Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch 4G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch 4G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant their child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but wouldn't want to hurt their son. hope this helps ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch 4G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant their child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but wouldn't want to hurt their son. hope this helps ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch 4G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 tell them your son was not aware their child was unable to swim. make sure this is true. ask the other kid if they told your son they couldn't swim.could be just the other parents being paranoid.does your son have a pattern of similar behaviour? ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch 4G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you can then try and speak with the other parents. If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and willing to listen. > > Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant > their child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > wouldn't want to hurt their son. hope this helps > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you can then try and speak with the other parents. If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and willing to listen. > > Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant > their child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > wouldn't want to hurt their son. hope this helps > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 the little boy was six and no one had said that he couldn't swim .my son never threatened any thing like that before. They are aware he has aspergers. Once told that the little boy cannot swim equip playing with him like that Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers >Subject: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:38 pmtell them your son was not aware their child was unable to swim. make sure this is true. ask the other kid if they told your son they couldn't swim.could be just the other parents being paranoid.does your son have a pattern of similar behaviour?ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch 4G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 the little boy was six and no one had said that he couldn't swim .my son never threatened any thing like that before. They are aware he has aspergers. Once told that the little boy cannot swim equip playing with him like that Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers >Subject: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:38 pmtell them your son was not aware their child was unable to swim. make sure this is true. ask the other kid if they told your son they couldn't swim.could be just the other parents being paranoid.does your son have a pattern of similar behaviour?ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch 4G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 yes my sons on the spectrum and yes my neighbors also know that they just don't care they keep referring to their one of their dead sons and that doesn't make sense Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----From: jcoopalla@...To: <autism-aspergers >Subject: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:44 pmIs your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant their child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but wouldn't want to hurt their son. hope this helps ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch 4G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I don't think we're going to go camping or swimming with them anymore . It's not fair for my son to be accused like that . And my son doesn't feel comfortable anymore because he doesn't understand what he did wrong Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers >Subject: Re: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:51 pmI agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you can then try and speak with the other parents.If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and willing to listen. >> Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant > their child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > wouldn't want to hurt their son. hope this helps> > > ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I don't think we're going to go camping or swimming with them anymore . It's not fair for my son to be accused like that . And my son doesn't feel comfortable anymore because he doesn't understand what he did wrong Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers >Subject: Re: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:51 pmI agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you can then try and speak with the other parents.If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and willing to listen. >> Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant > their child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > wouldn't want to hurt their son. hope this helps> > > ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I'm sorry that happened to your family! It's hard when people don't understand, or take things the wrong way, and won't listen when u try to explain things to them.  Jenn  I don't think we're going to go camping or swimming with them anymore . It's not fair for my son to be accused like that .  And my son doesn't feel comfortable anymore because he doesn't understand what he did wrong Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers > Subject: Re: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:51 pmI agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you can then try and speak with the other parents. If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and willing to listen. >> Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your  > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant > their  child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > wouldn't want  to hurt their son. hope this helps >  >  > ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I'm sorry that happened to your family! It's hard when people don't understand, or take things the wrong way, and won't listen when u try to explain things to them.  Jenn  I don't think we're going to go camping or swimming with them anymore . It's not fair for my son to be accused like that .  And my son doesn't feel comfortable anymore because he doesn't understand what he did wrong Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers > Subject: Re: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:51 pmI agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you can then try and speak with the other parents. If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and willing to listen. >> Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your  > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant > their  child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > wouldn't want  to hurt their son. hope this helps >  >  > ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 Ty. It's just frustrating when people do that.Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers >Subject: Re: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 11:09 pm I'm sorry that happened to your family! It's hard when people don't understand, or take things the wrong way, and won't listen when u try to explain things to them.  Jenn  I don't think we're going to go camping or swimming with them anymore . It's not fair for my son to be accused like that .  And my son doesn't feel comfortable anymore because he doesn't understand what he did wrong Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers > Subject: Re: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:51 pmI agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you can then try and speak with the other parents. If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and willing to listen. >> Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your  > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant > their  child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > wouldn't want  to hurt their son. hope this helps >  >  > ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 Ty. It's just frustrating when people do that.Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers >Subject: Re: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 11:09 pm I'm sorry that happened to your family! It's hard when people don't understand, or take things the wrong way, and won't listen when u try to explain things to them.  