RE: Sometimes I lose all hope

October 18, 2011

Please be strong, don't lose hope. Can you qualify for Medicaid or something like that?

I have been there with you when my son was the same age. Thankfully with occupational therapy, group, etc, it has been so much better. Medication has helped tremendously.There has been some days where I wish my child was neurotypical, but there are some days where I wouldn't change him for the world. Big hugs to you.

Feel free to vent away, that's what we're here for.

Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

, my heart goes out to you and your family. If you are not aware, please know that there are many resources out there that can help you and your family. First I want to ask, do you get disability for your daughter? There is an act that supports autistic individuals and their families.With that being said, it guarantees services you would not get otherwise. Look into that. Also, I don't know what your faith is, but with God all things are possible. Let Him carry your burdens and remember this prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. , take one day at a time. My son is on the spectrum and it is truly difficult, I have 3 other kids, I am single, looking for work and I go to school full time. My prayers are with you and your family.

Be blessedIn His Grace

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost. Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

You are not alone!! I don't have any good advice, except just put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. What is the next step? Work on that. My mom gave me great generic parenting advice when my girls were babies. " Is this going to be important in 6 months? " Say, you keep your daugther home today because she's crying, OR you don't. Also, our Neuropsychologist told us that our most important job with all kids, but espcecially kids on the spectrum is to love them unconditionally. That means accept them, love them and try to do the best everyday (not a small feat) and take one day at a time. You are seriously not alone!!!

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost. Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

We have medicaid. However the is no one in Louisiana that specializes in this. And when I asked our doctor about what to do she looked at me and said " what do you want there is no cure."

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:51 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Please be strong, don't lose hope. Can you qualify for Medicaid or something like that?

I have been there with you when my son was the same age. Thankfully with occupational therapy, group, etc, it has been so much better. Medication has helped tremendously.There has been some days where I wish my child was neurotypical, but there are some days where I wouldn't change him for the world. Big hugs to you.

Feel free to vent away, that's what we're here for.

Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

Thanks . We dont get disablity for her because we have money in savings from when our house was flooded. We are saving the money till Dec when I graduate to look for a home. We tired to explain all that to SS however that said it was an asset and we dont qualify.

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 11:14 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

, my heart goes out to you and your family. If you are not aware, please know that there are many resources out there that can help you and your family. First I want to ask, do you get disability for your daughter? There is an act that supports autistic individuals and their families.With that being said, it guarantees services you would not get otherwise. Look into that. Also, I don't know what your faith is, but with God all things are possible. Let Him carry your burdens and remember this prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. , take one day at a time. My son is on the spectrum and it is truly difficult, I have 3 other kids, I am single, looking for work and I go to school full time. My prayers are with you and your family.Be blessedIn His Grace

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

Thank you . It is hard to go sometimes when they cant tell you what bothers them. That is the most frustrating thing in our house with both my kids.

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 11:16 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

You are not alone!! I don't have any good advice, except just put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. What is the next step? Work on that. My mom gave me great generic parenting advice when my girls were babies. "Is this going to be important in 6 months?" Say, you keep your daugther home today because she's crying, OR you don't. Also, our Neuropsychologist told us that our most important job with all kids, but espcecially kids on the spectrum is to love them unconditionally. That means accept them, love them and try to do the best everyday (not a small feat) and take one day at a time. You are seriously not alone!!!

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

That's a crappy answer. There's no "cure" for hay fever, but there's plenty of ways to help ease the symptoms. I'd start seeing if there are resources at colleges near you, either for studies you can be involve in, or services to be offered. May want to see what other drs have to say about your daughter and possible speech therapy recommendations. Using something like PECS (cards that help a nonverbal child communicate) may be helpful.

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 9:38 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

We have medicaid. However the is no one in Louisiana that specializes in this. And when I asked our doctor about what to do she looked at me and said " what do you want there is no cure."

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:51 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Please be strong, don't lose hope. Can you qualify for Medicaid or something like that?

I have been there with you when my son was the same age. Thankfully with occupational therapy, group, etc, it has been so much better. Medication has helped tremendously. There has been some days where I wish my child was neurotypical, but there are some days where I wouldn't change him for the world. Big hugs to you.

