RE: To Rob

[Guest guest]

Hi Rob,

I am sorry for your pain with your father - somehow you have turned out

such a nice person.

American Sue

Rob re your vent

Rob,

I've been thinking about this through the night and at least you

know why your son won't talk to you. Right or wrong you have the

answer as to why. I think he would feel betrayed and deceived.

He's been " lied to " all his life, and from what you've said,

continues to be.

I'm comparing it to my own 'relationship' with my father. He hated

me and I don't know why. I had/have theories but I won't ever know

the truth, or at least his version of the truth.

Over the years of my late teens and early 20's my father talked to

me less and less, until one christmas day the only conversation I

got was hello and goodbye. He chatted with my brother and my

brothers girlfriend all day. Laughing and I got the occasional

glare. Its not so much about him not liking me...you get used to

being ignored, I wanted to know why. What had I done that had

turned him so hateful toward me? A few weeks later, after much soul

searching I got the balls to confront him about it. Only to have

him drop dead in the middle of the night.

They called my brother was called, who in turn called me. We went

to my fathers place, where my fathers sister came up to my brother,

hugged him and his girlfriend, saying how sorry they all were. They

looked at me disdainfully and walked off. A few hours later one of

them came up to me, try to hug me and said " sorry I thought you were

your mother " .

Ahhhhhhhh this was one theory of my fathers hatred toward me. I

looked like my mum. So much for us thinking parents are supposed to

love their kids unconditionally. Its all good unless you look like

the one they divorced.

I've gone off on a tangent, but my point is, be thankful that you

know why your son doesn't want to know you right now. Not knowing

is a whole lot worse.

Hugs and Kisses

Rochelle

[Guest guest]

No Offence taken Sue I get the same way myself so much to do in so few hours.

Regards

Rob

RE: To Rob

Hi Rob,I am sorry for your pain with your father - somehow you have turned outsuch a nice person.American Sue-----Original Message-----From: Rochelle Sent: Thursday, 16 March 2006 10:17 AMTo: SydBand Subject: Rob re your ventRob,I've been thinking about this through the night and at least you know why your son won't talk to you. Right or wrong you have the answer as to why. I think he would feel betrayed and deceived. He's been "lied to" all his life, and from what you've said, continues to be. I'm comparing it to my own 'relationship' with my father. He hated me and I don't know why. I had/have theories but I won't ever know the truth, or at least his version of the truth. Over the years of my late teens and early 20's my father talked to me less and less, until one christmas day the only conversation I got was hello and goodbye. He chatted with my brother and my brothers girlfriend all day. Laughing and I got the occasional glare. Its not so much about him not liking me...you get used to being ignored, I wanted to know why. What had I done that had turned him so hateful toward me? A few weeks later, after much soul searching I got the balls to confront him about it. Only to have him drop dead in the middle of the night. They called my brother was called, who in turn called me. We went to my fathers place, where my fathers sister came up to my brother, hugged him and his girlfriend, saying how sorry they all were. They looked at me disdainfully and walked off. A few hours later one of them came up to me, try to hug me and said "sorry I thought you were your mother". Ahhhhhhhh this was one theory of my fathers hatred toward me. I looked like my mum. So much for us thinking parents are supposed to love their kids unconditionally. Its all good unless you look like the one they divorced. I've gone off on a tangent, but my point is, be thankful that you know why your son doesn't want to know you right now. Not knowing is a whole lot worse. Hugs and KissesRochelle