Re: Sharing/sharing... status quo

[Guest guest]

Hi Maree,

This is Mel from Bathurst and I know I don't post much (too shy!) but when I read you message I was so saddened to hear how you feel about yourself. I checked out the pikkies from Bulli and I thought you looked great but more importantly even I know just how great you are just from your posts. You genuinely care about everyone and give the most wonderful advice and I cannot imagine anyone being put off by your body because it is attached to such a wonderful mind and spirit. You clearly do not see the fabulous person that you show to everyone else and I hope that as time goes on you start to see a clearer picture of yourself.

I am not looking to give you idle compliments and I never post much (although I read every post) so you can imagine how passionate about this I feel to be brave enough to respond. For all your lousy feelings about yourself, you are seriously inspirational to so many people you cannot imagine the impact you have made on other's lives. I truly hope that one day you learn to love yourself (saggy bits and all) as much as others do - if anyone deserves it , it is you!

Mel.

Sharing/sharing... status quo

Hi everyone,just writing my thoughts and will be interested in feed back.I haven't lost anything since I returned from my Christmas holidays. I still have a 55 kilo loss which is great but to be honest, since my Darwin trip in August I have only dropped 2 stone (about 12 kilos), the bulk was lost in the 9 months prior. I seem to have maxed out somehow, even though I am still really big (see Bulli photos-NO don't).I have been having more chocolate, ice cream etc, but even so, I eat very little, still only 2 meals per day but the weight loss has stagnated. I want to share here how I am feeling, I have told my daughter but otherwise this is a first. I don't know that I want to loose any more. I am soooooo unhappy with my body. Now, pre band I was never worried about such things, I was big, firm, smooth skinned and tooooooo fat but my body was smooth and quite youthful looking as far as skin quality. Since my weight loss I find my body absolutely disgusting. I look like a deflated balloon. Everything from my face down to my legs, especially my boobs, are all wrinkly, sagging and ugly. There is nothing pretty about the way this disrobed body looks. I told my daughter had I realised I would look like this I probably wouldn't have had the surgery. Well, she went ballistic, she said you look so much better and what about your health? Yes, I know, health wise I am 200% better, dressed I don't look too bad as long as I don't look down at my tripey breasts. But, I am sad. I feel old, dejected, rejected, not at all loveable, not at all sexy, not at all desirable. I feel my age (never have before) and currently feeling obsolete. I keep putting off these men I contact via internet dating, I feel they would be disgusted by this stringy flabby sagging bod. Had I lost some more weight I could consider reconstruction surgery, but this is my whole body I am talking about. Where would they start and finish? How would I ever pay for it all let alone endure the pain. My face is gone, my neck, boobs, arms, tummy and now the tops of my legs. I am really, honestly, saddened by it all. Not joking or looking for compliments, just truly sad. Maree

[Guest guest]

Hi Maree,

This is Mel from Bathurst and I know I don't post much (too shy!) but when I read you message I was so saddened to hear how you feel about yourself. I checked out the pikkies from Bulli and I thought you looked great but more importantly even I know just how great you are just from your posts. You genuinely care about everyone and give the most wonderful advice and I cannot imagine anyone being put off by your body because it is attached to such a wonderful mind and spirit. You clearly do not see the fabulous person that you show to everyone else and I hope that as time goes on you start to see a clearer picture of yourself.

I am not looking to give you idle compliments and I never post much (although I read every post) so you can imagine how passionate about this I feel to be brave enough to respond. For all your lousy feelings about yourself, you are seriously inspirational to so many people you cannot imagine the impact you have made on other's lives. I truly hope that one day you learn to love yourself (saggy bits and all) as much as others do - if anyone deserves it , it is you!

Mel.