Feel free to vent away, that's what we're here for.

Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

Maybe is there a list of occupational therapists that accept Medicaid? Or any kind of therapists that can refer you?

Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

She has mad great progress in speech. It just that she cant communicate feeling or have empathy and I dont think you can teach that.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 12:30 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

That's a crappy answer. There's no "cure" for hay fever, but there's plenty of ways to help ease the symptoms. I'd start seeing if there are resources at colleges near you, either for studies you can be involve in, or services to be offered. May want to see what other drs have to say about your daughter and possible speech therapy recommendations. Using something like PECS (cards that help a nonverbal child communicate) may be helpful.

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 9:38 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

We have medicaid. However the is no one in Louisiana that specializes in this. And when I asked our doctor about what to do she looked at me and said " what do you want there is no cure."

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:51 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Please be strong, don't lose hope. Can you qualify for Medicaid or something like that?

I have been there with you when my son was the same age. Thankfully with occupational therapy, group, etc, it has been so much better. Medication has helped tremendously. There has been some days where I wish my child was neurotypical, but there are some days where I wouldn't change him for the world. Big hugs to you.

Feel free to vent away, that's what we're here for.

Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

Can she identify different facial emotions (happy, sad, angry)? Point to the picture of the child who is mad?

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:43 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

She has mad great progress in speech. It just that she cant communicate feeling or have empathy and I dont think you can teach that.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 12:30 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

That's a crappy answer. There's no "cure" for hay fever, but there's plenty of ways to help ease the symptoms. I'd start seeing if there are resources at colleges near you, either for studies you can be involve in, or services to be offered. May want to see what other drs have to say about your daughter and possible speech therapy recommendations. Using something like PECS (cards that help a nonverbal child communicate) may be helpful.

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 9:38 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

We have medicaid. However the is no one in Louisiana that specializes in this. And when I asked our doctor about what to do she looked at me and said " what do you want there is no cure."

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:51 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Please be strong, don't lose hope. Can you qualify for Medicaid or something like that?

I have been there with you when my son was the same age. Thankfully with occupational therapy, group, etc, it has been so much better. Medication has helped tremendously. There has been some days where I wish my child was neurotypical, but there are some days where I wouldn't change him for the world. Big hugs to you.

Feel free to vent away, that's what we're here for.

Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

We have tried the pictures. And i think we finally got the sad. Because when she acts up she says Mommy's sad. But she has no empathy. The things she does say we have taught her to say.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 12:52 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Can she identify different facial emotions (happy, sad, angry)? Point to the picture of the child who is mad?

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:43 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

She has mad great progress in speech. It just that she cant communicate feeling or have empathy and I dont think you can teach that.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 12:30 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

That's a crappy answer. There's no "cure" for hay fever, but there's plenty of ways to help ease the symptoms. I'd start seeing if there are resources at colleges near you, either for studies you can be involve in, or services to be offered. May want to see what other drs have to say about your daughter and possible speech therapy recommendations. Using something like PECS (cards that help a nonverbal child communicate) may be helpful.

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 9:38 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

We have medicaid. However the is no one in Louisiana that specializes in this. And when I asked our doctor about what to do she looked at me and said " what do you want there is no cure."

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:51 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Please be strong, don't lose hope. Can you qualify for Medicaid or something like that?

I have been there with you when my son was the same age. Thankfully with occupational therapy, group, etc, it has been so much better. Medication has helped tremendously. There has been some days where I wish my child was neurotypical, but there are some days where I wouldn't change him for the world. Big hugs to you.

Feel free to vent away, that's what we're here for.

Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 18, 2011

I can relate to you. I'm sorry your struggling. I have 2 sons,14 and 22 both

with Autism. Sorry I have no answers but you have my support if you need it.

Kathy

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> OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than

others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She

would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the

car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and

has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her

what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts

that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now

the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and

might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity

we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance

to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He

never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels

so lost. Please someone respond.

