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if you're new to bullworker,do the basic six exercises for a week(5 to 6 days) then add 3 exercises daily till you're doing them all.stay with this for at least 3 months.if you miss a workout,make up for it on saturday.after 3 months,you can go to everyother day,or once a week.you can walk every day,though,or every other day.hope this helps.deist1234 wrote:

Would doing the full daily BW program every other day be sufficient, supplemented by walking long distance on the alternate day, or would it be better to just use a few core exercises every day? I am new to BW, and don't want to burn myself out. Any suggestions would be helpful.

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> BW, and don't want to burn myself out. Any suggestions would be

> helpful.

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I am new to this site. I have a son (7) with high functioning Autism.

He is in 1st grade mainstream. It has been a very interesting road,

with victories and battles, overall I think he is doing pretty good.

Lately he has been very defiant against authority and I'm not sure how

to teach this concept. I understand he may not see how we feel when he

does that but I am having a hard time helping him get it. At school is

creating a not so good feel with the teacher and aid, makes me a little

nervous but we are having an IEP meeting next week.

Does any of you have any ideas or answer on how to handle defiance?

Thanks

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With our son, (he's 7, higher functioning, but not in a regular class), whenever we have issues like this, we've found we have have to go over his whole routine, and guess at what is causeing the problem.

For instance, he had a real tough time at school, in first grade (he's in second now). We kept going round and round trying to figure out what the problem was, till we realized that when he had to go do his work at his desk, he felt he was being punished because the desk faced the wall. Mind you, this took 3 months of grief because he can't express himself well enough to say these types of things directly.

Clearly, I don't know what is causing your son's issues, but it does sound like a " reaction " to something. The teacher may not quite understand that autistics don't do a lot of their odd behaviors out of spite, but for incomprehensible reasons sometimes. If she is treating it like a discipline problem, she likely won't get the result she wants.

I am new to this site. I have a son (7) with high functioning Autism. He is in 1st grade mainstream. It has been a very interesting road, with victories and battles, overall I think he is doing pretty good.

Lately he has been very defiant against authority and I'm not sure how to teach this concept. I understand he may not see how we feel when he does that but I am having a hard time helping him get it. At school is creating a not so good feel with the teacher and aid, makes me a little nervous but we are having an IEP meeting next week.Does any of you have any ideas or answer on how to handle defiance?Thanks

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Hi ,

I am sure they are subtle things in their minds that we do not have a

clue about!!, and that is the frustrating part about it. From the

outside he looks totally normal, and a lot of his behavior comes

across like everyone else, so is very easy for people to have

unrealistic expectations for him 9me included) and missed the

diferent brain setup they have.

There are times I look at him and don't know if what he just did was

with full knowledge or not, and I know the teacher is feeling the

same plus 30 kids in class.

Today the aid was absent at school and he was by himself. I stayed

for a while to make sure he was set up for success, after that I left

and crossed my fingers sitting next to the phone. He had a PERFECT

day!! uffff. And things move on...

T

> >

> > I am new to this site. I have a son (7) with high functioning

Autism.

> > He is in 1st grade mainstream. It has been a very interesting

road,

> > with victories and battles, overall I think he is doing pretty

good.

> >

> > Lately he has been very defiant against authority and I'm not

sure how

> > to teach this concept. I understand he may not see how we feel

when he

> > does that but I am having a hard time helping him get it. At

school is

> > creating a not so good feel with the teacher and aid, makes me a

little

> > nervous but we are having an IEP meeting next week.

> >

> > Does any of you have any ideas or answer on how to handle

defiance?

> >

> > Thanks

> >

> >

> >

>

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Hi. I've recently gone through a stagnant period with my son with more defiance, over-sensitivity, defensiveness to the point where he seemed scared of his two best friends of 3 years. It turns out that another boy in his class of 4 was targeting him and being physically aggressive, although sometimes not being deliberately mean. This took a couple of months to gel and become obvious to everyone and I commend my teachers and special ed directors for moving my son to the adjacent class quickly and smoothly. In spite of occasional problems with aggression, he is now doing great and loves going to school. Your son must do well if he is mainstream. Mine is about to try 15 minute inclusions again after a year of none. If he has gotten this far there must be something different/new going on that noone's picked up on yet. I would go back to square one and check off all his needs and quirks. As far as any insecurity you might feel about this with the teachers or aides I want to remind you that your son is not the first or unfortunately the last child they will ever have in their class. If they are professionals with even 1-2 years under their belt dealing with this disorder they have already seen anything your son could dish out and know it's just part of what goes on. Is your son fully independent in class? Has he had or could have an aide accessible even temporarily? Sometimes someone new who knows what to look for can have a fresh perspective.

In Hope,

Shauna> >> > I am new to this site. I have a son (7) with high functioning Autism.> > He is in 1st grade mainstream. It has been a very interesting road,> > with victories and battles, overall I think he is doing pretty good.> >> > Lately he has been very defiant against authority and I'm not sure how> > to teach this concept. I understand he may not see how we feel when he> > does that but I am having a hard time helping him get it. At school is> > creating a not so good feel with the teacher and aid, makes me a little> > nervous but we are having an IEP meeting next week.> >> > Does any of you have any ideas or answer on how to handle defiance?> >> > Thanks> >> > > >>

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-Hi There!