Jenn  I don't think we're going to go camping or swimming with them anymore . It's not fair for my son to be accused like that .  And my son doesn't feel comfortable anymore because he doesn't understand what he did wrong Sent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----To: <autism-aspergers > Subject: Re: Should I be offended?Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:51 pmI agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you can then try and speak with the other parents. If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and willing to listen. >> Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your  > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant > their  child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > wouldn't want  to hurt their son. hope this helps >  >  > ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I recently had trouble with my neighbors because their kids were taunting my child and he became fearful to go outside. I went over and confronted her.She will never understand why I became enraged over this or what has caused me to feel the need to over protect my child. I tell myself " Oh get over it " but I'm raw, it isn't just from one experience it is from years of bad experiences. It's sad, but my one hope for my son is that he makes a friend. Just one. I think that a majority of people are unaware and even if you explain to them what the child's issue is they wouldn't care. As parents we do the best we can, our past plays a role in our parenting. Unless someone has walked in my shoes then they have no right to judge me as I have no right to judge anyone else. With my son i pick my battles,then there are other things (he won't sit all the way back on the toliet to have a bowel movement) that I tried with all my might to change and I just cant get him to stop them. Thanks to those that reached out to my last post, I was deeply touched. Kathy > > yes my sons on the spectrum and yes my neighbors also know that they just don't care they keep referring to their one of their dead sons and that doesn't make sense > > Sent from myTouch 4G > > ----- Reply message ----- > From: jcoopalla@... > To: <autism-aspergers > > Subject: Should I be offended? > Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:44 pm > Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant their > child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but wouldn't want > to hurt their son. hope this helps > > > In a message dated 6/14/2011 8:36:54 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, > crazymisskitty@... writes: > > > ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in > were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now > the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child > didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot > swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him > threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be > offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. > Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch > 4G > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I recently had trouble with my neighbors because their kids were taunting my child and he became fearful to go outside. I went over and confronted her.She will never understand why I became enraged over this or what has caused me to feel the need to over protect my child. I tell myself " Oh get over it " but I'm raw, it isn't just from one experience it is from years of bad experiences. It's sad, but my one hope for my son is that he makes a friend. Just one. I think that a majority of people are unaware and even if you explain to them what the child's issue is they wouldn't care. As parents we do the best we can, our past plays a role in our parenting. Unless someone has walked in my shoes then they have no right to judge me as I have no right to judge anyone else. With my son i pick my battles,then there are other things (he won't sit all the way back on the toliet to have a bowel movement) that I tried with all my might to change and I just cant get him to stop them. Thanks to those that reached out to my last post, I was deeply touched. Kathy > > yes my sons on the spectrum and yes my neighbors also know that they just don't care they keep referring to their one of their dead sons and that doesn't make sense > > Sent from myTouch 4G > > ----- Reply message ----- > From: jcoopalla@... > To: <autism-aspergers > > Subject: Should I be offended? > Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:44 pm > Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about your > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he meant their > child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but wouldn't want > to hurt their son. hope this helps > > > In a message dated 6/14/2011 8:36:54 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, > crazymisskitty@... writes: > > > ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in > were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now > the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child > didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot > swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him > threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be > offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. > Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome TiaSent from myTouch > 4G > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2011 Report Share Posted June 15, 2011 I am sorry to hear about this but you need to look at the other parent's point of view also. I always believed my son could never hurt anybody else also but then I put myself in the other parent's shoes and realized I would be very protective of my own children and would be a bit harsh with the offending child. If you put yourself in their shoes you would no doubt feel the same way. Also your child needs to understand what he did wrong if he can. Were you there and did you see what happened? Carolyn crazymisskitty@... wrote: > > > I don't think we're going to go camping or swimming with them anymore > . It's not fair for my son to be accused like that . And my son > doesn't feel comfortable anymore because he doesn't understand what he > did wrong > > Sent from myTouch 4G > > ----- Reply message ----- > > To: <autism-aspergers > > Subject: Re: Should I be offended? > Date: Tue, Jun 14, 2011 10:51 pm > > > I agree. I would speak to your son and get as good a picture as you > can then try and speak with the other parents. > > If they are still hard core about being angry...well...There isn't > much that you can do. I really hope that given a couple days to calm > down that the other parents will be receptive to speaking with you and > willing to listen. > > > > > > > > Is your son on the spectrum? also, does the other family know about > your > > son (if he is on the spectrum)? if so, just explain to them that he > meant > > their child no harm. that sometimes he will say things impulsively but > > wouldn't want to hurt their son. hope this helps > > > > > > > > > > ------------------------------------ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2011 Report Share Posted June 16, 2011 Okay I am sorry but this is just silly. It sound's like they are way over sensitive and not thinking this through at all. I mean how old is your son? Even if your son did know the other boy didn't know how to swim, he may not have put two and two together and realized that it would then be not nice to dunk the kid. And even if he did dunk the kid, he wouldn't be " trying to kill him " . It would just be a child's poor judgement. That's why parents and lifeguards are necessary when kids are swimming. I wouldn't necessarily be offended, but I would definitely be annoyed. > > ok we went camping this weekend with another family . We went swimming in were all dunking each other so my son threatens to dunk another child and now the family says that he was threatening to kill the child since the child didn't know how to swim. We tried explaining that he didn't know he cannot swim but that doesn't matter now the families mad at for him threatening to kill him when all he did was threaten to dunk him.should I be offended? the other family was our neighbors so now I don't know what to feel. Any ideas or thoughts any would be welcome > Tia > > Sent from myTouch 4G > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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