OCD and Control

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Teri

I am still pretty new to the world of OCD. My kids were just diagnosed a year

ago. The control issues seem to be OCD related. I think some of the things look

like control because he has the just right OCD, and to me that often looks very

controlling. He gets so completely distressed by not having control during play

or regarding " His " things. This can be flushing the toilet after he's used it,

throwing away lint from between his toes that he insits on cleaning out every

night, moving something of his, taking pajamas out of the drawer for him (I

always get, " I wanted to do it. Then he will put them back in the drawer, close

the drawer, sit back down, get back up, get out  the same pajamas, and put them

on).  Logan will treat other people playing with him as a puppet. " Ok now say

this, do this "  When I  play with him, and he does this to me I ask him to let

me play the way I want or I will no longer play. He tries to stop, but it creeps

right back in.

When he does try to stop it you can see such anxiety and anguish in his face,

and sometimes tears. What I do with him now is for 5 minutes a day I prep him

with we are going to play until the timer rings and during that time you cannot

tell me what to do, say or how to play. Since he knows it will be a short amount

of time he hanldes it a little better. I do not know how to help him through his

sharing issues though. He absolutely refuses to share. It is way above and

beyond a typical 4 year old. I would love to hear from everyone out there who

see this in their loved ones, kids, spouses. I would love any advice on how to

help him with these control issues though. It's very dificult with other kids,

especially his twin.  And as you know, you can't always be right there to help

them through things.

Thank you everyone

Discipline for 3 yr old

I have a question for all of you pros out there! My 3 yr old son,

, is showing signs of something ... ocd, sensory issues, etc.

Everything has to be " just right " and he doesn't like the feel of

anything. He also rages all of the time .... now what I can't quite

figure out if it is always real or if he is just trying to get his

way thought it's probably about 50/50.

Anyway, time outs don't work because he won't sit and I have to sit

on top of him to get him to stay there. I don't like spanking and

honestly, I don't think it would do any good and he would probably

try and smack me back! Taking away privileges doesn't work because

he really doesn't understand, so I do the only think I know how.

When he won't listen to me, I put him on my lap and wrap my arms

tightly around him and hold him until he relaxes and stops fighting

me. Sometimes this takes about 10 minutes and all the time he is

trying to kick me, bite me, smash his head against me, but eventually

he relaxes and says he's ready to get down. Then, he is like a

different little boy and is very good. It's like his brain has

gotten unstuck, or that is how it seems to me. Okay ... this went

well for about a week but now he seems to be getting worse with his

behavioral issues and I'm having to hold him more and more. Does

anyone have any suggestions for me? My other children never acted

this way! I'm kind of at a loss and would love some good parenting

advice.

Thanks!

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