Sharing/sharing... status quo

Hi everyone,just writing my thoughts and will be interested in feed back.I haven't lost anything since I returned from my Christmas holidays. I still have a 55 kilo loss which is great but to be honest, since my Darwin trip in August I have only dropped 2 stone (about 12 kilos), the bulk was lost in the 9 months prior. I seem to have maxed out somehow, even though I am still really big (see Bulli photos-NO don't).I have been having more chocolate, ice cream etc, but even so, I eat very little, still only 2 meals per day but the weight loss has stagnated. I want to share here how I am feeling, I have told my daughter but otherwise this is a first. I don't know that I want to loose any more. I am soooooo unhappy with my body. Now, pre band I was never worried about such things, I was big, firm, smooth skinned and tooooooo fat but my body was smooth and quite youthful looking as far as skin quality. Since my weight loss I find my body absolutely disgusting. I look like a deflated balloon. Everything from my face down to my legs, especially my boobs, are all wrinkly, sagging and ugly. There is nothing pretty about the way this disrobed body looks. I told my daughter had I realised I would look like this I probably wouldn't have had the surgery. Well, she went ballistic, she said you look so much better and what about your health? Yes, I know, health wise I am 200% better, dressed I don't look too bad as long as I don't look down at my tripey breasts. But, I am sad. I feel old, dejected, rejected, not at all loveable, not at all sexy, not at all desirable. I feel my age (never have before) and currently feeling obsolete. I keep putting off these men I contact via internet dating, I feel they would be disgusted by this stringy flabby sagging bod. Had I lost some more weight I could consider reconstruction surgery, but this is my whole body I am talking about. Where would they start and finish? How would I ever pay for it all let alone endure the pain. My face is gone, my neck, boobs, arms, tummy and now the tops of my legs. I am really, honestly, saddened by it all. Not joking or looking for compliments, just truly sad. Maree

[Guest guest]

Hear! Hear! Well said.

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> Hi Maree,

> This is Mel from Bathurst and I know I don't post much (too shy!)

but when I read you message I was so saddened to hear how you feel

about yourself. I checked out the pikkies from Bulli and I thought

you looked great but more importantly even I know just how great you

are just from your posts. You genuinely care about everyone and give

the most wonderful advice and I cannot imagine anyone being put off by

your body because it is attached to such a wonderful mind and spirit.

You clearly do not see the fabulous person that you show to everyone

else and I hope that as time goes on you start to see a clearer

picture of yourself.

>

> I am not looking to give you idle compliments and I never post much

(although I read every post) so you can imagine how passionate about

this I feel to be brave enough to respond. For all your lousy

feelings about yourself, you are seriously inspirational to so many

people you cannot imagine the impact you have made on other's lives.

I truly hope that one day you learn to love yourself (saggy bits and

all) as much as others do - if anyone deserves it , it is you!

> Mel.

> Sharing/sharing... status quo

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> Hi everyone,

> just writing my thoughts and will be interested in feed back.

> I haven't lost anything since I returned from my Christmas

holidays. I

> still have a 55 kilo loss which is great but to be honest, since my

> Darwin trip in August I have only dropped 2 stone (about 12 kilos),

> the bulk was lost in the 9 months prior. I seem to have maxed out

> somehow, even though I am still really big (see Bulli photos-NO

don't).

> I have been having more chocolate, ice cream etc, but even so, I eat

> very little, still only 2 meals per day but the weight loss has

> stagnated. I want to share here how I am feeling, I have told my

> daughter but otherwise this is a first. I don't know that I want to

> loose any more. I am soooooo unhappy with my body. Now, pre band I

was

> never worried about such things, I was big, firm, smooth skinned and

> tooooooo fat but my body was smooth and quite youthful looking as far

> as skin quality. Since my weight loss I find my body absolutely

> disgusting. I look like a deflated balloon. Everything from my face

> down to my legs, especially my boobs, are all wrinkly, sagging and

> ugly. There is nothing pretty about the way this disrobed body

looks.

> I told my daughter had I realised I would look like this I probably

> wouldn't have had the surgery. Well, she went ballistic, she said you

> look so much better and what about your health? Yes, I know, health

> wise I am 200% better, dressed I don't look too bad as long as I

don't

> look down at my tripey breasts. But, I am sad. I feel old, dejected,

> rejected, not at all loveable, not at all sexy, not at all

desirable.

> I feel my age (never have before) and currently feeling obsolete. I

> keep putting off these men I contact via internet dating, I feel they

> would be disgusted by this stringy flabby sagging bod. Had I lost

some

> more weight I could consider reconstruction surgery, but this is my

> whole body I am talking about. Where would they start and finish?

> How would I ever pay for it all let alone endure the pain. My

face is

> gone, my neck, boobs, arms, tummy and now the tops of my legs. I am

> really, honestly, saddened by it all. Not joking or looking for

> compliments, just truly sad. Maree

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