>

October 18, 2011

I just went through one of those days last week. I have one son on the spectrum. I was just gonna tell you that with my son, before he would tell us what hurt, we had pictures of almost every body part and would just have him point. It worked really well. It is something small, but thought it may help you. Sorry it is so tough for ya. hope this helps a littleTo:

autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 2:25 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

I can relate to you. I'm sorry your struggling. I have 2 sons,14 and 22 both with Autism. Sorry I have no answers but you have my support if you need it. Kathy

>

> OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

>

October 18, 2011

As I read your post I remember all the nights I cried myself to sleep. Dealing

with autism is a life changer - no question about that.

I didn't think I could handle all the attention, time, appts, $$$ that this life

requires. I mourn all the parties, school clubs, friends, etc my little girl

will never have.

You are not alone precious.

If you make a conscious decision to be the best mother to your child possible

and put all your effort into that goal, you'll be able to sleep at night. The

hardest part for me was accepting that my role as a mother was my daughters

biggest asset. (I had a career!). and that it is the most important role I will

ever have.

It is important that I will speak for her because she cannot and I will not let

her be treated shabbily or 2nd best by anyone.

I demand appropriate services for my child and do not let her needs go

unattended. (Some of the institutions - (Schools) you deal with will try to put

minimum effort & $$ into meeting (the schools min goals) without real regard for

your childs learning ability, needs or success.)

My husband and I are united in our effort to get the best treatment for our

daughter. It has actually bound us tighter. We do not agree on much else but U

both have to be committed to your children and you can work everything else out.

And on those days, when you can't stand to deal with one more thing, just know

that at night you will close your eyes, and when you open them you will have a

fresh opportunity. Just make it to the end of the day...

Sending lots of love your way!

Cammy

http://stores.ebay.com/Cammys-Clothing-Treasures

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> > OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better

than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is

crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get

out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She

is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i

ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her

shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her.

And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale

and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want

pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and

insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not

alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that

he feels so lost. Please someone respond.

> >

>

October 18, 2011

I understand what you're saying. I wonder if for some it's like reading. When a child first "reads," they're just memorizing what you've said, rather than actually reading each word individually. But it forms a foundation. May be something to talk with her speech person to get more information. Best wishes to you and your precious girl.

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 11:02 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

We have tried the pictures. And i think we finally got the sad. Because when she acts up she says Mommy's sad. But she has no empathy. The things she does say we have taught her to say.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 12:52 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Can she identify different facial emotions (happy, sad, angry)? Point to the picture of the child who is mad?

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:43 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

She has mad great progress in speech. It just that she cant communicate feeling or have empathy and I dont think you can teach that.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 12:30 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

That's a crappy answer. There's no "cure" for hay fever, but there's plenty of ways to help ease the symptoms. I'd start seeing if there are resources at colleges near you, either for studies you can be involve in, or services to be offered. May want to see what other drs have to say about your daughter and possible speech therapy recommendations. Using something like PECS (cards that help a nonverbal child communicate) may be helpful.

Sherri

15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 9:38 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

We have medicaid. However the is no one in Louisiana that specializes in this. And when I asked our doctor about what to do she looked at me and said " what do you want there is no cure."

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:51 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Please be strong, don't lose hope. Can you qualify for Medicaid or something like that?

I have been there with you when my son was the same age. Thankfully with occupational therapy, group, etc, it has been so much better. Medication has helped tremendously. There has been some days where I wish my child was neurotypical, but there are some days where I wouldn't change him for the world. Big hugs to you.

Feel free to vent away, that's what we're here for.

Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

October 19, 2011

Itâ€™s possible to use social stories to explain feelings and empathy. Stacie From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of amanda johnsSent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 12:44 PMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope She has mad great progress in speech. It just that she cant communicate feeling or have empathy and I dont think you can teach that. To: " autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 12:30 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope That's a crappy answer. There's no " cure " for hay fever, but there's plenty of ways to help ease the symptoms. I'd start seeing if there are resources at colleges near you, either for studies you can be involve in, or services to be offered. May want to see what other drs have to say about your daughter and possible speech therapy recommendations. Using something like PECS (cards that help a nonverbal child communicate) may be helpful. Sherri 15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me, and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. To: " autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 9:38 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope We have medicaid. However the is no one in Louisiana that specializes in this. And when I asked our doctor about what to do she looked at me and said " what do you want there is no cure. " To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 10:51 AMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope Please be strong, don't lose hope. Can you qualify for Medicaid or something like that? I have been there with you when my son was the same age. Thankfully with occupational therapy, group, etc, it has been so much better. Medication has helped tremendously. There has been some days where I wish my child was neurotypical, but there are some days where I wouldn't change him for the world. Big hugs to you. Feel free to vent away, that's what we're here for.Subject: Sometimes I lose all hopeTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, October 18, 2011, 11:39 AM OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost. Please someone respond.

