Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 Abby, how perceptive of you. I did give up eating for about 3-4 days. When I'm bored I eat, when I'm upset food is the first to go. Happy to report that I'm back to eating though I must admit that it is taking some getting used to eating alone without my Max either pawing me for a morsel or laying his head on my lap with pleading copper penny coloured eyes begging for a bite. I know that in time the hurt I feel will lessen and in the meantime I beg all your pardons and ask that you be patient with me. Thanks for the support. Courage Courage >Courage: > >I've been pretty lucky in my life. I've only " lost " my grandmother >(who was 92) and a cat when I was 22. Other than that, I haven't had >to grieve much so I'm not expert when it comes to how to do it >right. That being said, take what I'm about to say with a grain of >salt: > >I think you don't need to get over it or feel it less because it's >been a week now. I don't know if there ever is a time when it will >hurt less but I do believe you will come to think of him less often >and your memories will not necessarily focus on mainly your loss of >him. You'll come to laugh and share Max stories with others fondly I >believe but it will take some time. > >However, I've been piecing together some " stuff " you've told us about >what Max means to you and I recall he helped you eat when your weight >became dangerously low. It worries me that you've lost him and >possibly the will or inclination to eat. I hope that no matter how >hard you grieve for him that you will remember to take care of you. >We all need you well and your other animals and your family need you >even more than us. > >Wishing and hope this too shall pass for you.. but at a time when >you're ready for it to pass or diminish slightly... > >Abby > > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 OMG Simmel, I am bawling my eyes out! What you have been through.... Your discription of grieving is so apt to how I am feeling right now. True, your loss is far more substantial and I hope that the hard edges wear down quickly. In between cracks in unyeilding cement greenery can still grow. Courage Re: Courage >Courage, > >I have always likened the loss of one you loved to a deep hole which is surrounded by shards of glass....it is horribly painful when you get to these edges...the hole never goes away...only, with time, the edges become a bit worn down so they are not as sharp. It does take time. I can recall a week, about five years ago, when I lost three dogs in 14 days. For a while I said I would never have another dog. The truth was that dogs > >Simmelare so much a part of my life that I did get another dog. It was only by loving him that I was able to recover a bit from those days. One actually came to me where I was sitting in the kitchen put her head in my lap and died in my arms. Courage > > > Courage: > > I've been pretty lucky in my life. I've only " lost " my grandmother > (who was 92) and a cat when I was 22. Other than that, I haven't had > to grieve much so I'm not expert when it comes to how to do it > right. That being said, take what I'm about to say with a grain of > salt: > > I think you don't need to get over it or feel it less because it's > been a week now. I don't know if there ever is a time when it will > hurt less but I do believe you will come to think of him less often > and your memories will not necessarily focus on mainly your loss of > him. You'll come to laugh and share Max stories with others fondly I > believe but it will take some time. > > However, I've been piecing together some " stuff " you've told us about > what Max means to you and I recall he helped you eat when your weight > became dangerously low. It worries me that you've lost him and > possibly the will or inclination to eat. I hope that no matter how > hard you grieve for him that you will remember to take care of you. > We all need you well and your other animals and your family need you > even more than us. > > Wishing and hope this too shall pass for you.. but at a time when > you're ready for it to pass or diminish slightly... > > Abby > > > > > Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2004 Report Share Posted June 2, 2004 Sharon, thanks so much for this link. I had a look around, cried, cried, cried and am going to order the books from the library. Courage Courage >Hi Courage- >I found a website that is for a book on coping with the lose of your >dog. >On the website, you can contact the author with any questions you >have and he will answer them. (free of charge it says) >Just thought you'd like it if you might like to ask him somethings >about Max. >It's www.coldnosesbook.com >Cute website name don't you think? >Hang in there my friend. >Hugs- >Sharon > > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2004 Report Share Posted June 3, 2004 Thanks so much Sharon for the support. is still having a lot of morning/all day sickness but the doc prescribed some medication which is helping a lot. If she remembers to eat a small amount all day then she does better. Looks like the baby will be born on December 20....a christmas baby! Courage Re: Courage >Courage- >I wish we were closer so i could help you. I feel awful for all you are going through. >I'm praying for you and i know brighter days are going to come your way. >You know we are always here for you to vent or just listen to what you need to get off your chest. >Been wondering how you daughter is feeling? Better i hope. >Please take care and know we are here for you. >Hugs- >Sharon > Feeling very low today > > > Hi All, > > I'm having a really rough day. I've spent the last hour on the sofa with my bald head in my hands going through the list of everything that is wrong in my life. I hate my mind on days like today. Everywhere I look all I can see is the that the house needs cleaning or repairs, the animals each have something wrong with them and that I don't have two nickels to rub together to fix anything! > Then I start thinking about my family and feel even worse. I've upped my Celexa meds but I know it will take a while to kick in at the higher dose. Sleep is eluding me and when I finally do crash its that sleep that leaves you anything but rested. > Sorry to complain but my depression is getting the better of me and I just need to get this off my chest. This is when I miss Max as he made me get up off the couch and pay attention to him or his needs and failing this then I could always get into bed and he would follow me and stay there till I got out. > Courage > > Please follow this link to learn more about Lewy Body Dementia > http://www.lewybodydementia.org > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2004 Report Share Posted June 4, 2004 Yes, I was thinking the same thing. In a month or two they are going to find out the sex. Very excited about this. Courage Re: Courage >A CHRISTMAS BABY what a double blessing that would be for your family. >smiles, >sharon m florida > > > > >Thanks so much Sharon for the support. is still having a lot of >morning/all day sickness but the doc prescribed some medication which is >helping a lot. If she remembers to eat a small amount all day then she does >better. Looks like the baby will be born on December 20....a christmas >baby! >Courage > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2004 Report Share Posted June 4, 2004 Abby, one day all of us living in or near TO are going to have to get together! Let's wait til the weather gets warmer and have some dinner on a patio somewhere to be followed by Lemon Drops. Courage Courage >Hello: > >Yes, we do have something to celebrate insofar as my dad's brain >tumour remaining at bay for the time being. I know this means that >LBD and Parkinsons is progressing faster but at least we're not >stressing re: whether to have him undergo surgery or not. > >I too have been missing some posts. I just read about you possibly >getting together with another Torontonian. If you do and if I can >swing it, I'd love to join you. The only thing stopping me is all >that the end of the school year brings to a teacher. However, I >could try to make time... > >Hope your day goes great Courage!!! > >Abby > > > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2004 Report Share Posted June 4, 2004 Thanks Piper. How's your mom doing? Courage Courage >Hi, Courage, > >What exciting news about a Christmas grandbaby! Congratulations to you and >! I hope continues to feel a little better. > >Sending big hugs your way, > >Piper > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2004 Report Share Posted June 7, 2004 Sounds good to me Kath. Courage Re: Re: Courage >I would love to join the two of you. Hopefully we can make it a week night >as I go away most weekends... > >Kath > Re: Courage > > >> Count me in!!!! >> >> Putting faces to names will be awesome!! >> >> And the Lemon Drops....an absolute necessity of course. >> >> Abby >> >> >> >> >> Welcome to LBDcaregivers. >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2004 Report Share Posted June 17, 2004 Hi, Courage, It was so good to see your post. I was beginning to wonder about you. I have been a little out of touch myself, but I noticed you have not been posting. I am so sorry that you are having to go through all this. I think of you everyday. Take as much time for yourself as you can. We will be here whenever you can join us. Sending you strength and a huge, enormous hug. Much love, Piper Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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