Re: need some advice badly

[Guest guest]

Hi e,

Well, he sounds like a smart kid! Though I know all that obsessing

does make you feel like you're going crazy!

My own son's OCD has " changed faces " over the years. At first it was

more physical type rituals, compulsions; now it's mainly bad

thoughts. (Luckily a bit of calm times too; his OCD began in 6th

grade, he's now 19)

That's so terrible about what's happened at school! Don't blame you

for wanting to find another placement. I do hope the school

suspended that boy!

I know we have had some parents here with kids in private schools,

and some in Catholic, hope they see your post.

Could you possibly go ahead and visit the Catholic school, set up an

appointment maybe, and talk with them about your son's situation?

See what they have to say.

As to whether a Catholic school is a bad idea due to OCD - well, my

son suffers from the scrupulosity type OCD (relating to God/religion

and having bad thoughts). So...for him maybe not a good idea.

Though he does attend church and still enjoys it. But in general,

unless you have noted that someone talking about a topic seems to

trigger a new obsession in your son, new OCD behaviors aren't caused

by hearing about other behaviors; I mean, for instance, if your son

has never done the " repeated checking " type of OC behavior but he

reads/hears about it, it's not likely to cause him to begin

checking. So I don't think a Catholic school will necessarily

trigger a new OC problem. (assuming that is one of your concerns)

Also I think other parents have been able to get supports for OCD at

private schools, types of accommodations and/or modifications. One

of the things you can ask about if you go ahead and talk to the

school.

Does your son talk ALOT about all his obsessions? Any other type

behaviors right now or just the constant research on all

his " interests " ?

Besides the bullying (oh I hate that!!), does he have any friends?

single mom, 3 sons

, 19, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers/mild

>

> Hi all my 10 year old son was diagnosed with ocd 4 years ago.Since

> then its changed faces and gotten worse. Right now he is obsessing

> about nuclear war, tsunamis, nostradamus, is constanly watching the

> hjistory channel discovery cahnnel and on the internet about

weather,

> global warming and ufos area 51 ect. I am going slowly crazy. I had

> my son do exposure therapy cbt therapy at the childrens center for

> ocd and anxiety he did well but it was very expensive so once he

[Guest guest]

Hi e,

Well, he sounds like a smart kid! Though I know all that obsessing

does make you feel like you're going crazy!

My own son's OCD has " changed faces " over the years. At first it was

more physical type rituals, compulsions; now it's mainly bad

thoughts. (Luckily a bit of calm times too; his OCD began in 6th

grade, he's now 19)

That's so terrible about what's happened at school! Don't blame you

for wanting to find another placement. I do hope the school

suspended that boy!

I know we have had some parents here with kids in private schools,

and some in Catholic, hope they see your post.

Could you possibly go ahead and visit the Catholic school, set up an

appointment maybe, and talk with them about your son's situation?

See what they have to say.

As to whether a Catholic school is a bad idea due to OCD - well, my

son suffers from the scrupulosity type OCD (relating to God/religion

and having bad thoughts). So...for him maybe not a good idea.

Though he does attend church and still enjoys it. But in general,

unless you have noted that someone talking about a topic seems to

trigger a new obsession in your son, new OCD behaviors aren't caused

by hearing about other behaviors; I mean, for instance, if your son

has never done the " repeated checking " type of OC behavior but he

reads/hears about it, it's not likely to cause him to begin

checking. So I don't think a Catholic school will necessarily

trigger a new OC problem. (assuming that is one of your concerns)

Also I think other parents have been able to get supports for OCD at

private schools, types of accommodations and/or modifications. One

of the things you can ask about if you go ahead and talk to the

school.

Does your son talk ALOT about all his obsessions? Any other type

behaviors right now or just the constant research on all

his " interests " ?

Besides the bullying (oh I hate that!!), does he have any friends?

single mom, 3 sons

, 19, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers/mild

>

> Hi all my 10 year old son was diagnosed with ocd 4 years ago.Since

> then its changed faces and gotten worse. Right now he is obsessing

> about nuclear war, tsunamis, nostradamus, is constanly watching the

> hjistory channel discovery cahnnel and on the internet about

weather,

> global warming and ufos area 51 ect. I am going slowly crazy. I had

> my son do exposure therapy cbt therapy at the childrens center for

> ocd and anxiety he did well but it was very expensive so once he

[Guest guest]

My son is in 5th grade at a catholic school. The teachers are aware of his

OCD and have been wonderful in dealing with him. They have been very patient

and most recently have taken care of some kids who were bullying my son.

So, I think that it would depend on the school. I would go to the school and

interview the teachers. I know our catholic school will even let a new child

sit in the class for a day to see what the school is like before he will

start the next year. Ask them straight out how they will be able to handle

your

child. It is there job to teach your son. I find if you are honest with

them and keep good comunication with the teachers they like that. So, that

together you can form a team. I do know I am blessed with the school my child

attends. I wish you all the luck. It is hard to see them struggling at

school.

Also, your son struggles with the same obsessions I had as a preteen. I

have found the best thing that helps me is to not allow myself to watch those

types of shows. I know it will be a hard thing to control with your son but I

know for my own OCD that these types of shows or just the news will set off

my crazy thoughts. So much I cannot even function. Your son is in my

prayers. Your email brought me back to my own childhood. I am now a full

functioning adult. I have my bad days but 95% of them are great days!

Lynn

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[Guest guest]

Thank you BJ. I think there is hope. The difference between my OCD in my

adult life and childhood is that I have come to know what triggers those bad

thoughts. When I was a child I did not even know that they were bad thoughts.

I just thought they were my thoughts. I think as adults we are mature

enough to tell the difference. I choose to not listen to certain thoughts. It

is very hard work. There is nothing worse in this world than the feeling of

pure terror and fear. I try to explain the difference between those bad

thoughts and regular thoughts to my 11 y/o son and he cannot quite grasp it.