October 19, 2011

Hi ,

I Have had days like this. I think the other night when reality hit me that

I needed to get my daughter re-evaluated I started crying. It was a very

long and hard road with my youngest son. Things however have looked up. But

sometimes my daughter won't tell me why she is crying and the guessing is

the hardest part. Just out of curiosity is her class big or small? Is it

noisy in there? My son couldn't handle the class size and the noise. He was

full of anxiety and I saw this more in a full day then I did in a half day.

Stacie

Sometimes I lose all hope

OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better

than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is

crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt

get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the

normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and

emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If

i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here

to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring

really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and

cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school

left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need

to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to

me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost. Please someone

respond.

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October 19, 2011

Thank you so much! for your time. Just the fact you took the time to listen helps. I am wondering since I dont have doctors here to steer me through treament how I shoudl go about getting her what she needs. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 1:46 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

As I read your post I remember all the nights I cried myself to sleep. Dealing with autism is a life changer - no question about that.

I didn't think I could handle all the attention, time, appts, $$$ that this life requires. I mourn all the parties, school clubs, friends, etc my little girl will never have.

You are not alone precious.

If you make a conscious decision to be the best mother to your child possible and put all your effort into that goal, you'll be able to sleep at night. The hardest part for me was accepting that my role as a mother was my daughters biggest asset. (I had a career!). and that it is the most important role I will ever have.

It is important that I will speak for her because she cannot and I will not let her be treated shabbily or 2nd best by anyone.

I demand appropriate services for my child and do not let her needs go unattended. (Some of the institutions - (Schools) you deal with will try to put minimum effort & $$ into meeting (the schools min goals) without real regard for your childs learning ability, needs or success.)

My husband and I are united in our effort to get the best treatment for our daughter. It has actually bound us tighter. We do not agree on much else but U both have to be committed to your children and you can work everything else out.

And on those days, when you can't stand to deal with one more thing, just know that at night you will close your eyes, and when you open them you will have a fresh opportunity. Just make it to the end of the day...

Sending lots of love your way!

Cammy

http://stores.ebay.com/Cammys-Clothing-Treasures

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> > OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

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October 19, 2011

Will try that thanks!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 1:34 PMSubject:

Re: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

I just went through one of those days last week. I have one son on the spectrum. I was just gonna tell you that with my son, before he would tell us what hurt, we had pictures of almost every body part and would just have him point. It worked really well. It is something small, but thought it may help you. Sorry it is so tough for ya. hope this helps a littleFrom:

csadler239 To:

autism-aspergers Sent: Tuesday, October 18, 2011 2:25 PMSubject: Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

I can relate to you. I'm sorry your struggling. I have 2 sons,14 and 22 both with Autism. Sorry I have no answers but you have my support if you need it. Kathy

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> OK i try to handle all this with my daughter; however somedays are better than others. I just wish she could tell me what hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go to school today and I dont know what to do. She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her teacher and nothing happened out of the normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one here to help us with her. And now the therapist are telling us our son is scoring really high on the scale and might have Autism too. I just broke down and cried today. Not that I want pity we need help. I have one month of school left till I can get a job and insurance to take them to Austin. I just need to know my husband and I are not alone. He never cries and he just came to me and cried too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

