- Re: 's New Diagnosis

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PS. Most people with aspergers develop

language normally. It is the perseverate quality of their

communication and their problems with reading nonverbal social cues

that qualifies them as having aspergers.

TERESA, the above is what fits so much.

And we discussed how, for example, he is used to me (guess so, after

14 years) and can read my " emotions/cues " very well. (I had said how

he understands emotions well to them) BUT he doesn't do this well at

all with new people and situations, etc., to know what is expected of

him. Like the guy took out to get a drink where

would have to order for himself. He described as totally

lost (well, those are my words) as to what to do. New situation for

him. (mom orders for all when we go out) was waiting to be

prompted/asked everything, couldn't initiate on his own and actually

left his change! (poor guy) I could totally see all that as he told

me, as that is . And is 14.

Anyway, the guy did the bit where he might be saying one thing and

implying another thru facial expressions (so the face didn't match

with what he was saying) or something like that, you get the drift

anyway. And didn't know what/how to respond, etc. I can

totally see that too. Not knowing when he's being picked on or

complimented and how he seems lost at times. So we discussed how he

is used to familiar people - well, he does take things wrong from us

a lot too - but, anyway, this all was part of the " spectrum "

problems. Matched up as far as I was concerned. And so glad they

agreed about the part where he really can't carry on a 1:1

conversation.

Like you said, I need to just figure out what his needs are and how

to fulfill/help him in those areas. Yes, the Oasis site is great!!

At least I can use this for his educational needs.

Another subject but related - people sometimes bring up labelling

kids and later employment. But, really, when you fill out a job

application, unless you volunteer something like " yes, I have OCD "

or " yes, I have ADD " , autism, etc., they don't have to know do they?

Only if the job will need to accommodate you will they need to know.

So I won't worry about that YET. Just get him thru school and get

him strengthened in his weak areas! OCD and all included!

Thanks , and any/all advice and info welcomed!!

> Hi

> I'm not sure I mentioned this before but I am a special ed. teacher

> and I work primarily with kids with autism and aspergers. I've

> posted on this board a few times because my daughter has severe OCD

> and my 4 year old son is gifted with possible aspergers (although I

> seem to be the only one who sees it and even then I go back and

> forth). What I have come to realize is that many of these

disorders

> have overlaps. I think that professionals in the field try to

> distingquish between them because often the labels drive the

services

> that kids receive. In reality, I think they are not so distinct.

All

> of these disordes (OCD, autism, aspergers, tourettes,

> giftedness . . .) are brain-based disorders that impact social

> skills. Many kids with ocd have difficulties with social skills,