Son Runs off

[Guest guest]

i don't have advice, i'm looking for advice for this too.  my son who is almost 10 has done this as recently as this past year.  it has lessened as he's gotten older, but he still does it if he gets too frustrated. 

any tips on getting them to come back?  i'll be watching this thread.  thanks for asking the question! heather

 

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

i don't have advice, i'm looking for advice for this too.  my son who is almost 10 has done this as recently as this past year.  it has lessened as he's gotten older, but he still does it if he gets too frustrated. 

any tips on getting them to come back?  i'll be watching this thread.  thanks for asking the question! heather

 

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

Hi Karjina,

My son does the same exact thing, he is 3.5 diagnosed last June. He thinks its a game of cat and mouse, he loves to be chased. We actually play with him like that in the house, I am wondering if we are making it worse! He smiles and laughs when he does it, not knowing how terrified we are, especially in a crowded area or in a parking lot. I am so scared that he will be hit by a car......I now just hold his hand when we are out without my husband. When my husband is with us, he will let him go but he is more stern with him and my son will normally come back when called by husband......

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of karjinaSent: Tuesday, June 14, 2011 8:04 AMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Son runs off

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?Thanks!

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I used a harness on my son when he was small.  There was some talk

of banning them because it was seen as treating kids like animals,

but it did work.  I still see parents using them around here.  Of

course, it wouldn't look so good with a 10 yo.  Otherwise, I just

insisted he held my hand.  He stopped running off by about 2

yo,which made life a lot easier.  If you chase a kid, they always

run because they like playing games, which is what it seem slike to

them.

 

i don't have advice, i'm looking for advice for this

too.� my son who is almost 10 has done this as recently as

this past year.� it has lessened as he's gotten older, but

he still does it if he gets too frustrated.�

any tips on getting them to come back?� i'll be watching

this thread.�

thanks for asking the question!

heather

On Tue, Jun 14, 2011 at 8:03 AM,

karjina

wrote:

�

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs

off when we go places. I ask him to come back,

he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing

this?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

I used a harness on my son when he was small.  There was some talk

of banning them because it was seen as treating kids like animals,

but it did work.  I still see parents using them around here.  Of

course, it wouldn't look so good with a 10 yo.  Otherwise, I just

insisted he held my hand.  He stopped running off by about 2

yo,which made life a lot easier.  If you chase a kid, they always

run because they like playing games, which is what it seem slike to

them.

 

i don't have advice, i'm looking for advice for this

too.� my son who is almost 10 has done this as recently as

this past year.� it has lessened as he's gotten older, but

he still does it if he gets too frustrated.�

any tips on getting them to come back?� i'll be watching

this thread.�

thanks for asking the question!

heather

On Tue, Jun 14, 2011 at 8:03 AM,

karjina

wrote:

�

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs

off when we go places. I ask him to come back,

he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing

this?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

if they are small, our mall has a bunch of "kiddie carts" which are like grocery carts but in the shapes of cars and the like. kids are strapped in them and yhou push them around while you shop. it does help. the older kids i used to go back to the behavior chart and if he bahaved 2 days in a row (including the mall) he could get his choice of reward. susanSubject: RE: Son runs offTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, June 14, 2011, 8:19 AM

Hi Karjina,

My son does the same exact thing, he is 3.5 diagnosed last June. He thinks its a game of cat and mouse, he loves to be chased. We actually play with him like that in the house, I am wondering if we are making it worse! He smiles and laughs when he does it, not knowing how terrified we are, especially in a crowded area or in a parking lot. I am so scared that he will be hit by a car......I now just hold his hand when we are out without my husband. When my husband is with us, he will let him go but he is more stern with him and my son will normally come back when called by husband......

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of karjinaSent: Tuesday, June 14, 2011 8:04 AMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Son runs off

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?Thanks!

