Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 This is an issue? When I was a teenager, this was a common occurrence. Why on earth would the girl report him?? Every book on puberty will tell you this happens often.  Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4686 - Release Date: 12/17/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 Dumb! I suppose the principal is a female? To: autism-aspergers Sent: Sunday, December 18, 2011 12:10 AM Subject: Re: Info? This is an issue? When I was a teenager, this was a common occurrence. Why on earth would the girl report him?? Every book on puberty will tell you this happens often. Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4686 - Release Date: 12/17/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 The principal told me if it happens again he will be suspended for a duration (never said how long) so yrs for us this is an issue im not sure how to deal with. This is an issue? When I was a teenager, this was a common occurrence. Why on earth would the girl report him?? Every book on puberty will tell you this happens often. Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4686 - Release Date: 12/17/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 Nope he is male. Thats why I dont understand any of this. Had my son threatened the girl maybe I could understand, but he didnt. He said.he had to go to the restroom really bad which I believe. Dumb! I suppose the principal is a female? To: autism-aspergers Sent: Sunday, December 18, 2011 12:10 AM Subject: Re: Info? This is an issue? When I was a teenager, this was a common occurrence. Why on earth would the girl report him?? Every book on puberty will tell you this happens often. Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4686 - Release Date: 12/17/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 There is no real connection between an erection and needing to go to the bathroom - except upon awakening. Surely there must be more to this? Boys have been having to hide erections at school for millennia, and I never heard of anyone being in trouble for having one unless they were being an exhibitionist in some way. Most teachers would ignore the issue and tell everyone else to do the same. One practical suggestion: erections are harder to hide in lose underwear like boxer shorts. The old style underwear tended to be more constraining so less revealing. I am still amazed this is an issue. Surely boys can't be punished for something they have little - if any - control over. This is not something I'd be good at handling - I'd probably point out the it was a non-issue, the principal was being a fool and should know better. That doesn't always help. Perhaps you should ask the principal to explain to you (you being female and all) just how your son is to avoid having an erection and just what the school policy is on what he should do if he has one. If he can't answer those questions, then I believe you are justified in calling him a fool or whatever word of your choice that means the same and moving your son to a school where common sense still exists. Every boy is at some time (probably more than once) going to have an erection at school, and apart from trying to hide it there really is nothing else anyone can do.  Nope he is male. Thats why I dont understand any of this. Had my son threatened the girl maybe I could understand, but he didnt.� He said.he had to go to the restroom really bad which I believe. On Dec 17, 2011 11:14 PM, " R. Tucker" wrote: Dumb!� I suppose the principal is a female?� � From: Riley To: autism-aspergers Sent: Sunday, December 18, 2011 12:10 AM Subject: Re: Info? � This is an issue?� When I was a teenager, this was a common occurrence.� Why on earth would the girl report him??� Every book on puberty will tell you this happens often. On 18/12/2011 2:39 PM, Reifeiss wrote: � Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4686 - Release Date: 12/17/11 No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4686 - Release Date: 12/17/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 My only thought and this may be a bad mental picture, but how about wearing a boxer brief and tell him to put it along the zipper line to disguise it. Let him know it's normal and to just stay seated or try to hide it. To: Autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers > Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 10:39 PM Subject: Info? Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 yup, and untucked shirts can help camouflage too...reiterating that it's " totally normal " but some kids just like to tease. Oh boy...things to look forward to with my two sons, lol. > > My only thought and this may be a bad mental picture, but how about wearing a boxer brief and tell him to put it along the zipper line to disguise it. Let him know it's normal and to just stay seated or try to hide it. > >  > > > > ________________________________ > > To: Autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers > > Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 10:39 PM > Subject: Info? > > >  > Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? > My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 yup, and untucked shirts can help camouflage too...reiterating that it's " totally normal " but some kids just like to tease. Oh boy...things to look forward to with my two sons, lol. > > My only thought and this may be a bad mental picture, but how about wearing a boxer brief and tell him to put it along the zipper line to disguise it. Let him know it's normal and to just stay seated or try to hide it. > >  > > > > ________________________________ > > To: Autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers > > Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 10:39 PM > Subject: Info? > > >  > Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? > My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 Tucked under the elastic band at the top of the boxers (or any underwear) also works. Except when not wearing a shirt  The bottom line is that every boy has to find some way of hiding erections when they are unwanted/unneeded because all boys have the problem of having erections at inconvenient times. That a male principal makes a fuss of something like this seems very odd to me. I would be asking to be told exactly what the complaint was. If it is only that he had an erection and was not assumed to be doing more than that, then it really is a non-issue.  