It's very interesting that you mentioned that your son

had a great day, the day the aide was " out " and you

stayed around thinking he would have a harder time

adjusting on that particular day.

Well maybe you are on to something. does the aide hurry

him to put his things in order, or rush him off to

his desk, etc.? maybe he resents being told to do things

without allowing him to do some things he knows already

and then praising him afterwards. My husband (we are

parents of2 PDD boys) will tell one to " Take off your

pants, " " put on your pajamas " when the child is already

in the bathroom, or already exhibiting behavior that

shows he's going to do those things... I give my boy

the information and try to let him do the action and

it shows me he knows whats what, and it gives him power

over his life. For example, if we are going towards the

door to go out, or to meet the bus, he picks up his

jacket,so rather than always reminding him about his

hat, or backpack, I praise the jacket thing, because

his action shows he understands that I said we're

heading outside, and he did something appropriate with

that information.

So... your son may be rebelling against being told

" do this " as opposed to " time to do... " or " let's do

instead of always " you do... " One of my boys is

very pliable and the other independent minded. And

both require different " handling "

see ifyou can find a pattern, and without your son

getting away with something, I'm sure the teacher

can modify her speech or handling to get the most out

of him.

My independent minded son, also hurries to do things

his way, before I can tell him No. because he respects

the word, and usually heeds, he tries to do stuff

before I tell him No, and then it's as if he didn't

do something wrong. Clever, but challenging!

When my boys were about your son's age, I had alot

of cooperation issues, so I just picked my " no-s "

carefully, because once I said no, I could not give

in, or they would run the show. But on many issues

I tried to give them notice of things to come,prepare

them as much as possible, work with them, but when

the thing had to be done, they understood that was

it, and complied.

GOOD LUCK

-- In AutismBehaviorProblems , " momasdchild "

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> I am new to this site. I have a son (7) with high functioning

Autism.

> He is in 1st grade mainstream. It has been a very interesting

road,

> with victories and battles, overall I think he is doing pretty

good.

>

> Lately he has been very defiant against authority and I'm not sure

how

> to teach this concept. I understand he may not see how we feel

when he

> does that but I am having a hard time helping him get it. At

school is

> creating a not so good feel with the teacher and aid, makes me a

little

> nervous but we are having an IEP meeting next week.

>

> Does any of you have any ideas or answer on how to handle defiance?

>

> Thanks

>

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Hi Shauna,

My son does have a one on one assiatnt with him all the time a

school. I think I may be overreacting (like usual) and expecting the

worse. He is actually doing ok in the general idea, once in a while

he does get hard to handle and is sooo hard to figure out what is the

trigger, is not that he gets frustrated or anything like that. It

looks like he is puching the limits to see how far he can do whay HE

wants to do, at school that is a huge problem for them since they

have to take care of 27 more kids (all typical) he is the only kid

withdisabilities in that class. first time for the teacher also.

It could be so much worse, like so many other parents have to do.

I'll pick my battles ang get ready for an IEP meeting on Tuesday. As

far as I know I have all my ducks in a row (all documentation).

Thanks

T

> > >

> > > I am new to this site. I have a son (7) with high functioning

> Autism.

> > > He is in 1st grade mainstream. It has been a very interesting

road,

> > > with victories and battles, overall I think he is doing pretty

good.

> > >

> > > Lately he has been very defiant against authority and I'm not

sure

> how

> > > to teach this concept. I understand he may not see how we feel

when

> he

> > > does that but I am having a hard time helping him get it. At

school

> is

> > > creating a not so good feel with the teacher and aid, makes me a

> little

> > > nervous but we are having an IEP meeting next week.

> > >

> > > Does any of you have any ideas or answer on how to handle

defiance?

> > >

> > > Thanks

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

>

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When my son with Asperger's was in 2nd grade we really started to struggle with the school. They felt that he was becoming 'defiant' or showing behavior problems. What we found was that they were not understanding his disability and how best to handle him. He had more transitions and it drove him crazy. It seemed like every 15 to 20 minutes they were on a different subject and they expected him to just switch on a dime and move on to the next subject. He also started to object to being removed from the class due to his 'specials' like OT and Speech. The Principal and I went to a class on Asperger's and it changed our understanding of what was going on. I understood at home that it was best if I gave him a heads up - five more minutes before ....whatever was coming up, but the school wasn't doing that. After some discussions following that training, the staff agreed to give him more help and notice of

transitions, and weren't as militant if he spent a few minutes finishing up the last project. We also combined the speech and social specials since the problems with speech were pragmatic/social anyway. Do you have an autism resource team that could come in and assess the situation? We also did that and it did help to have that third party. Your son more than likely didn't develop this behavior without a reason or a trigger, and they can help identify what the triggers are. Hope that helps, Mariemomasdchild wrote: I am new to this site. I have a son (7) with high functioning Autism. He is in 1st grade mainstream. It has been a very interesting road, with victories and battles, overall I think he is doing pretty good.Lately he has been very defiant against authority and I'm not sure how to teach this concept. I understand he may not see how we feel when he does that but I am having a hard time helping him get it. At school is creating a not so good feel with the teacher and aid, makes me a little nervous but we are having an IEP meeting next week.Does any of you have any ideas or answer on how to handle defiance?Thanks

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