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if they are small, our mall has a bunch of "kiddie carts" which are like grocery carts but in the shapes of cars and the like. kids are strapped in them and yhou push them around while you shop. it does help. the older kids i used to go back to the behavior chart and if he bahaved 2 days in a row (including the mall) he could get his choice of reward. susanSubject: RE: Son runs offTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, June 14, 2011, 8:19 AM

Hi Karjina,

My son does the same exact thing, he is 3.5 diagnosed last June. He thinks its a game of cat and mouse, he loves to be chased. We actually play with him like that in the house, I am wondering if we are making it worse! He smiles and laughs when he does it, not knowing how terrified we are, especially in a crowded area or in a parking lot. I am so scared that he will be hit by a car......I now just hold his hand when we are out without my husband. When my husband is with us, he will let him go but he is more stern with him and my son will normally come back when called by husband......

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of karjinaSent: Tuesday, June 14, 2011 8:04 AMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Son runs off

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?Thanks!

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[Guest guest]

A harness is a good idea. I used a modified harness a few times in the airport and other busy locations--I used my Maya wrap sling cinched around his waist. But on the daily occasion, I just held his hand. If he asked to be free, I would tell him no, because I couldn't trust him not to run away. We also practiced by playing Red Light, Green Light. In a time when we were in a safe place, we would practice letting him run ahead while i was the caller. The rule was he listened right away, or I held his hand again. (we dont use strollers, generally, but putting into a stroller is the same concept). Making it a game was fun, and then it seemed to lessen the need to run away when I needed him close, and if he did get away, I could call out "red light, Stop!" and he normally would.Before we went out to a place where I needed him to stay close, I explained the rules and what would happen. Like, "we will be on a busy sidewalk. You can't run today, it isn't safe. Stay right next to me. If you run, you need to hold my hand. Remember, stay next to me. Where will you stay?" then, if he started getting too far ahead, I could just repeat--remember, stay next to me. Do you need to hold my hand?My son has Asperger syndrome, and the years from 2 1/2 to 4 were really tiring and hands on. But it worked, and he is a breeze now.Sent from my iPad

I used a harness on my son when he was small. There was some talk

of banning them because it was seen as treating kids like animals,

but it did work. I still see parents using them around here. Of

course, it wouldn't look so good with a 10 yo. Otherwise, I just

insisted he held my hand. He stopped running off by about 2

yo,which made life a lot easier. If you chase a kid, they always

run because they like playing games, which is what it seem slike to

them.

i don't have advice, i'm looking for advice for this

too.� my son who is almost 10 has done this as recently as

this past year.� it has lessened as he's gotten older, but

he still does it if he gets too frustrated.�

any tips on getting them to come back?� i'll be watching

this thread.�

thanks for asking the question!

heather

On Tue, Jun 14, 2011 at 8:03 AM,

karjina

wrote:

�

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs

off when we go places. I ask him to come back,

he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing

this?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

A harness is a good idea. I used a modified harness a few times in the airport and other busy locations--I used my Maya wrap sling cinched around his waist. But on the daily occasion, I just held his hand. If he asked to be free, I would tell him no, because I couldn't trust him not to run away. We also practiced by playing Red Light, Green Light. In a time when we were in a safe place, we would practice letting him run ahead while i was the caller. The rule was he listened right away, or I held his hand again. (we dont use strollers, generally, but putting into a stroller is the same concept). Making it a game was fun, and then it seemed to lessen the need to run away when I needed him close, and if he did get away, I could call out "red light, Stop!" and he normally would.Before we went out to a place where I needed him to stay close, I explained the rules and what would happen. Like, "we will be on a busy sidewalk. You can't run today, it isn't safe. Stay right next to me. If you run, you need to hold my hand. Remember, stay next to me. Where will you stay?" then, if he started getting too far ahead, I could just repeat--remember, stay next to me. Do you need to hold my hand?My son has Asperger syndrome, and the years from 2 1/2 to 4 were really tiring and hands on. But it worked, and he is a breeze now.Sent from my iPad

I used a harness on my son when he was small. There was some talk

of banning them because it was seen as treating kids like animals,

but it did work. I still see parents using them around here. Of

course, it wouldn't look so good with a 10 yo. Otherwise, I just

insisted he held my hand. He stopped running off by about 2

yo,which made life a lot easier. If you chase a kid, they always

run because they like playing games, which is what it seem slike to

them.

i don't have advice, i'm looking for advice for this

too.� my son who is almost 10 has done this as recently as

this past year.� it has lessened as he's gotten older, but

he still does it if he gets too frustrated.�

any tips on getting them to come back?� i'll be watching

this thread.�

thanks for asking the question!

