Guest guest Posted December 21, 2011 Report Share Posted December 21, 2011 i would try to keep his routine as much as possible such as eating at the same time going to bed at the same time. Maybe you could also give him a spot in the house he can go if he needs a break. Holiday Travel I think someone else posted holiday worries here recently...here we go again. I have an NT 5 yr old daughter and a 7 yr old son with Aspergers. On Christmas day we are driving 6 hours to stay with relatives for 4 nights in a small 3 bedroom house, 6 adults and 3 children. The kids' grandma (my MIL) seems to think the problem is parenting, not Aspergers. Since the diagnosis this summer there has been no acknowledgement of understanding or validation that accommodations are needed. Every visit has always been a struggle to keep everyone calm despite the tension and change in routine. Routine is so critical. I don't know how to proceed so that things will be better. I am exhausted trying to prepare and it's not even Christmas yet. Sent from my iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2011 Report Share Posted December 22, 2011 I feel for you !!!! Sometimes its better not to go. --- Original Message --- Sent: December 21, 2011 12/21/11 To: autism-aspergers Subject: Holiday Travel  I think someone else posted holiday worries here recently...here we go again. I have an NT 5 yr old daughter and a 7 yr old son with Aspergers. On Christmas day we are driving 6 hours to stay with relatives for 4 nights in a small 3 bedroom house, 6 adults and 3 children. The kids' grandma (my MIL) seems to think the problem is parenting, not Aspergers. Since the diagnosis this summer there has been no acknowledgement of understanding or validation that accommodations are needed. Every visit has always been a struggle to keep everyone calm despite the tension and change in routine. Routine is so critical. I don't know how to proceed so that things will be better. I am exhausted trying to prepare and it's not even Christmas yet. Sent from my iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2011 Report Share Posted December 22, 2011 We're in the exact same boat with our 7 yo Aspie. We stay with my MIL as well. I bring his food, right down to basics like our local pasture-raised milk, org. bread, cheese, all-natural cookies, vitamins, natural hot choc mix, froz broccoli, etc. If I don't, my son won't eat anything and will act horrible, or, worse, he'll eat too much junk. My in-laws don't really identify with the Aspie diagnosis. They just say he's a boy (they raised four). Thank goodness they don't judge. My MIL teaches in inner-city schools so she is exposed to a lot. Not much ruffles her feathers:) I try to keep the sleep schedule the same as well. That's about as good as you can do. Lots of down time is good too (whatever works: book before bed, favorite TV shows during the day, favorite blankets and animals to snuggle throughout the day, dim lights if sensitive to light). It's so easy to forget their needs when there is so much going on. Good luck! I head out after New's Years:) Kristy in VA > > I think someone else posted holiday worries here recently...here we go again. > > I have an NT 5 yr old daughter and a 7 yr old son with Aspergers. On Christmas day we are driving 6 hours to stay with relatives for 4 nights in a small 3 bedroom house, 6 adults and 3 children. The kids' grandma (my MIL) seems to think the problem is parenting, not Aspergers. Since the diagnosis this summer there has been no acknowledgement of understanding or validation that accommodations are needed. Every visit has always been a struggle to keep everyone calm despite the tension and change in routine. Routine is so critical. I don't know how to proceed so that things will be better. I am exhausted trying to prepare and it's not even Christmas yet. > > > > Sent from my iPhone > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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