are all different and going through different things in their lives.

I hope we don't lose valuable members over this. Hopefully the very few who insist of causing trouble will soon get bored and will move on.

There are so many people in this group who are so helpful in so many different ways. Let's try and ignore the rude comments and focus on the real reason we are here! To learn about aspergers, to learn how to deal with issues our kids are going through and to be friends!

 

Thanks!

Estevan, SK

Canada 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

I haven't seen any jealousy. I have seen occasional outbursts of anger, but honestly, I understand that. People are under at lot of pressure and stress, esp. parenting special needs kids. Sometimes it erupts, even in inappropriate places. It will pass and calm down. In some odd way, its almost flattering its here--it means people feel safe here. And isn't that the point--to have a safe place for the parents of our special kids? Sometimes venting or rage is all encompassing and it has to come out.As to angst--well, I am always in angst over my son. Yesterday I had to hold him while he cried because his twin sister was invited to a birthday party and he wasn't. This wasn't a small party and it wasn't a class party and it wasn't a one gender party. I even saw another pair of twins there (both invited). I'm pretty sure he

wasn't invited because it was him. Kids don't understand him. I can't keep her home on principal, it's not fair to her. So instead I get to hold a sobbing ten year old boy who has no friends and saw everyone going into the bouncy house and swimming pool and I had to drive off with him in my car (I could not leave him home while I dropped her off, dad was at work). Situations like that create a whole lotta angst for me. So when things erupt on the list, I try to see past the words and the rhetoric to try to see what is REALLY going on. It's often not what at first seems the obvious choice.To: autism-aspergers Sent: Sunday, June 19, 2011 12:47 PMSubject: Re: What's going on with all these odd postings

this is the only group I am a member of for autism and it just seems like there is a lot of angst, anger, Jealousy and such going on and it seems to be driving people away instead of bringing people in.

[Guest guest]

Thank you for the thoughtful and positive comment.Subject: Re: What's going on with all these odd postingsTo: autism-aspergers Date: Sunday, June 19, 2011, 9:33 AM

This group was never like that until just recently. I have been a member here for several years and never seen posts like the ones we've had lately. There are many many members here and everyone has their own idea about how to behave on a group with so many people who are all different and going through different things in their lives.

I hope we don't lose valuable members over this. Hopefully the very few who insist of causing trouble will soon get bored and will move on.

There are so many people in this group who are so helpful in so many different ways. Let's try and ignore the rude comments and focus on the real reason we are here! To learn about aspergers, to learn how to deal with issues our kids are going through and to be friends!

Thanks!

Estevan, SK

Canada

-- What's going on with all these odd postings

I have been reading all the recent posts on here and I don't know if half of them ate serious or not. I am a member of many special needs groups and have never came across anything such as the thi gs I have been reading on here recently.I think some of the comments, if needed, should be sent directly to that person, not the entire group. It is hard to take the advice on here serious with the recent activity.I am sure there are many mothers that agree with me. ( group moderator ) if you read this, let us know what your thoughts are.

[Guest guest]

My own preference is for as little 'censorship' as possible.  I

don't want to ban any topic that is related in any way to autism or

our experience in rearing autistic children.  I have decided,

however, that a little more moderation is needed - mostly just to

enforce some basic rules that most people here really do know, but

sometimes forget in the heat of the moment.  One of the main ones I

will be attempting to enforce quickly is that anyone who attacks

anyone else will be placed on moderation.   Posts that don't attack

anyone, or that are not raising issues that I have asked not be

raised for a while, will be posted.  Any posts that include attacks

on others will be deleted without comment.  I will not be debating

whether the attacks are justified or not.  I also will not be

accepting self defence as an excuse for attacking others.  I will

send a post with my list of 'rules' once I get my kids off to

school.

 

I have been reading all the recent posts on here and I

don't know if half of them ate serious or not. I am a

member of many special needs groups and have never came

across anything such as the thi gs I have been reading on

here recently.

I think some of the comments, if needed, should be sent

directly to that person, not the entire group. It is hard

to take the advice on here serious with the recent

activity.

I am sure there are many mothers that agree with me.

( group moderator ) if you read this, let us know

what your thoughts are.