heather

On Tue, Jun 14, 2011 at 8:03 AM,

karjina

wrote:

�

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs

off when we go places. I ask him to come back,

he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing

this?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

Oh, that reminds me-- the only time I used a stroller was at the library. It is hard to hold someone's hand while distracted by books, so if he couldn't follow the rules, he just got put in the double stroller (younger brother is 28 months younger).Sent from my iPad

if they are small, our mall has a bunch of "kiddie carts" which are like grocery carts but in the shapes of cars and the like. kids are strapped in them and yhou push them around while you shop. it does help. the older kids i used to go back to the behavior chart and if he bahaved 2 days in a row (including the mall) he could get his choice of reward. susanSubject: RE: Son runs offTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, June 14, 2011, 8:19 AM

Hi Karjina,

My son does the same exact thing, he is 3.5 diagnosed last June. He thinks its a game of cat and mouse, he loves to be chased. We actually play with him like that in the house, I am wondering if we are making it worse! He smiles and laughs when he does it, not knowing how terrified we are, especially in a crowded area or in a parking lot. I am so scared that he will be hit by a car......I now just hold his hand when we are out without my husband. When my husband is with us, he will let him go but he is more stern with him and my son will normally come back when called by husband......

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of karjinaSent: Tuesday, June 14, 2011 8:04 AMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Son runs off

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?Thanks!

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Oh, that reminds me-- the only time I used a stroller was at the library. It is hard to hold someone's hand while distracted by books, so if he couldn't follow the rules, he just got put in the double stroller (younger brother is 28 months younger).Sent from my iPad

if they are small, our mall has a bunch of "kiddie carts" which are like grocery carts but in the shapes of cars and the like. kids are strapped in them and yhou push them around while you shop. it does help. the older kids i used to go back to the behavior chart and if he bahaved 2 days in a row (including the mall) he could get his choice of reward. susanSubject: RE: Son runs offTo: autism-aspergers Date: Tuesday, June 14, 2011, 8:19 AM

Hi Karjina,

My son does the same exact thing, he is 3.5 diagnosed last June. He thinks its a game of cat and mouse, he loves to be chased. We actually play with him like that in the house, I am wondering if we are making it worse! He smiles and laughs when he does it, not knowing how terrified we are, especially in a crowded area or in a parking lot. I am so scared that he will be hit by a car......I now just hold his hand when we are out without my husband. When my husband is with us, he will let him go but he is more stern with him and my son will normally come back when called by husband......

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of karjinaSent: Tuesday, June 14, 2011 8:04 AMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Son runs off

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?Thanks!

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[Guest guest]

my son did the same thing. It was so hard for me to go anywhere. My solution to use the stroller as much as possible. My son loved spinning toys with lights and he listened to my nano. It kept him distracted for a while. Also I tried to have someone watch him while I went out because I knew it was going to be a struggle to go anywhere. My son who has aspergers and adhd was so hyper at that age but now his 13 and still hyper but able to control it in public. good luck

Ally

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?Thanks!

[Guest guest]

This is one of the few times where I would spank mine. Running off is a

deadly habit that I needed to stop immediately. I taught her that if

she ran off, or EVER ran away from me, she would get spanked on the spot.

I was like most of you at first, until one afternoon she ran from me and

nearly got run down by a car. I needed to gain control, and needed to

do it fast.

I quickly established that when I say STOP, she was to stop on the spot

and wait for me.

She didn't like it, but after a short while, she would do things to make

me say stop and That would be the new game - one that we both enjoyed.

> My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him

to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think

he thinks it's a game).

>

> Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

>

> Thanks!

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

This is one of the few times where I would spank mine. Running off is a

deadly habit that I needed to stop immediately. I taught her that if

she ran off, or EVER ran away from me, she would get spanked on the spot.

I was like most of you at first, until one afternoon she ran from me and

nearly got run down by a car. I needed to gain control, and needed to

do it fast.

I quickly established that when I say STOP, she was to stop on the spot

and wait for me.

She didn't like it, but after a short while, she would do things to make

me say stop and That would be the new game - one that we both enjoyed.

> My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him

to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think

he thinks it's a game).

>

> Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

>

> Thanks!