My only thought and this may be a bad mental picture, but how about wearing a boxer brief and tell him to put it along the zipper line to disguise it. Let him know it's normal and to just stay seated or try to hide it.  From: Reifeiss To: Autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers > Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 10:39 PM Subject: Info?  Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4688 - Release Date: 12/18/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 I appreciate all the advice. He already wears the boxer briefs but ill have him try untucking his shirts or wearing bigger ones. And I am definitely talking to the principal again. As he did give me a warning about it hapening again-I don't want him in trouble. Tucked under the elastic band at the top of the boxers (or any underwear) also works. Except when not wearing a shirt The bottom line is that every boy has to find some way of hiding erections when they are unwanted/unneeded because all boys have the problem of having erections at inconvenient times. That a male principal makes a fuss of something like this seems very odd to me. I would be asking to be told exactly what the complaint was. If it is only that he had an erection and was not assumed to be doing more than that, then it really is a non-issue. My only thought and this may be a bad mental picture, but how about wearing a boxer brief and tell him to put it along the zipper line to disguise it. Let him know it's normal and to just stay seated or try to hide it. From: Reifeiss To: Autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers > Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 10:39 PM Subject: Info? Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4688 - Release Date: 12/18/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 I appreciate all the advice. He already wears the boxer briefs but ill have him try untucking his shirts or wearing bigger ones. And I am definitely talking to the principal again. As he did give me a warning about it hapening again-I don't want him in trouble. Tucked under the elastic band at the top of the boxers (or any underwear) also works. Except when not wearing a shirt The bottom line is that every boy has to find some way of hiding erections when they are unwanted/unneeded because all boys have the problem of having erections at inconvenient times. That a male principal makes a fuss of something like this seems very odd to me. I would be asking to be told exactly what the complaint was. If it is only that he had an erection and was not assumed to be doing more than that, then it really is a non-issue. My only thought and this may be a bad mental picture, but how about wearing a boxer brief and tell him to put it along the zipper line to disguise it. Let him know it's normal and to just stay seated or try to hide it. From: Reifeiss To: Autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers > Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 10:39 PM Subject: Info? Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4688 - Release Date: 12/18/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 There's an old proverb: forewarned is fore-armed. It can be embarrassing to bring up the issue of what to do with erections, appropriate places/times for masturbation, etc, but it is less embarrassing to talk about them before your son is in trouble for getting it wrong rather than afterwards. We were lucky that at the time our son was behaving inappropriately at school that his teacher (also principal) had had some experience with kids with AS and ADHD (and had raised 2 boys) and understood that the boys needed extra help with learning appropriate behaviour, so rather than making a fuss, she just quietly had a word to us about what was happening. Most boys pick things up easily from other kids or older brothers, but our kids can be oblivious to social cues and often need explicit teaching on most things.  yup, and untucked shirts can help camouflage too...reiterating that it's "totally normal" but some kids just like to tease. Oh boy...things to look forward to with my two sons, lol. > > My only thought and this may be a bad mental picture, but how about wearing a boxer brief and tell him to put it along the zipper line to disguise it. Let him know it's normal and to just stay seated or try to hide it. > >  > > > > ________________________________ > > To: Autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers > > Sent: Saturday, December 17, 2011 10:39 PM > Subject: Info? > > >  > Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? > My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. > No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4688 - Release Date: 12/18/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2011 Report Share Posted December 18, 2011 I would find an advocate if the school will not back off. There is no way its ok for them to suspend him for a totally normal part of growing up. At the very least I would meet with the principal and have a conversation about " the birds and the bees".Jenn To: autism-aspergers Sent: Sunday, December 18, 2011 12:15 AM Subject: Re: Info? The principal told me if it happens again he will be suspended for a duration (never said how long) so yrs for us this is an issue im not sure how to deal with. This is an issue? When I was a teenager, this was a common occurrence. Why on earth would the girl report him?? Every book on puberty will tell you this happens often. Has anyone that has a male teen ever had issues with them having erections at school? If so what solutions do u have to offer? My sons school called and said he had n erection at school and some girls noticed and reported him. So now I as a single mom am faced with what to do. If he was a typical kid,i could explain why its not proper but,he is an aspie so I'm t a loss. No virus found in this message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 2012.0.1890 / Virus Database: 2108/4686 - Release Date: 12/17/11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2011 Report Share Posted December 29, 2011 Wow I have never heard of getting in trouble for something he has no control over. My children go to a private school but at home if it happens I see them pulling on there underwear to fix it and nothing is said being that I have 3 teen boys I have never had an issue when they were in public school I think this principle needs to be trained in aspie kids better just my opinion tho April Momma of: Tyler (15) Nick (14) Hunter (12) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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