>

October 19, 2011

You need to find a paediatrician who understand autism.Â If you

cannot find one, then you need to look for a support group.Â An

online group like this is great, but they can't give you the

specific information on your local area that is really needed.Â Even

finding just one mother locally who has been through the same thing

can be a great help.Â

Don't leave you husband out of it - often when dealing with

professionals a man can get results when a woman might not.Â That

isn't always true, and it doesn't say much good about society, but

sometimes you just have to work with how things are rather than how

they should be.Â In some cases it is the mother who can deal with

professionals and the father who just accepts what they say and

won't argue - if that is the case, it's a good argument for leaving

the kids with Dad while Mum goes after the professionals.Â Don't

worry about what is 'expected' or 'socially acceptable', just go

with whatever works.Â

Take a long term view.Â What will matter most to you in 10 years

time: that you offended a teacher or doctor by being 'pushy', or

that you got the help your kid needs?Â My son had mostly teachers

who wanted to help him, but I still sometimes had to argue for what

I thought he needed.Â And we changed peadiatricians when it became

obvious the first one we saw was not really going to be much help.Â

Then we asked around and found one that came highly recommended by

another parent.Â My son turns 18 next year, so we are looking for a

good adult psychologist/psychiatrist who is good with aspies.Â My

daughter's best friend's older brother has Aspergers and ADHD as

well, so we are keeping in touch and waiting to see how his

psychiatrist goes over the next year or so.

If you are moving to Austin, start looking online to see what is

available there.Â In a city that big, there should be something

available.Â Sometimes the hardest thing to deal with is not finding

professionals and services, but feeling like you're all alone and

there is no way you can survive.Â That's where having someone to

talk to who has been through it is really good.Â Just don't pick

someone who never made a mistake and always found everything they

needed without any problems, and the first thing they tried made a

major improvement to their kid.Â They just make you feel worse.Â

Life just isn't like that for most of us.Â Or if it is like that for

most people, I don't want to know

Â

Thank you so much! for your time. Just the fact

you took the time to listen helps. I am wondering

since I dont have doctors here to steer me through

treament how I shoudl go about getting her what she

needs.

From:

camcat10

To:

autism-aspergers

Sent:

Tuesday, October 18, 2011 1:46 PM

Subject:

Re: Sometimes I lose all hope

Â

As I read your post I remember all the

nights I cried myself to sleep. Dealing with

autism is a life changer - no question about

that.

I didn't think I could handle all the

attention, time, appts, $$$ that this life

requires. I mourn all the parties, school

clubs, friends, etc my little girl will never

have.

You are not alone precious.

If you make a conscious decision to be the

best mother to your child possible and put all

your effort into that goal, you'll be able to

sleep at night. The hardest part for me was

accepting that my role as a mother was my

daughters biggest asset. (I had a career!).

and that it is the most important role I will

ever have.

It is important that I will speak for her

because she cannot and I will not let her be

treated shabbily or 2nd best by anyone.

I demand appropriate services for my child and

do not let her needs go unattended. (Some of

the institutions - (Schools) you deal with

will try to put minimum effort & $$ into

meeting (the schools min goals) without real

regard for your childs learning ability, needs

or success.)

My husband and I are united in our effort to

get the best treatment for our daughter. It

has actually bound us tighter. We do not agree

on much else but U both have to be committed

to your children and you can work everything

else out.

And on those days, when you can't stand to

deal with one more thing, just know that at

night you will close your eyes, and when you

open them you will have a fresh opportunity.

Just make it to the end of the day...

Sending lots of love your way!

Cammy

http://stores.ebay.com/Cammys-Clothing-Treasures

> >

> > OK i try to handle all this with my

daughter; however somedays are better than

others. I just wish she could tell me what

hurts her. And why she is crying. She would go

to school today and I dont know what to do.

She wouldnt get out of the car. I asked her

teacher and nothing happened out of the

normal. She is 4 and has limited speech. She

doesnt understand feelings and emotions. If i

ask her what hurt she will tell me one by one

everything. If i ask her if her shoe hurts

that hurts. I feel so lost. There is no one

here to help us with her. And now the

therapist are telling us our son is scoring

really high on the scale and might have Autism

too. I just broke down and cried today. Not

that I want pity we need help. I have one

month of school left till I can get a job and

insurance to take them to Austin. I just need

to know my husband and I are not alone. He

never cries and he just came to me and cried

too saying the same that he feels so lost.

Please someone respond.

> >

>

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