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

Just know, it does get better, because my 16 year old used to do the same thing, and now he gets mad at me if I jaywalk!

When he was very young, like yours, I used a modified harness. It was a "fanny pack" where he kept some kind of toy, and on the back was a ring which was attached to a bungee type cord. I started using this when he ran into a parking lot and almost got hit by a car. Yes, I got several nasty looks from people, but I basically said to them...would you prefer he run off and get lost or perhaps kidnapped when he runs off?? People turn quickly away and mind their own business.

As for what worked for me when he was older and would stray away, I would tell him (I'm sure he knew I would never follow through) that I am now leaving, so he needed to come with me and stay with me. I would then turn and walk toward the door or my car. I think down deep he knew that I would never leave him, but just the idea of it was enough for him to never stray very far. Now, that he is older I have complete trust in him that he will be where he is supposed to be!

Son runs off

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

Just know, it does get better, because my 16 year old used to do the same thing, and now he gets mad at me if I jaywalk!

When he was very young, like yours, I used a modified harness. It was a "fanny pack" where he kept some kind of toy, and on the back was a ring which was attached to a bungee type cord. I started using this when he ran into a parking lot and almost got hit by a car. Yes, I got several nasty looks from people, but I basically said to them...would you prefer he run off and get lost or perhaps kidnapped when he runs off?? People turn quickly away and mind their own business.

As for what worked for me when he was older and would stray away, I would tell him (I'm sure he knew I would never follow through) that I am now leaving, so he needed to come with me and stay with me. I would then turn and walk toward the door or my car. I think down deep he knew that I would never leave him, but just the idea of it was enough for him to never stray very far. Now, that he is older I have complete trust in him that he will be where he is supposed to be!

Son runs off

My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

I don't believe it! are you talking about spanking again!

Just sat down to read my e-mails and yours was first. Made me laugh.

Anyway I agree with you and your need to gain control in an instant.

That is about all I ever had to use for was to gain control. Like

yesterday my two grandsons were scuffing under a table where I had just

dumped out a 1,000 piece puzzle and they were squirming and laughing and

bumping the table legs and threw a pillow and spilled a bunch of my

pieces. So I told them to " Go in the other room to scuffle, " but they

ignored me and kept on under my table, so I said it again " Go in the

other room, or better yet go outside. " No response, more scuffling.

Then I said, " Do you want me to get my STICK! " and like magic they

headed to the dining room. Don't even have to get it out anymore, just

have to mention it's name. And that is the whole point people are

missing, most kids it only take about one or two whacks at strategic

times when you are working to teach them who their boss is, and then

they " get it " forevermore, or at least that has been my experience in

raising the four kids I have raised, and now these three of seven

grandkids I am working on.

Don't have to scream, don't have to yell, don't have to threaten, just

mention its name.

Perfect.

Carolyn ;o)

H wrote:

>

> This is one of the few times where I would spank mine. Running off is a

> deadly habit that I needed to stop immediately. I taught her that if

> she ran off, or EVER ran away from me, she would get spanked on the spot.

>

> I was like most of you at first, until one afternoon she ran from me and

> nearly got run down by a car. I needed to gain control, and needed to

> do it fast.

>

> I quickly established that when I say STOP, she was to stop on the spot

> and wait for me.

>

> She didn't like it, but after a short while, she would do things to make

> me say stop and That would be the new game - one that we both enjoyed.

>

> > My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places.

> I ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

> goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

> >

> > Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

> >

> > Thanks!

> >

> >

> >

> > ------------------------------------

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Oh man I hate that one, see people doing this in super markets, etc. " If

you don't get over here I am leaving you. " To me this seems like the

worst abuse you can give a child and I have never ever used it. With me

instead I have always assured them I would NEVER leave them, never, not

for any reason would I leave them. My son Marty they wanted me to send

him away to an institution and I refused, to me it is the worst thing

you can do to a child, to threaten abandonment if they are not good.

Because who of us are good all the time.

Nobody!

Just differences in how to raise children I guess, but this is one

thing I have never ever done. Guess I didn't like it done to me. My mom

to this day is very rejecting of me and it is a hurtful thing.

Carolyn ;o(

Jcoopalla wrote:

>

>

> Just know, it does get better, because my 16 year old used to do the

> same thing, and now he gets mad at me if I jaywalk!

