Hello Everyone

December 19, 2007

Debbie

OUCH a RNY and a hysterectomy/chemo within months of each other.

What hell that must have been! Then to add insult to injury...the

weight came back. darn, double darn!

First, congrats for being such a survivor! I also admire your

determination to keep trying to find a solution to obesity. To

date, I haven't met a RNY to DS revision-er who wasn't happy with the

change. Here's to January 2008 being the beginning to a Wonderful

transformation.

Holiday hugs

Jo

December 19, 2007

Thanks for the email Jo.? Yes, it was a very trying time.? I was losing weight

but not sure if the RNY was successful as I was not eating due to chemo.? I lost

all of my hair and was very depressed for so long after all of this I never

really developed new exercise habits.

I hope to be able to get it right this time.

Debbie

Re: Hello everyone

Debbie

OUCH a RNY and a hysterectomy/chemo within months of each other.

What hell that must have been! Then to add insult to injury...the

weight came back. darn, double darn!

First, congrats for being such a survivor! I also admire your

determination to keep trying to find a solution to obesity. To

date, I haven't met a RNY to DS revision-er who wasn't happy with the

change. Here's to January 2008 being the beginning to a Wonderful

transformation.

Holiday hugs

Jo

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December 20, 2007

Welcome - While I am not a revision, I did go thru the trauma and

reached the joy associated with the DS surgery. Listen here and ask

here, and you'll be rewarded!

Bobbe in Paso. 285=24. 3/03. 167=16.

February 20, 2009

I totally agree with your concern and with your comments about this young

woman. I am also thinking that she seems to have a large number of

organizations and community groups involved with her. It sounds like she is

interpreting their limits and boundaries as mean. I suspect they are all

aware of her needs and patterns of behavior. If we see them on the net,

surely the people in her daily life are aware. I know you are rightly

concerned but I am guessing that many people are trying to help her set up

safe boundaries for herself including on the Internet. It must be difficult

for her and for all of her support system. Thanks for posting those emails

from her. Perhaps it is best not to reply to her. What she is doing is not

at all safe for her. Our silence may be the best determent to her risky

behavior.

From: sondra

Date: 2/20/2009 11:09:56 PM

To: Autism_in_Girls_and_Women

Subject: Re: Hello Everyone

thanks to validate of my concerns to this.

some people in the past posted of me some real concerns and some

behaviors that ones need of to take of cautions with in regards to the

postings of her a time back and they were of some concerning of the

things they discovered and found that were of greatly inconsistent.

This person who shared them to me was from another list and also had of

much of the same concerns. that is of when I to tried of to no longer

respond to the postings of this person now.

I to not be of disputing of the indication of this person having of

aspergers but she appears to not like of any limits to her and she is

of resisting any attempts by her care supports to set any on her, even

when it may be that they are of trying in her best interest to keep of

her safe.

I to also agree that much of her supports may be of failing her too in

which she may be of to be interpreting things as mean instead of not

getting it. such as to shake of the hands of the preacher might not be

of a fobidden but her timing of when she wants to shake of hims hands

mnight be of off and then causing an interuption to the service as a

whole, so these things if not being of teached correctly can be of

impacting her and causing her to feel people are of being mean. this I

to understand from both perspectives.

But regardless she needs to be of kept of safe and so feel it is of

important for to find out how.

sondra

February 20, 2009

Jay I to not be of to sended of those post that was of her and was of

responding of to them. I t be of agree that ignoring usually works but

for her it has not, she has been to do this sort of posting for years

and continues to do them. my fear is that if we stay of silent it

leaves of the worng sorts of people who might be of also be here to

target of her in an unsafe way. my thinking was of to report of this to

the care people of her care and maybe of ban her from this list not

because she of bad or such but for her safety here.

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yes she may still post other lists but for here she will be of safe.

because as long as she posts of those sorts of post she is of not safe

and none here can guarantee of that there is of not a lurker here to

cause of her harm. this ban would be of to protect of her and not be

part of her unsafe behavior of solicting herself to the whole of the

internet list.

sondra

February 21, 2009

But how can we get in contact with her community of support people ? I

know this is what you are attempting to do . It seems the best action to

take.

We just don't know if any " offender type person " will try to engage her

trust. If we ban her from this list she will just go to other lists who may

not feel as protective of her. It is a problem for sure.

-- Re: Hello Everyone

Jay I to not be of to sended of those post that was of her and was of

responding of to them. I t be of agree that ignoring usually works but

for her it has not, she has been to do this sort of posting for years

and continues to do them. my fear is that if we stay of silent it

leaves of the worng sorts of people who might be of also be here to

target of her in an unsafe way. my thinking was of to report of this to

the care people of her care and maybe of ban her from this list not

because she of bad or such but for her safety here.

\

yes she may still post other lists but for here she will be of safe.

because as long as she posts of those sorts of post she is of not safe

and none here can guarantee of that there is of not a lurker here to

cause of her harm. this ban would be of to protect of her and not be

part of her unsafe behavior of solicting herself to the whole of the

internet list.

sondra

February 21, 2009

JAY this is of my thinking in complete. it is of for her safe not

anythings else as in true she means no harm, does not cause any issues

or harm but is of not being safe by doing this, not to just this list

but she posts like this much to many many lists the same sorts of

posts. my concern is of for her not others, because was thinking to

self what if whe I to be of gone one of my daughters were of doing this

and no one assured of her safe that would break of my heart.

My missy has beent o do much similar things to net in the past and it

fears me to know how the computer can be of a great tool and also a

dangersous one.

off topic i to be of freezing much so this last two days and cant get

of warm. I to went out long enough to get of a good lunch of chineses

general tso's chicken and lo mein and now full but still freezing so

will cuddle to my blankets and a heat pad to warm of me

sondra

February 21, 2009

That is just how I look at it. If she were my daughter, it would break my

heart because of the risk .

I hope you get warm. We are waiting for a snow storm, again. That will

mean I need to shovel for over two hours to be able to get my car out of the

garage.