He

will understand the thoughts about contamination is ocd but then he will move

on to something else and does not understand that it is ocd. As I matured I

understood what was ocd and what was'nt. I know when I am having a bad day

and I will be okay with that and go easy on my self. When I do that I don't

go into the complusions because I understand it. I know that it seems along

time but I have been living with OCD for many, many, many years ( I will spare

you of the details of how many years). It took time and patience with my

self. Our children will do it. It is just a matter of time.

Lynn

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[Guest guest]

Thank you BJ. I think there is hope. The difference between my OCD in my

adult life and childhood is that I have come to know what triggers those bad

thoughts. When I was a child I did not even know that they were bad thoughts.

I just thought they were my thoughts. I think as adults we are mature

enough to tell the difference. I choose to not listen to certain thoughts. It

is very hard work. There is nothing worse in this world than the feeling of

pure terror and fear. I try to explain the difference between those bad

thoughts and regular thoughts to my 11 y/o son and he cannot quite grasp it.

He

will understand the thoughts about contamination is ocd but then he will move

on to something else and does not understand that it is ocd. As I matured I

understood what was ocd and what was'nt. I know when I am having a bad day

and I will be okay with that and go easy on my self. When I do that I don't

go into the complusions because I understand it. I know that it seems along

time but I have been living with OCD for many, many, many years ( I will spare

you of the details of how many years). It took time and patience with my

self. Our children will do it. It is just a matter of time.

Lynn

**************Ideas to please picky eaters. Watch video on AOL Living.

(http://living.aol.com/video/how-to-please-your-picky-eater/rachel-campos-duffy/

2050827?NCID=aolcmp00300000002598)

[Guest guest]

Lynn, you are yet another adult in here that says they are much better

now, than when they were a child.

That gives me such hope for our son. )

Thanks for sharing.

BJ

>

> My son is in 5th grade at a catholic school. The teachers are aware

of his

> OCD and have been wonderful in dealing with him. They have been

very patient

> and most recently have taken care of some kids who were bullying my

son.

> So, I think that it would depend on the school. I would go to the

school and

> interview the teachers. I know our catholic school will even let a

new child

> sit in the class for a day to see what the school is like before he

will

> start the next year. Ask them straight out how they will be able

to handle your

> child. It is there job to teach your son. I find if you are

honest with

> them and keep good comunication with the teachers they like that.

So, that

> together you can form a team. I do know I am blessed with the

school my child

> attends. I wish you all the luck. It is hard to see them

struggling at

> school.

>

> Also, your son struggles with the same obsessions I had as a

preteen. I

> have found the best thing that helps me is to not allow myself to

watch those

> types of shows. I know it will be a hard thing to control with

your son but I

> know for my own OCD that these types of shows or just the news will

set off

> my crazy thoughts. So much I cannot even function. Your son is in my

> prayers. Your email brought me back to my own childhood. I am now

a full

> functioning adult. I have my bad days but 95% of them are great days!

>

> Lynn

>

>

>

> **************Ideas to please picky eaters. Watch video on AOL

Living.

>

(http://living.aol.com/video/how-to-please-your-picky-eater/rachel-campos-duffy/

> 2050827?NCID=aolcmp00300000002598)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Lynn, you are yet another adult in here that says they are much better

now, than when they were a child.

That gives me such hope for our son. )

Thanks for sharing.

BJ

>

> My son is in 5th grade at a catholic school. The teachers are aware

of his

> OCD and have been wonderful in dealing with him. They have been

very patient

> and most recently have taken care of some kids who were bullying my

son.

> So, I think that it would depend on the school. I would go to the

school and

> interview the teachers. I know our catholic school will even let a

new child

> sit in the class for a day to see what the school is like before he

will

> start the next year. Ask them straight out how they will be able

to handle your

> child. It is there job to teach your son. I find if you are

honest with

> them and keep good comunication with the teachers they like that.

So, that

> together you can form a team. I do know I am blessed with the

school my child

> attends. I wish you all the luck. It is hard to see them

struggling at

> school.

>

> Also, your son struggles with the same obsessions I had as a

preteen. I

> have found the best thing that helps me is to not allow myself to

watch those

> types of shows. I know it will be a hard thing to control with

your son but I

> know for my own OCD that these types of shows or just the news will

set off

> my crazy thoughts. So much I cannot even function. Your son is in my

> prayers. Your email brought me back to my own childhood. I am now

a full

> functioning adult. I have my bad days but 95% of them are great days!

>

> Lynn

>

>

>

> **************Ideas to please picky eaters. Watch video on AOL

Living.

>

(http://living.aol.com/video/how-to-please-your-picky-eater/rachel-campos-duffy/

> 2050827?NCID=aolcmp00300000002598)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Lynn,

Thank you so much for this. I have really been worried lately about

my sons future. He's a senior in high school and right now he should

be making plans for college. Because of his severe anxiety and

contamination issues, we had to take him out of school and put him into

a homebound program with the school district. He's missing out on his

senior year of high school, but in the whole scheme of things, that is

minor. However, I am pretty sure college will have to be put on hold

for now. Hearing your story gives me hope that he will be able to

fight this and lead a " normal " life.

Connie

[Guest guest]

Lynn,

Thank you so much for this. I have really been worried lately about

my sons future. He's a senior in high school and right now he should

be making plans for college. Because of his severe anxiety and

contamination issues, we had to take him out of school and put him into

a homebound program with the school district. He's missing out on his

senior year of high school, but in the whole scheme of things, that is

minor. However, I am pretty sure college will have to be put on hold

for now. Hearing your story gives me hope that he will be able to

fight this and lead a " normal " life.

Connie