>

> When he was very young, like yours, I used a modified harness. It was

> a " fanny pack " where he kept some kind of toy, and on the back was a

> ring which was attached to a bungee type cord. I started using this

> when he ran into a parking lot and almost got hit by a car. Yes, I got

> several nasty looks from people, but I basically said to them...would

> you prefer he run off and get lost or perhaps kidnapped when he runs

> off?? People turn quickly away and mind their own business.

>

> As for what worked for me when he was older and would stray away, I

> would tell him (I'm sure he knew I would never follow through) that I

> am now leaving, so he needed to come with me and stay with me. I would

> then turn and walk toward the door or my car. I think down deep he

> knew that I would never leave him, but just the idea of it was enough

> for him to never stray very far. Now, that he is older I have complete

> trust in him that he will be where he is supposed to be!

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Son runs off

>

>

> My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I

> ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

> goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

>

> Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

>

> Thanks!

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh man I hate that one, see people doing this in super markets, etc. " If

you don't get over here I am leaving you. " To me this seems like the

worst abuse you can give a child and I have never ever used it. With me

instead I have always assured them I would NEVER leave them, never, not

for any reason would I leave them. My son Marty they wanted me to send

him away to an institution and I refused, to me it is the worst thing

you can do to a child, to threaten abandonment if they are not good.

Because who of us are good all the time.

Nobody!

Just differences in how to raise children I guess, but this is one

thing I have never ever done. Guess I didn't like it done to me. My mom

to this day is very rejecting of me and it is a hurtful thing.

Carolyn ;o(

Jcoopalla wrote:

>

>

> Just know, it does get better, because my 16 year old used to do the

> same thing, and now he gets mad at me if I jaywalk!

>

> When he was very young, like yours, I used a modified harness. It was

> a " fanny pack " where he kept some kind of toy, and on the back was a

> ring which was attached to a bungee type cord. I started using this

> when he ran into a parking lot and almost got hit by a car. Yes, I got

> several nasty looks from people, but I basically said to them...would

> you prefer he run off and get lost or perhaps kidnapped when he runs

> off?? People turn quickly away and mind their own business.

>

> As for what worked for me when he was older and would stray away, I

> would tell him (I'm sure he knew I would never follow through) that I

> am now leaving, so he needed to come with me and stay with me. I would

> then turn and walk toward the door or my car. I think down deep he

> knew that I would never leave him, but just the idea of it was enough

> for him to never stray very far. Now, that he is older I have complete

> trust in him that he will be where he is supposed to be!

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Son runs off

>

>

> My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I

> ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

> goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

>

> Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

>

> Thanks!

>

>

[Guest guest]

Please don't let one person and their comments or judgments make you leave the site. I know we hear many judgments and ridicules, however, I find a lot of the information shared to be inspiring and helpful......

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of JcoopallaSent: Tuesday, June 14, 2011 1:18 PMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: Son runs off

oh but it's okay with you to inflict physical abuse on a child??? You, my dear woman are who is driving many people off of this site, even though it might be helpful. I am about one more time away from removing myself from this list and I feel that I have helped a lot of people on here. Advice, not judgements are what is expected from this site and the fact that it keeps happening, is not in the best interest of our loved ones that we are trying to help. Get with the program!!!!!!! uggghhhhhh

Son runs off> > >> > >> > > My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I> > > ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he> > > goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).> > >> > > Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?> > >> > > Thanks!> > >> > >> >> >>>

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From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of JcoopallaSent: Tuesday, June 14, 2011 1:18 PMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: Son runs off

oh but it's okay with you to inflict physical abuse on a child??? You, my dear woman are who is driving many people off of this site, even though it might be helpful. I am about one more time away from removing myself from this list and I feel that I have helped a lot of people on here. Advice, not judgements are what is expected from this site and the fact that it keeps happening, is not in the best interest of our loved ones that we are trying to help. Get with the program!!!!!!! uggghhhhhh

Son runs off> > >> > >> > > My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I> > > ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he> > > goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).> > >> > > Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?> > >> > > Thanks!> > >> > >> >> >>>

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oh but it's okay with you to inflict

physical abuse on a child??? You, my dear woman are who is

driving many people off of this site, even though it might be

helpful. I am about one more time away from removing myself

from this list and I feel that I have helped a lot of people

on here. Advice, not judgements are what is expected from this

site and the fact that it keeps happening, is not in the best

interest of our loved ones that we are trying to help. Get

with the program!!!!!!!  uggghhhhhh

Jcoop, that's harsh don't you think?  I know for a fact that what we

do is perfectly legal, and also know from experience that not only

does it work, but you get good teenagers and good adults from it. 

Is it hard?  Absolutely!  No one likes to inflict pain, but I love

my kids and know that if I don't discipline them, they will

eventually pay the ultimate price from my neglect and abuse.

I had a psychologist once tell me, "How can you reason with a child

when their ability to reason hasn't developed yet?"  The answer?  A

swat on the backside until that reasoning ability DOES develop.

BTW, that is MY advice, not my judgment.  Write if you find work.

[Guest guest]

I am rather amazed that those who tout themselves to be so full of such

amazing such love and kindness and acceptance for aaaaall people, show

themselves to be the most intolerant of others!

I have been noticing this contradiction for quite some time and in a lot

of places too.

Anybody else see the contradiction there?

I mean it is not against the law yet in America to BE a Christian is it?

Carolyn

lin, Jasmine wrote:

>

> Please don't let one person and their comments or judgments make you

> leave the site. I know we hear many judgments and ridicules, however,

> I find a lot of the information shared to be inspiring and helpful......

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* autism-aspergers

> [mailto:autism-aspergers ] *On Behalf Of *Jcoopalla

> *Sent:* Tuesday, June 14, 2011 1:18 PM

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> *Subject:* Re: Son runs off

>

> oh but it's okay with you to inflict physical abuse on a child??? You,

> my dear woman are who is driving many people off of this site, even

> though it might be helpful. I am about one more time away from

> removing myself from this list and I feel that I have helped a lot of

> people on here. Advice, not judgements are what is expected from this

> site and the fact that it keeps happening, is not in the best interest

> of our loved ones that we are trying to help. Get with the

> program!!!!!!! uggghhhhhh

>

>

>

> Son runs off

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go

> places. I

> > > > ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

> > > > goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

> > > >

> > > > Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

> > > >

> > > > Thanks!

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

>

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[Guest guest]

I am rather amazed that those who tout themselves to be so full of such

amazing such love and kindness and acceptance for aaaaall people, show

themselves to be the most intolerant of others!

I have been noticing this contradiction for quite some time and in a lot

of places too.

Anybody else see the contradiction there?

I mean it is not against the law yet in America to BE a Christian is it?

Carolyn

lin, Jasmine wrote:

>

> Please don't let one person and their comments or judgments make you

> leave the site. I know we hear many judgments and ridicules, however,

> I find a lot of the information shared to be inspiring and helpful......

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* autism-aspergers

> [mailto:autism-aspergers ] *On Behalf Of *Jcoopalla

> *Sent:* Tuesday, June 14, 2011 1:18 PM

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> *Subject:* Re: Son runs off

>

> oh but it's okay with you to inflict physical abuse on a child??? You,

> my dear woman are who is driving many people off of this site, even

> though it might be helpful. I am about one more time away from

> removing myself from this list and I feel that I have helped a lot of

> people on here. Advice, not judgements are what is expected from this

> site and the fact that it keeps happening, is not in the best interest

> of our loved ones that we are trying to help. Get with the

> program!!!!!!! uggghhhhhh

>

>

>

> Son runs off

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go

> places. I

> > > > ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

> > > > goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

> > > >

> > > > Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

> > > >

> > > > Thanks!

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

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[Guest guest]

Jasmine,

Did you know that now I am a bully!! Considering that I am not only a mom of a child on the spectrum, but a special education teacher who advocates for our children every single day, I really find that offensive.

Jodie

Son runs off

> > >

> > >

> > > My 3.5 year old with PDD-NOS/Asperger's runs off when we go places. I

> > > ask him to come back, he doesn't seem to care; I run after him, he

> > > goes farther (I think he thinks it's a game).

> > >

> > > Any suggestions on how to keep him from doing this?

> > >

> > > Thanks!

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

>

>

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